I went to jail at seventeen, got out at eighteen, and haven't set foot in a detention center since.
To be honest, it's not entirely because the prison has reformed me, but because I know what it means to be ashamed of myself.
To put it mildly, the crime I committed at the time was not too serious, and if I were to put my case into the present, I think I would have been educated and fined a bit, but I was too unlucky to be caught up in that year's "Strike Hard" campaign, and once I got in, I couldn't get out again.
In August 1987, when I was 17 years old and still in high school, as a school student, I did not study hard, but I got acquainted with a few young people in the community, and unknowingly got into some bad habits, and eventually broke the law and was sentenced to 1 year and 6 months in prison.
In the detention center stayed up for half a year, because the hunger was unbearable, so the verdict came down and did not appeal, waiting to be sent to the juvenile detention center to eat a few days full of food.
Later, I was sent to the admission team, not sent to the juvenile detention center, at that time, I was one month short of eighteen years old.
After more than two months of training in the prison team, I was sent to a brick factory to serve a sentence of reform.
Because I was young and had a short sentence, the correctional officers and the inmates took good care of me, and they let me do odd jobs and some simple work.
Once, I was a bit stubborn with a big group leader among the inmates because of labor, and I was scared by a few electric batons in the office.
In prison for nearly a year, that was the only time I was punished, and when I say punished, it was actually a scare, just an electric shock.
Rarely went in, ignorant out, out of what is called life is not easy.
I can't go back to school, there were fewer companies at that time, and there was no other choice but to go to the construction site and move bricks.
My family's condition is not very good, my parents are farmers, although they are farmers, but they do not have a lot of land, if you rely on farming, you will not even have enough to eat.
When I came out, I was almost 19 years old, and I was already an old man, sitting at home and chewing on the old man is certainly not, and there is no chewing.
After staying at home for more than half a month, I couldn't stay, and then I went to a brick factory to find a kiln job.
In the brick factory, the kiln is the most tired and dirty work, but also the highest wages, but less than two months, because of the cold days of the brick factory shut down, so I was unemployed.
During that time, my friends and relatives asked me a lot of questions and asked me a lot of warmth, and I didn't have a hand to pull out, although I'm not old enough, but I understand that they are just looking at me.
I have a cousin is a contractor, do plumbing and heating installation project, then in our county is a relatively large boss.
After the spring, I went to him, told him that he wanted to do a few years in his site, he quickly agreed, told me to go to work the next day.
With a new job, I'm happy, determined to learn some of the crafts in his construction site, with the craft, the future life will not be a problem.
In his construction site is more than three years, during the period did not give me a wage, to others to pay wages every time I did not have my share. I need money when I have to "borrow" with him, ask for wages, he always said, are their own family, follow me will not suffer, you marry a daughter-in-law together to give you ......
Now, not to mention that I marry a daughter-in-law, my son is about to marry a daughter-in-law, I have a few years of wages still in the claw. My salary for those years is still in Java.
He was used for three years for nothing.
During the time of the construction site, the friends that I used to know, I have cut them off, and sometimes when I met them on the road, I would say hello at most, and then I would not be entangled.
They looked for me a few times, want to use me to sit in jail identity with them to collect protection money, open the "hair salon", to be honest, looking at them all day to eat and drink hot, live the days of unlimited scenery, I have been moved, but moved to move, I did not put into action, after thinking about it, I feel that continue to mix with the community will not end up with a good end. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money.
Now think about it, when my choice is right, those people, to later die of death, jailed in jail, down and out, in addition to the individual in a timely manner outside of the cliff, each did not fall into a good end.
After three years of working for my cousin, I couldn't see a future for myself and left his site.
After that, I pulled a rickshaw and sold vegetables, pedaled a three-wheeled fried melon seeds, drove a walking tractor and sold coal.
Later, the tractor was replaced by a Dongfeng truck, which was replaced by a Cummins, which was replaced by a semi-trailer.
