I. Know Thyself
This admonition was written on the doorframe of the Temple of Apollo in ancient Greece, "Know Thyself"
Obermann: To the universe I am insignificant; but to myself it is everything.
Marx: The essence of all truth is that people ultimately know themselves.
Lin Ching-hsien: What one needs when facing the outside world is a window; what one needs when facing the self is a mirror. It is only through the window that one can see the brightness of the world, and it is only by using the mirror that one can see one's own stains. In fact, windows or mirrors are not important, the important thing is your heart, your heart is vast, the study is large, your heart is bright, the world is bright.
The human theme
The painting "Where do we come from?" by Gauguin before his suicide in 1897. Who are we? Where Are We Going? . This theme covers the essence of the philosophy of man.
Pope: Know thyself without God's scrutiny; only man can know man. He who is in this centered position is wise in obscurity and great in coarseness.
John? Locke (the famous British intellectual educator): There are two kinds of bad manners: the first is coyness and shyness; the second is misbehavior and slowness. The only way to avoid both is to observe the following rule well, which is: don't look down on yourself and don't look down on others.
From the "crawler" to do
Digital China President Mr. Guo Wei once spoke at the Huazhong University of Science and Technology, he is not like some business executives, as impassioned to enter the world's top 500 slogans, on the contrary, he said: "and IBM, HP, and other international giants, no matter what the situation is. And IBM, HP and other international giants compared, whether Lenovo or Digital China or, we are still IT inside the 'crawler', need to learn from them and cooperation, Chinese companies should now also start from the ground up."
Student of the high opinion
In the past, there was a monk, and a scholar with a night sailing ship. The scholar was so talkative that the monk was intimidated and went to bed with his fists and feet. The monk listened to his words and said, "May I ask if Tantai Mieming is one person, two people?" The scholar said, "It is two people!" The monk said, "Then is Yao and Shun one person or two?" The scholar said, "Naturally, it is one person!" The monk then laughed and said, "In that case, let's wait for the little monk to stretch his feet."
Training of the soul
The famous American LEG company for the business elite to provide three days of charges of 3000 U.S. dollars "soul training" course. On the first day, a questionnaire is sent to each participant, asking them to seriously think about and answer five questions: 1. If you have come to the end of life, the whole ready to tell your children and grandchildren that you know the three most important things in your life, what are they? 2. In your life, which things can make you feel the greatest joy, satisfaction and regeneration? How can you get more of that thing?3. What are you without your job and without your money?4. Which activity would you like to add to your life in order to gain more wealth and happiness?5. Who is the person you admire the most? Why?
"Master Mao San"
Ying Ruocheng's nickname is Xiao Mao, the third in line, and his nickname is "Master Mao San". Before he went to school, he was lively and cute, but he was also naughty and often did some amazing things. Their family is a big family, a lot of people, every day in the dining room to eat is bustling. One day, before the noon meal began, "Master Mao San" quietly hid in the dining room closet, ready to find him during the meal, and when people were anxious, he suddenly ran out and shouted, "I'm here!" It must have been fun to watch his father, mother, and siblings all startled. It never occurred to him that no one noticed his absence during the meal. It wasn't until after dinner that he came out of the closet in disgrace. From then on, he learned a lesson: one cannot take oneself too seriously.
The Dukelands on a desert island
There was a Norwegian explorer named Williams, who began making trips around the world at the age of twenty. Over the years, he traveled to almost all of the world's famous deserts, jungles and deep canyons.
In 1982, at the end of the South African Rift Valley belt of the expedition, the reporter had asked him what he felt. He said, I always have two major regrets: one is for the world's regret, there are so many magnificent scenery on earth, the world is not allowed to see; the second is for the scenery regret, they are so spectacular and beautiful, but not known to the world.
In 1991, he came to Snells Island in New Zealand, and this trip completely changed his mindset.
Snells is a small island in the south of New Zealand, only 6.7 square kilometers, because it is far away from the mainland of New Zealand, year-round people are rare. Williams set foot on the island and found that there are patches of duchess orchids growing here. This kind of orchid, flower posture, fragrance, in Europe is classified as the top of the group of flowers. Seeing these orchids, he thought, such a rare flower if in Europe has long been taken to decorate the presidential suite, but here they are growing lonely, hundreds or even thousands of years no one knows.
Just as the feeling of regret once again rose from the bottom of his heart, inadvertently, he found a nest of wild bees on a small cliff, they are busy, the pollen and honey on the orchid back to the hive. Williams looked at what was in front of him, and a decade's worth of confusion was instantly solved. He wrote in his travel diary that day: Isn't it enough to have this nest of wild bees in this piece of Duke's orchid? Isn't it worthwhile to have one or two explorers come close enough to witness the world's wondrous scenery?
