Huang Bo talks about sending his parents to a nursing home and expresses the helplessness of reality.
When it comes to Huang Bo, everyone is sure to associate him with ? good acting? linking him to ?
In the movie "Dear" directed by Chen Kexin, Huang Bo plays the role of a father who lost his child and finally succeeded in finding him after several twists and turns. In this movie, Huang Bo contributed a classic performance to the audience. The movie star, who has interpreted affection to the bone, has recently been criticized for a remark that "I've been thinking about putting my father in a nursing home. I've thought about sending my father to a nursing home? , was blasted by netizens for being unfilial. Unforgettable Restaurant is a documentary public service program focusing on cognitive disabilities.
In the latest installment of the program, Huang Bo, who plays the store manager, revealed an incident in which he was filming a movie when he received a call from a friend who said he saw his father on the street, and the anxious Huang Bo rushed to call his family. After the call, his mother said that his father was lost again and was looking for him.
Huang Bo's father suffers from Alzheimer's disease, which is commonly known as dementia. Huang Bo also once thought of arranging an aunt to take care of his father's life. But the old man has emotions in his heart, the aunt can not be arranged. Huang Bo himself is always busy shooting, really can not spare the energy, want to put off work back to Qingdao to accompany his father, the work contract does not allow. Desperate Huang Bo even considered sending his father to a nursing home, but as a public figure, he was worried that his actions would cause adverse effects, and was scolded by the audience for being ungrateful. Huang Bo confessed that he was under great social and moral pressure.
So the question is, is it really ungrateful to send your parents to a nursing home? The discussion on this topic has divided netizens.
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Some people think it is possible to send parents to nursing homes.
First of all, China has the largest aging population in the world, according to population data released by the National Bureau of Statistics: as of the end of 2018, China's population aged 60 years and above was 249.49 million, accounting for 17.9% of the total population; the population aged 65 years and above was 166.58 million, accounting for 11.9% of the total population. Surviving in such social conditions of young adults, the old and the young, but also busy with the livelihood of running around, the pressure of life on the shoulders can be imagined.
Objective conditions lead to the contemporary young adults to raise the elderly energy is really limited, the elderly parents into the nursing home, on the one hand, can reduce their own life pressure, on the other hand, can also let their parents get good care.
Nowadays, the convalescence conditions in many nursing homes are very good, with the dietary level in place, and the medical equipment and recreational facilities are perfect. The elderly living here, can get the caregiver careful and thoughtful care, physical discomfort can also be the first time to be found, get timely medical treatment, so that the children also feel at ease. In addition, there are many people of the same age in the nursing home, the elderly can get together to chat, read the newspaper, play games, have their own social circle.
Children visit their parents in nursing homes in their spare time, and then bring them home for reunions on important holidays, just like going to a? boarding system? school, and there's nothing wrong with that.
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Some people think that sending their parents to a nursing home is ungrateful. In the same society, we all have the same pressure, why can some people have both work and family, while others have to take care of one side of the family and still have to talk about it? Although the living conditions in nursing homes are guaranteed, there are also gray areas that we can not see? There are gray areas.
Chinese people emphasize? And the elderly are emotionally sensitive, who are looking forward to the reunion of children to enjoy the joy of heaven, if sent to the nursing home, will inevitably produce some such as? If they are sent to a nursing home, they will inevitably have some problems such as? If they are sent to a nursing home, they will inevitably have some problems, such as? Give the children trouble? and "I'm not a good person". Abandoned by children? The pessimistic mentality.
Parents have to support their children, and children have to support their parents, and this is a natural human right.
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Some people believe that sending parents to a nursing home does not necessarily mean that they are unfilial. If you can't spend time with them, you can make up for it with money. But the premise of all this is to respect the wishes of the parents. To make clear that they are not abandoning their parents, taking into account the mood of the parents, if the parents agree and willing to send them to the nursing home.