Now, I have my own dirt fleet, although the scale is very small, only large and small ten cars, but the sparrow is small, it is a fleet of vehicles, and my drivers, mostly young people like me who have taken a detour, because they have planted a heel on the road of life, so more than the average young people know how to cherish, but also more righteousness.
Because of a careless friendship, I painted a stain on my life that can not be erased, and therefore buried their own future, although only sat in prison for a year and a half, but it is a shame, know shame, and dare to correct, which is the best attitude towards life, so I have been in my life to "know shame is close to courage! Therefore, I have always taken the phrase "knowing shame is better than courage" as my motto in my life.
Above all, it is a netizen's confession.
He sent me a private message saying that he had read a lot of my articles on the subject of prisons and wanted to tell me about his experience.
After receiving the private message, I suggested that he send me a concise text of his experience, and I would organize it and post it online.
He agreed and also quickly wrote his story.
I think he is an inspirational person, and not because of a misstep and give up, although the knowledge to change the fate of the road is broken, but he chose to rely on this road, all the way, although it is very hard, but walk the solid, walk the heart, from the beginning of the nothing, all the way up to the fleet of their own.
Once those who looked down on him, may have turned into admiration.
As he said, "Shame is like courage", knowing shame and trying to change it is a virtue to be admired and praised.
The people who have been in jail are not necessarily all bad people, and the people who have not been in jail are not necessarily all good people. People are not afraid of making mistakes, afraid of making mistakes do not know wake up, I believe that most of the people who have been in prison is just a momentary lost, when they wake up, they will love life as much as we do, they need to be tolerant, need to be guided, as long as there is a stable job, there is a steady income, the vast majority of them are still able to clean up their lives, and to do it again.
Once I went out for a drink, I met a man at the table who was said to have been in jail for a year, and I listened to him tell his story, which was quite funny.
In fact, he is just a very ordinary person, looks stumpy, smiles harmless appearance.
Later, after a few glasses of wine, he talked about his experience in prison.
He was a driver back then. In fact, not to say that year, in fact, we drink when he is still a driver. He was in a large wholesale meat market, delivering to his boss.
That kind of large wholesale meat market is based on the kind of tens of thousands of tons of large-scale cold storage, there are a lot of private bosses in the cold storage around the storefront, with the help of the cold storage of the freezing capacity, will be a large number of into a variety of meat, and then wholesale meat out.
And these bosses are particularly broad connections, they have to the surrounding cities, and even to the neighboring provinces, the ability to mobilize a large number of meat, a transfer is a truck of more than a dozen tons of the kind. And these things bosses can't run on their own, so a boss has some refrigerated trucks under the truck drivers to help them deliver.
The man at the table is such a refrigerated truck driver.
As he is always in the meat market, he has really seen all kinds of meat, so it is a set of things to say about meat. What pigs, horses, cows, sheep, chickens, ducks and geese, that are common, all kinds of whips in his eyes are not worth mentioning. Anyway, its core is to specialize in eating things that others have not eaten.
Their delivery process is also relatively simple. After the boss contacted the customer, they drove to, the boss loaded the goods on the car, they drove to the customer, and then on the spot delivery clear on the line. Because the boss's customers are relatively up relatively fixed, so their drivers in most cases are familiar with the road, to the place and even those customers are recognized, to deal with things are also very experienced. People who have sold vegetables know that the sale of vegetables ah, into the goods ah, the first to pay attention to a fresh. The second thing is that since the vegetables have to be delivered to the market early in the morning, the work of transporting vegetables is often carried out at night. He has been doing this for many years, and it's a lot of hard earned money.
In fact, this kind of peaceful day is not much to talk about, but there was a problem. He sent meat to Lin Province under the arrangement of the boss. In the middle of the process of transporting meat was stopped for inspection, and then after inspection, said that the several tons of pork in his car is problematic pork. It is a trafficking in the production and transportation of counterfeit and substandard products, which affects food safety. So he was arrested. Because he is the transportation link.