In a materialistic society, what can we rely on to make a living? How should we face the injustice we may encounter? The Dukes of Hazzard on the desert island will give us many useful insights.
(Liu Yanmin, Liaoning Youth, Issue 18, 2003)
Hearing your own voice
I don't know if you've ever had the experience of recording your own voice with a tape recorder and then playing it back to listen to it, but it's different from hearing your own voice as you usually do.
I used to wonder, but later I realized, that when anyone hears his own voice, it is not entirely through the vibration of the eardrum, but also through the vibration of a bone behind the ear, which reaches the part of the brain that specializes in hearing. In other words, we usually hear our own voices as a mixture of airborne and solid-borne sounds. But what we hear through a recording device is a sound that travels through the air. This is the sound that other people hear, which is the real sound of oneself. It turns out that what we normally hear as our own voice is not the same as what others hear.
How much more than a voice! The image we usually think we have is often at odds with what others feel, too. You think you are wise and powerful, but the subordinates have been unable to tolerate your stupidity; you think you are fair, selfless and upright, but everyone is saying that you are nepotistic; you think you are too beautiful and gorgeous, in fact, it is just not too difficult to look at; you think you are a generation of love saint, in fact, other people are already bored with you.
Through the recording device can let you hear their true voice, through what method, can let you see their true form?
How do you see yourself?
There was a pastor's daughter who was born a cerebral palsy sufferer, covered with abnormal hypertonicity and unable to speak. But, with unbelievable perseverance and the support of her faith, she got a doctorate in art in the United States and showed up everywhere to help others.
On one occasion, she was invited to perform "writing" (she couldn't speak, so she had to use her pen instead of her mouth), and during a question-and-answer session after the meeting, a student asked in a low voice, "You've grown up like this, so how do you see yourself? Have you never resented it?" This thoughtless but poignant question made everyone in the room break into a cold sweat, fearing that it might have pierced her heart y.
Only to see her turn back to the blackboard, she wrote laboriously with chalk, "How do I see myself?" The words were in large letters. She smiled and looked back at the group one more time before turning around and continuing to write:
One, I'm so cute!
Two: I have long, beautiful legs!
three, Mommy and Daddy love me so much!
Four: God loves me so much!
V. I can draw! I can write!
Six: I have a cute cat!
VII. And ......
The classroom was silent, no one dared to speak. She looked back at the group again in silence, then back again, and wrote her conclusion on the board, "I look at what I have, not what I don't have." The crowd was quiet for a few seconds, then all of a sudden, the whole room recalled thunderous applause and countless moving tears ...... That day, many people were inspired by her optimism and hard work.
Who is this optimistic cerebral palsy patient? She, Ms. Mei-Lian Huang, a doctor of fine arts at the University of Southern California in the United States, who has opened many book exhibitions in Taiwan.
"I only look at what I have, not what I don't have." I like this outlook on life, it's healthy and cozy. It reminds me that the Bible describes some wise people as "seemingly poor, but rich; seemingly having nothing, but having everything."
Isn't that right? Happiness is not about how many things you have, it's about how you look at and enjoy what you have right now. If you do that, you can be happier and richer than the rich and famous or the able-bodied but sad-looking person who has nothing.
Dear friend, how do you see yourself? Let's take a look at God's little message:
I know how to be lowly, and I know how to be rich, or to be full, or to be hungry, or to have enough, or to be in want; and with all things I have gotten the secret.
2. Rely on yourself
Carl Rogers (a famous American writer and author of "The Book of the Dead") was one of the first to write a book on the subject. Rogers (a famous American educator): "No one can teach anyone anything." (That is to say, in order to truly learn knowledge, mastery, grasp of fate, success, only by yourself.)
Dr. Dyer (American psychologist): Maybe your body isn't beautiful, but it is your body, and not liking it means you're not accepting yourself as a person.
Lincoln (speaking back to those who vilified him for being two-faced): The world knows I don't have two faces, or else I wouldn't be in front of everyone with this face.
"With an old man like that, what else can I do"
Jack was an alcoholic who was later sentenced to life in prison for murder.
He has two sons, only a year apart in age, one of whom shares his dad's heavy drug addiction and makes his living by stealing and extortion, and who is currently in prison for murder. The other son is a branch manager of a large corporation, has a beautiful family, and neither drinks nor takes drugs. Why do the same circumstances lead to different fates? When people ask the reason, the two men surprisingly have the same answer: "With such an old son, what else can I do?"
Make Yourself a Pearl
There was a young man who thought he was an all-rounder, and after graduation he repeatedly hit the wall, and could never find an ideal job, and he felt that he was unrecognized for his talent, and that there was no Bole to reward him for being a thousand-mile horse. In pain and despair, he came to the sea one day, intending to end his life. When he was about to commit suicide, an old man saved him. After the old man understood his situation, he picked up a grain of sand from the sand stand at his feet and just threw it on the ground, saying to the young man, "Please pick up the grain of sand I just threw on the ground." "That's simply not possible!" The young man said. Without saying a word, the old man pulled out a crystal clear pearl from his own pocket, casually threw it on the ground, and then said to the young man, "Can you pick up this pearl?" "It is certainly possible!" "If you want someone to recognize it, then you'll have to find a way to make yourself a pearl to do so."
