It is said that I have always had three magic weapons, one is kindness, the other is frugality, and the third is not competing with the world for profit first.
Only by keeping a soft heart can I go all out;
Keep frugal, and you can walk in the vast world;
Do not compete with the world for profit first, you can become the leader of the group.
If a person abandons kindness and bravado, thrift and expansion, humility and striving for the first place, then he dies.
People who are often pregnant with these three things will not be too bad in life.
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Really good parents are always kind.
Kindness, kindness and generosity. With kindness, you will be tolerant, there will be no separation, and everyone can love equally. Treat all people and things with a compassionate heart.
A compassionate person can always be generous to others. Not only create a harmonious environment for others, but also accumulate happiness for yourself and your family.
In Nobel Prize in Literature's acceptance speech, Mo Yan was very grateful to his mother:
When I was a child, I went to the collective wheat field with my mother to pick up wheat ears. Mother was slapped by the man guarding the wheat field. Many years later, when he met the man who guarded the wheat fields in those years-a white-haired old man at that time-at the market and wanted him to rush to avenge his mother, her mother stopped him and said that this man was not the one who beat himself in those years.
At that time, their family's life was so difficult that they couldn't eat jiaozi once a year. Once, it was rare for the whole family to eat jiaozi once, and each person only had half a bowl. When faced with an old man begging at home, his mother gave jiaozi in the bowl to the old man begging.
His mother can't read, but she respects readers and tries her best to create reading opportunities for him. She never blamed him for listening to books and reading, even selling wedding jewelry and buying a set of A Brief History of China for her son.
Later, after reading this set of books, Mo Yan walked out of the village, into the military camp, out of China, into the world and won Nobel Prize in Literature.
Laozi said, "Kindness makes you brave." I can be brave because of kindness. With kindness, you will show great courage when you see any danger.
It is such a simple and kind mother who silently educated, influenced and achieved her son with her own actions.
Mo Yan's success today is inseparable from his mother's education.
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People who really have a high quality of life,
Always keep a simple lifestyle.
Be kind to others and treat everything frugally.
Thrift is thrift. About frugality, people always think it is saving materials and being stingy. In fact, frugality is the same as "Jane" and "reduction". It is not only a simple life, but also a kind of life wisdom.
A few days ago, a friend said that at the beginning of 20 19, he deleted many WeChat "friends" and quit many WeChat groups, which made him feel very happy. I can't help but admire that it is a reflection of one's wisdom to dare to do subtraction in life.
Because a person's time and energy are limited, we spend too much energy on some useless things, then our effective disposable time will be reduced.
In the contemporary era of consumption, everyone is trapped by the excess of material and the flood of information, and involuntarily loses himself:
Many people are "low-headed". They don't leave their mobile phones all the time. As soon as they opened their eyes, they brushed WeChat on the Internet. Unconsciously, I wasted a lot of time
Many people are "shopaholics" and "hand-folded parties". Buy buy it every day, but the express delivery keeps going. The balance of bank cards is decreasing, and there are more and more useless sundries at home, which finally makes life miserable.
Many people are "social butterfly", and parties of various groups and names emerge one after another. They earn a lot of money every day, feast and sing, either because of stomach bleeding or gaining weight, which delays time and damages their health.
So, we should learn to do subtraction.
Cai Zhizhong said that every piece of wood is a Buddha, except for the redundant parts.
Life should be simple and exquisite. "Five colors are blind, five tones are deaf, five flavors are cool, and they are crazy." Therefore, we should learn from the wisdom of saints and learn to choose, "for the stomach, not for the eyes." Jump out of the fanatical pursuit of material things and finally be at ease.
A good cook, cooking with less seasoning and keeping the food authentic, is the most beautiful taste. The life of a truly wise person is to reduce dependence on foreign things and find the original heart. This is the truest happiness.
"In order to learn, it is a daily struggle." When we learn to subtract from life, it is easier to find happiness.
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The person with the highest realm is often humble and retreating.
There is no doubt that "I dare not be the first in the world".
For thousands of years, people have been criticizing Laozi's indisputable views and saying that he is not enterprising. Actually, I misunderstood Lao Tzu.
"The husband does not dispute, and the world cannot compete with it." Laozi's struggle is a great struggle in an invincible position, and it is a great wisdom to treat people and things.
In life, people struggle for the length of time and the gains and losses of immediate interests, which are all minor disputes.
"You won't last long, no matter how tricky you are." A person likes sharpness so much that he puts himself in danger. Therefore, when something happens, you should know how to collect Tibet moderately. There is no need to become strong and continue to save strength in order to win the final victory.
Guo Ziyi, a war general in the Tang Dynasty, put down An Lushan, Shi Siming and other rebellions and made great contributions to maintaining peace in the Tang Dynasty. But Guo Ziyi never claimed responsibility.
The imperial court was bewitched by traitors. After winning the battle, it asked him to surrender the military power several times, and had to ask him to go out again several times when necessary. He does not dispute that if he leads the troops to fight, he will lead the troops to fight again, and if he pays the relieving, he will pay the relieving. He said there was no rebellion, and it was useless for me to lead troops. I might as well go home and rest.
Once he was fighting in the front, someone in the rear reported him to the court, saying that he was going to rebel. The court was too kind to bring him back. He will come back immediately, and come to see the emperor overnight without taking a shower or shaving. How could the emperor rebel when he saw such a loyal man?
On another occasion, he led troops to fight outside, and the emperor dug his ancestral grave because of the advice of traitors. Later, the emperor also felt wrong and apologized. Guo Ziyi, on the other hand, has no complaints except sadness. It is god's retribution that the gentry inevitably digs other people's ancestral graves when they say that they are leading troops to fight outside. He didn't pursue it, he didn't hold a grudge, and he didn't hold a grudge against the rumor maker. After all, he has accumulated good news for his family.
He lived to the age of 85 and was a great minister, rich in the world and full of children and grandchildren. Many of his descendants are senior officials of the imperial court. It can be said that Fu Lushou is complete and can finally "die well".
This is precisely "the husband is indisputable, so there is no blame." Many people always can't stand the slightest injustice and like to argue for a while. There are many people who are not calm and angry with officials and put themselves in an invincible position. We should learn from the indisputable wisdom of saints.
I heard that "the rich give people money, while the righteous give people words". I am neither rich nor expensive, and I have no money to give; Send your good friend by the words of a saint. I hope you will always be kind, frugal, modest, happy and healthy!