Caught him when said clearly, said: we know you are a delivery, as long as we caught your boss ah, there is nothing you do. And then people when the boss of the news is also well-informed, heard the wind, a smoke can not find people. Now this driver can be miserable, in the detention center was locked up for a whole year. A daily feast, eat all kinds of meat, grow fat body of a young man, in the detention center under the nourishment of water drift, quickly recovered a healthy body.
He said at the time also pulled the waistband of his pants, and then vigorously put the stomach inward, said: you see then I was thin into this look.
In fact, the people who are locked up with him, listening to his things, the first also know that he is no big deal, and the second also think that he is an honest person, and not much to bully him. Including the police who arraigned him, also expressed disinterest in this person, a glance to see the results of the matter, are not worth repeated interrogation. It is estimated that his family is not a very rich family, otherwise he would not have come out to earn this hard money, coupled with the neighboring province was caught, but also not in his hometown, so to see him not many people.
And him? This is how he was hung out to dry. Every day is to eat no oil and water, simmering, and then just a mind to look forward to, when he can catch his boss.
After about 10 months of formal arrests, the news came that the boss had been caught, and the culprits had been arrested. After about another month of interrogation and getting the facts straight, the errand boy like him was quickly released.
After coming out he is not only continue to drive, there is no other what specialties, this clean up, re-do how to say? I should say, in addition to praying for their own bosses reliable a little bit, other than he did not change anything.
David's imprisonment is due to his unfortunate family, even his father.
David's father was the second red brick in our village, now called the village bully.
Our village is not far from the farmer's market, so he also has a nickname of village bully.
He is so happy that his family is the biggest family in the village, and no one dares to mess with him.
We can see what he has done.
1, see who is not in his eyes, he beat around the bush and scolded people.
People ask him back, he is rude and unreasonable, scold you how, but also beat you.
Deterred by his power, people are not afraid to speak out.
2, the common did not work, the family's agricultural work is the wife of a person to do, hospitality is not good for him, it is punching and kicking, his wife a few times want to leave with the divorce, but do not want to give up the four children.
3, all day drunk on the street, see who sells good food, take it by hand, people want money.
His eyes glared, this is my doorstep, take your, is to look up to you, in my doorstep stalls, and then say more, do not come back to sell things in the future.
......
The upper beam is not straight and the lower beam is crooked, because of his virtue, the son grew up without a father's love, and the mother can not take care of it.
David did not finish elementary school and dropped out, followed by some of the street gangsters mixed together, dabbled in the vice of petty theft.
Because it is a child, we know or found, criticized a few words, two slaps, and consider his father's person, it is not.
From the thief needle, grow up to steal gold.
After coming out, David found that everything in life has changed.
The original and their own a piece of play partners one by one away from him. When the village people see him, they all avoid him. Just as he left, he heard someone behind him muttering about himself.
He realized that he was a different kind of person, a person with a stain on his body.
For this reason, David had worked in the construction team, as a stevedore, peddling greens and collecting scrap.
He did the dirtiest, the most exhausting, the most unwanted work.
Slowly he used the positive action, changed the surrounding people's view of him.
People found that David's mouth is sweet, hardworking, and willing to help people.
The prodigal son returns to the gold. At the age of 26, he harvested love. He married a girl from his village.
Now, they are in the street door head doing fruit business, the wife main outside, the husband main inside, there is a son and a daughter, a small life sweet life.
Summarize: David's story gives us the inspiration, people's lives can not be smooth sailing, due to this or that reason, there is a stain on the body, sat in jail, squatted in jail. But in the face of the stains, to face up to themselves, change their ways, clean up their act, and redo their lives, as always, playing a good game of cards.
There are. Two extremes.
A friend sat in jail for 2 years, because of the righteousness of the fight in. He was honest and willing to work hard. After coming out with the help of his friends and his own hard work, he is now a big boss. Chatting, he often take the red dot on the forehead (the prison station commemorates) and we teach by example, persuade us to be sure to comply with the law, the prison is really not a place for people to go.
There is another one is about 2003, I can not remember, that year the crackdown. He hit the supervisor at the site, sentenced to a ceiling, closed for several years, listening to other people say, a good spirit of a young man, out of the people as if old dozens of years, people also waste waist can not straighten up, in addition to drinking is to sleep. I heard that the prison was hit by internal injuries, hey.