Things that make old people regret
The survey showed that up to 72 percent of Belgian seniors regretted that they didn't work hard enough when they were young to have a successful career, 67 percent regretted that they chose the wrong career, 63 percent regretted that they didn't educate their children well enough or in the right way, 58 percent regretted that they didn't exercise enough, 56 percent regretted that they weren't loyal enough to their partners, 47 percent regretted that they didn't show enough filial piety to their parents, and 47 percent regretted that they didn't show enough love to their parents. 47% regretted that they were not filial to their parents, and 41% regretted that they chose the wrong partner for life.
Personality is destiny
He walked through an intersection where the light was red and no traffic. So he stopped and waited. Waiting with him was a boy in his late teens. He waited for more than 10 minutes, and the light at the intersection was still red for no traffic, so obviously the light was out, and he walked on by. When he returned to that intersection after his errand, he found the boy still standing there. From this, he realized a truth: a conscious behavior that you have developed over time, you form your own habits; you will maintain the habits, you will form a character; and a country's national *** with the character, is the fate of the country.
Build Your Own Wharf
There was a man who had always wanted to succeed, but had always failed, and was very much distressed at heart. His father, an old sailor, said to his son, "If you want ships to come, you must build your own dock." After hearing this, the son settled down, studied hard, and later not only went to university, but also became a post-doctoral fellow who was envied by others. Life is like this, if you abandon impatience, refine yourself, let yourself shine, there is no fear that no one will find.
Survival capital
One day, a young reporter interviewed Konosuke Matsushita. At the end of the interview, Mr. Matsushita asked the young man how much his monthly salary was, "It's very little, only 10,000 yen." The young man answered shyly. "Very good. In fact, your salary is much more than 10,000 yen." Looking at the young man's puzzled face, Mr. Matsushita then said, "Young man, the fact that you can get the chance to interview me today, and other celebrities tomorrow, proves that you have some potential in interviewing. If you can accumulate more talent and experience in this area, you will be richly rewarded."
Psychotherapy with Dr. Symonton
Dr. Symonton, a specialist in treating patients with advanced cancer, once treated a 61-year-old patient with laryngeal cancer who was seriously ill, had lost a significant amount of weight, and the spread of the cancer had made it impossible for him to eat. Dr. Simonton taught the patient to use his imagination to picture the army of white blood cells in his body fighting against the stubborn cancer cells and eventually defeating them. As it turned out, two weeks later, the medical team had indeed curbed the cancer's destructiveness and succeeded in defeating it.
In fact, Dr. Symington was treating this cancer patient because he used psychotherapy, telling his patient, "You have more mastery over your life than you think, and even a malady as difficult as cancer can be within your grasp."
Searching for a saint
In 1947, Mobil Oil chairman John Berridge was making the rounds of his work in Cape Town when, in the bathroom, he saw a young black man kneeling on the floor to scrub water stains from it, bowing reverently with each stroke. Strange, Berridge asked him why he was doing this. The black man replied that he was thanking a saint. For it was he who had helped to get this job, so that he could at last have food to eat. Berridge laughed and said: I also met a saint. 20 years ago, I came to South Africa's big ask Tehuk Hill, just met him, and got his guidance, so that I became the chairman of the Mobil Oil Company. Berridge granted the lad a month's leave of absence to go in search of that saint as well.
The lad returned disappointed and said to Berridge, "Up to the top of the mountain, I found that there was no saint but me." Belichick said, "You are quite right, there are no saints at all but you."
Twenty years later, the black lad was managing director of the Cape Town branch of Mobil, and his name was Jamne, and in 2000, when the World Economic Forum conference was held in Shanghai, he told a press conference that the day you discover yourself is the day you meet a saint.
Playing the cards in your hand
When Eisenhower was young, he was playing a card game with his family after dinner once, and after catching bad cards several times in a row, he began to complain unhappily. His mom stopped and said to him, with a straight face, "If you're going to play, you have to play on with the cards you have in your hand, no matter what happens to those cards!" Many years passed, Eisenhower always remembered his mother's words and never in the existence of any complaints about life. On the contrary, he was always positive and optimistic attitude to meet every challenge of fate, do everything he could, from an obscure civilian family out, step by step to become a lieutenant colonel, commander in chief of the Allied Forces, and ultimately became the 34th president of the United States history.