In short, don't be a criminal. Prison is definitely a purgatory, a purgatory of a small society, the legend (just a legend) rape people go in very bad, and did not violate the public order and morals to go in or will be a small care.
moncler outlet store The cousin of the family is now about 40 years old, has an air conditioning repair company, dozens of employees, easy income of hundreds of thousands of dollars a year. There is also a daughter-in-law, a son and a daughter, there are two houses in the city, a car, can be described as a successful career, family happiness and fulfillment. Familiar with the cousin of people know, he originally sat in jail for six years, after the release of the prison to clean up, re-do people to have all of this.
Cousin's youthful exuberance and friends drink, can not stand the friends of the uproar, a few people together to rape and rob a passer-by woman, was the woman alarm, arrested into the police station, and later sentenced by the court to eight years of imprisonment, into the prison serving a sentence.
Cousin from a young age do not love to study, like to sleep in class, like to fight after class, and then junior high school, because the organization of the same school students and other school students fight group fights, so that a number of people were injured, causing a serious impact, was expelled from school.
After not going to school, his parents let his cousin go to learn some skills, so that he can point to this technology to make a living, but he was not willing to go, he and a few gangsters every day in the county streets blindly, parents said many times, but he simply did not listen.
Then one day cousin and a few friends of these bastards after drinking, more than ten o'clock at night, there are not a few people on the road, they are on the street blindly, see a single woman passing, one of them said that this woman is single, let's rob a little money, robbed after the discovery of this woman is very beautiful, and then moved the bad idea, so a few people took turns to the woman to be raped.
As a result of a few young people, the age is relatively small, no legal awareness, after the incident is gone, but the woman called the police, not two hours, the police came to the few young people all caught. Sent into the police station, and later after the court trial, cousin was sentenced to eight years.
After the cousin was released from prison, there was a big change, and he felt that the whole person had matured.
Cousin was originally very lively to see who can chat a few words, and have the kind of young people's frivolous, self-esteem is very high. He has a cold attitude towards everyone. But after the cousin was released from prison, the feeling is very obvious is more cherish the freedom and love of relatives.
First, the reason may have been in jail, lost freedom, after the release of the freedom will be more cherished, more understand the preciousness of freedom.
Cousin often say after getting out of prison is the outside world is really good, the prison their own space for action is restricted, every day life is very boring and depressing, after the prison, it is very eager to go out, but want to get out of prison as soon as possible can only be a good performance.
So cousin labor in prison will work hard to work more to show their own, because of good performance, cousin eight years in prison, received a sentence reduction (2 years), and finally served six years on release.
In prison, miss the free life in the outside world. After his release, the free life in the outside world made Cousin never want to go back to prison. Therefore, Cousin cherished his freedom very much after he was released from prison.
Second, he cherished the love of his family and friends more.
Family and friendship are important feelings in the world, but in prison, it is very difficult for the prisoner to see his relatives and friends, and he will be sympathized by many friends and his relatives will shed tears for him when he is punished by the law for his heinous mistake. They hope that one day the prisoner will be rehabilitated. In prison, he thinks of his mother's teachings in the past, and his friends' advice, and repents, realizing even more the importance of his friends and relatives and their care for him. Therefore, after his release from prison, he will cherish his relatives and friends even more.
Before he was in prison, his cousin basically did not talk to his parents much, and especially he would not listen to what his parents said, but after he was released from prison, no matter what his parents said, even if it was not the right thing to do, his cousin would listen to what his parents said.
After his release from prison, his cousin used to worry that he would not be able to keep up with the society and be eliminated by the society, and he was struck by the fact that a lot of people he used to look down on are now doing very well, and he has nothing to show for it.Cousin just came out after a long time do not know what to do? I think the six years in prison, outside the society has undergone radical changes, this time I have been accustomed to the life of the prison, every day is a step by step, careful and cautious labor reform life.
But after the release of the prison, on the social, a time will not be too adaptable, do not know what to do. The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of what is happening in the world.
What can I do to survive? The first thing you need to do is sit in your room and think about what you want to do. Sometimes I hear my parents talk about whoever is in the next village, who was not good at school, but is now rich in business, and not only bought a house in the city, but also married a daughter-in-law in the city, and now has two children.
Later, the cousin did not want to hear such news, it seems that these news stimulate their own, hear these news will only make themselves feel more helpless, because other people seem to have everything, and they still have nothing, just a poor man.
The second uncle talked to his cousin and decided to help him get out of this predicament as soon as possible, and decided to help him get married and start a family.Although the second uncle did not study, but in the village as a branch secretary, and also contracted the county brick kiln factory, the family's financial conditions are very good, moncler outlet store found the second uncle, let the second uncle to persuade the cousin, the second uncle found a special time, and the cousin to talk.
It was decided that in order to get the cousin out of this state as soon as possible, to give the cousin a daughter-in-law, so that in the future to take up their own small family. The second uncle entrusted a lot of people, and finally gave cousin said a second marriage daughter-in-law, helped pay the bride price, for the wedding, my father paid a little money, to buy a set of village houses, so that cousin has a house in the village, have a daughter-in-law.
After the marriage, there is a daughter-in-law and brought children, every day need to eat, cousin needs to make money to support the family. Cousin then began to make changes, first of all, a change in mindset.
To calm his mind and accept everything that happened. The first step is to accept the fact that the minions, who were once despised by the eyes of the people, have cars, houses and food, and they have just come out of prison with nothing, and they start to feel more or less unbalanced in their hearts.
But later thought of open also accepted, after all, they have committed a crime, should be punished by the law, the price of being behind bars is so painful, destroyed everything that once had.
Put your mind at ease and decide to start everything from scratch. Learned to accept everything, cousin said no matter what happened before, now everything from the beginning, every day to give yourself some confidence, look at yourself.
Begin to go into the society, learn new things, so that they can be integrated into the society as soon as possible. Cousin figured out, and decided to get out of the house, to find a job, to see what they can find some work to do, to earn some money, but a lot of employers heard that cousin just out of prison, said they do not recruit people who have been in prison, some units even if they do not care about cousin has been in prison, but cousin has no skills, but also can not do the work of others.
So, he decided to learn a little bit about the technology he was interested in, so that when he was looking for a job again, he could use it, and not be unable to do a lot of work, so that he would not be eliminated by the society if he had the technology.
Cousin looked for a lot of jobs were rejected, then cousin decided to learn a skill, after learning, they can do it alone, so that they do not have to rely on others to provide jobs for themselves.
Cousin looked for a lot of jobs, some because they can not do, some because the employer does not need to jail people, so cousin decided to learn a skill, so that you can give someone else to do it, but also can do it themselves, so the choice will be bigger.
Later, the second uncle to find a maintenance very powerful master, let the cousin to follow the others to learn maintenance technology, learn about three months, the cousin feel the basic can learn, and then let the second uncle to help find a need for maintenance workers to go to work, and while working, while learning maintenance technology.
In this way, the cousin of the repair technology is getting better and better, and then cousin has not satisfied with the repair of a thing, what air conditioning TV household appliances will be repaired, and then feel that the air conditioning repair is particularly lucrative, the cousin of the repair of their own air conditioning store.
Then later cousin is not satisfied with the repair of air conditioning, so consider taking some large-scale projects, you can be responsible for the installation of air conditioning repair, in order to facilitate the acceptance of the project, cousin set up a company.
Cousin as a person who has been in jail, why can you get out of jail and clean up your life? I summarized, first of all, is to calm the mind, to ensure that the mind to learn new things, so that they slowly integrate into society. Secondly, my family gave my cousin some care and help. In order to help my cousin integrate into society as soon as possible, my second uncle and my father helped my cousin get married. The last is to let the jailed cousin have a skill, can survive in this society, in this way, he will not go back to the old way.
A boyfriend I met online refreshed my knowledge in this regard.