Yourself is also a landscape
In real life, there is a very common phenomenon: someone else's is always the best. For example, many women, dissatisfied with the status quo, always love to take their man's shortcomings and other men's strengths than. These people, always feel that the scenery is somewhere else. So, dissatisfied with what they have, they like to enjoy the scenery of others.
People who like to admire other people's scenery are most likely to look down on themselves and have an inferiority complex. They feel that other people's everything is good, villas, cars, high-grade clothing, traveling by plane, eating in restaurants; people live so elegant, really envious of the people also!
Why do you look at others and not at yourself? I'm not sure if I'm a good person, but I'm a good person, and I'm a good person.
Bian Zhilin wrote in his famous poem "The Broken Chapter", "You are standing on the bridge looking at the scenery/the people looking at the scenery are upstairs looking at you." Those on the bridge and those upstairs see each other as scenery. They also may not yet realize that they themselves are the view in the eyes of others when they are admiring them.
When you think about it, things are dialectical; when you are admiring others, they are also admiring you. Because, in the eyes of others, you always have to be appreciated. If you say, the scenery is elsewhere, relative to others, they are others elsewhere, they are also the scenery in the eyes of others. After understanding this truth, you will be more peaceful and satisfied. And so, you'll feel happier and better about your life.
The Kingfish
There is a kingfish in the waters of Brat Island.
The kingfish has a knack for attracting smaller animals to its body, and then slowly absorbing them into its own scales. It's not scales, it's just an appendage. When the kingfish has this appendage, it will be at least four times bigger than the kingfish without scales.
Poorly, when the kingfish reaches the latter half of his life, due to the deterioration of his body functions, this appendage will slowly detach from his body, causing him to return to his original smaller form.
Being stripped of his scales is very painful and embarrassing for the kingfish. He can no longer adapt to the world, and swims so unnaturally that he eventually goes and mutilates himself, slamming himself against the rocks and then struggling for days to die. Anyone who has seen a kingfish die a horrible death would think it was too bad for the kingfish, and would also agree that they shouldn't have chosen the appendage as their own scales. It wasn't their own in the first place.
Everyone is wise
There was a young man who was timid by nature. Although he had great musical talent, he couldn't control his stage fright whenever he stepped onto the stage. As a result, he missed many opportunities that he could have developed. For this reason, he felt very painful.
Later, on the recommendation of a friend, he went to visit a successful elder. He poured out his inner anguish to the elder, and then pleaded, "You are the most talented among the people I know, can you show me a way to success?"
The elder listened with a smile and did not give him an immediate reply. And then the elder got up and asked the young man to accompany him outside for a walk. When they walked to a construction site, the elder pointed to the construction workers who were working dozens of meters up in the air and asked the young man, "Now, let's go and do their work shall we?"
The young man shook his head.
The elder said, "Then they are talented people, too."
Afterward, they walked to an automobile overhaul shop, and the elder pointed to the busy maintenance workers and asked the young man, "Now, let's go and do their work, shall we?"
The young man shook his head again.
The elder said, "Then they are very talented people, too."
And so they walked along, the elder asking the young man questions all the way. The young man felt strange and asked in disbelief, "Why are you showing me all this?"
The elder explained meaningfully, "In fact, everyone in life is a wise man. As long as you believe in yourself and work hard to do something you want to do, then you will also be a person full of talent in the eyes of others."
"Everyone is wise." What a profound philosophy is contained in this statement! It is not about pride, arrogance, or "fearlessness" in the face of ignorance. Rather, it's about being confident in ourselves and our desire to learn, and believing that we too are a person of talent and potential.
If you have the confidence and the courage to do it, you will also have an excellent harvest. If you do all these things, will success be far away?
Amplify your strengths
A poor young man wanders to Paris expecting his father's friends to help him find a job to earn a living.
"Proficient in math?" His father's friend asks him. The youth shook his head shyly. "How about history and geography?" The youth still shook his head shyly. "How about law?" The youth hung his head in embarrassment. "How about accounting?"
Father's friend asked question after question, and the youth could only shake his head and tell the other - he seemed to be good at nothing, and could not find even the slightest merit.
"Then write down your address first, I have to help you find a job." The young man wrote down his address in shame, and hurriedly turned to leave, but was held back by his father's friend, "Young man, your name is beautifully written, and this is your merit, you should not be satisfied with just finding a job to make ends meet." You shouldn't just settle for a job to make ends meet." Is writing a good name an advantage? The young man saw the affirmative answer in the other man's eyes. A few years later, the young man did write a world-renowned classic. He was Alexandre Dumas, the famous 18th-century French writer who became a household name.
Many ordinary people in the world have some small advantages such as "being able to write their names well", but due to low self-esteem and other reasons, they are often overlooked, not to mention a little bit of magnification. Each ordinary life, there is a rich gold mine, as long as you are willing to dig, along it will also be dug out to their own surprise treasure ......