In the online chat: elegant, erudite.
Offline meeting and chatting, I realized that he had been imprisoned twice! And because of violent crimes, not economic cases or color books kind. But he was doing education and training at the time, and doing quite well! （
It's hard to imagine that he's a tough guy who's been in jail twice for fighting, and now he's teaching kids how to learn, which really refreshes my perception!
But this is a really good guy, much better than most boys.
The first thing I've noticed is that I'm a very good teacher, and that's why I'm so proud of my work.
I am, I went in twice before the age of eighteen, really cleaned up, redoing the man, in order to a woman to change their own, we all know that people have done jail in the community is very difficult to find a job, I was in 2012 began to sell hard labor to carry the marble to do the seven years, and now open a wonton store, feel quite full, the only regret is that the children can not be a civil servant, ah! The only regret is that the children can not do the civil service.
I was sentenced to two years in prison for intentional assault,
In 2010, when we would be 18 years old, I was ready to go to college, and he was out mixing with the community.
Then he was not afraid of the sky, not afraid of the ground, who also do not put in the eyes, for the law also has no fear of the heart.
On the fifth day of the first month of 2013, he came to my house to look for me, the northern winter is very cold, the west wind is cold. We sat on the stone pier in front of my house and talked for a long time, and he told me that he was going to go to the police tomorrow, and he might have to go in and live for a while.
Since he started as a gangster, it was the first time I saw him so low-key and steady. He told me the story of how he hurt himself and how his fellow socialites used him as a knife. He said: he did wrong, fox friends can not be relied on, he has to go in to reform.
In 2015, he was released from prison, the first night of the first night he came to my home to stay a night, and he communicated with him he was a little slow to react, a moment of no way to adapt quickly, play computer will not type.
Later, a lot of people in the village are running a big car, he also followed, because running a big car income will be higher, although running a big car on the way to the occasional conflict with others, but for the law for the behavior of the punishment, he no longer dare to cross the line.
ps: now my salary of more than 4000 +, he is flexible in the world, has been a car owner, income has been 2W [smile] [smile]
I did not because of mistakes served a sentence squatting in prison, but we have been in the city of the prison went in because of my contracted pipeline project there is a section of the prison precincts to go through.
It was ten years ago, I contracted a section of pipeline project, underground excavation and river dredging plus pipeline laying three-dimensional construction. There is a section just to pass through the prison labor farm, with the local government documents and construction contract drawings letter of introduction and all the procedures to the labor farm to find the leadership of the negotiation construction program, accompanied by local government officials. As the construction side of the project manager, after the past exhaustive introduction to the overall situation of the project and pass through their jurisdiction of the paragraph status, including construction machinery construction materials staffing engineering equipment and what all provide a detailed list of forms. At that time only in the prison's outer office area to talk about, did not enter the internal supervision area also did not realize how the prison is a state. We really waited until the official construction of engineering machinery and equipment to be transported into the time to really appreciate the loss of freedom! All the engineering machinery hot staff all detailed level, first to a welding rod are to be clearly registered in the register, the personnel is required in the account of the local jurisdiction of the public security department issued a certificate of no criminal record can be. Construction can reduce mechanical access to minimize, there is a large number of free experience of labor to help construction, diameter of one meter wall thickness of 12 mm length of nine meters of pipeline with a digging machine hanging up all the effort, hard to come out of more than fifty people pushed to a good ditch dug! Shoulder to shoulder people lifting the mouth of a good our workers before going up to the positioning welding. Thought so many people help after each person to send a cigarette to thank you, right? But no one dared to take, almost in unison, said the government does not allow! [face]
Construction is completed out of all the registered tools must be all in the right place, even a welding rod head are not spared. Vehicles going out are underneath the car have to be checked to prevent people from escaping out.
Don't break the law, don't wait to go to jail before you know the precious freedom! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty!
I've been in contact with one of them before, and I think he should go back in for a refresher course. The reason for this is that it is not a good idea to have a good time with the people you are working with! The hostility of the body has not changed!