First of all you need to have the personality conditions:
First, he should be a relatively healthy person psychologically, whose level of health is at least higher than that of his counselors. A qualified psychological counseling doctor should be a pleasant, life-loving, well-adjusted person who can properly deal with his own psychological conflicts and eliminate daily interferences so as to ensure the smooth running of the work of helping others;
Second, he should be a helpful person. Only a helpful person can give warmth to the client in the counseling relationship, create a safe and free atmosphere, accept all kinds of positive and negative emotions from the client, and enter the client's inner world;
Third, he should be a serious and responsible person. He should be able to listen patiently to his clients, concentrate without distraction, make them feel concerned about their difficulties, and talk sincerely and frankly with them, so that they are willing to expose their inner privacy and secrecy, and deserve their trust.
Secondly, it is a certain condition of knowledge :
To do a good job in psychological counseling to have the necessary theoretical knowledge. Counseling is not just good intentions, enthusiasm and general common sense to comfort, persuade those who are in a difficult situation of the consultant or encourage the psychological patients to struggle against the disease. Counseling and psychotherapy are scientific endeavors that use scientific knowledge of helping people to help clients to recognize the real causes of their distress, to correct or abandon maladaptive behaviors, and to mature psychologically.
Finally, you need to have to have the skills:
Counseling psychiatrists need to be skilled in helping people, including how to be able to collect in the shortest possible time the client's situation, such as the situation or event that makes him troubled, the time of the emergence of the symptom and its development of the elements, how to timely and sensitive to ask questions? How to find out the unconscious cover-up and impediment of the clients? How to guide them to gradually recognize the inner depths of the knot, how to design some corresponding methods to correct some bad behavior, especially for children with neurosis, how to explain to the consultant at the right time to explain what and so on.
To become a psychological counselor, simply participate in the training courses held by various institutions, and obtain a certificate of practice issued by the Ministry of Labor, you can become a psychological counselor. How can you become a qualified counselor? Many professionals have expressed their different opinions and views on this issue, here I only represent my personal views on this issue.
First of all, to become a qualified counselor, you need to have good personality qualities.
Many scholars have mentioned that the personality condition of a counselor is the most important factor to become a qualified counseling worker, and also as a qualified counselor, should have the first condition. The so-called personality refers to the whole mental outlook of a person, which is the sum of stable psychological characteristics with certain tendencies, including temperament, character, interests, beliefs and abilities. The personality quality of a counselor is the pillar of counseling work and the most crucial factor in the counseling relationship.
What to do to have good personality quality. As a qualified counselor, the first thing to do is to clarify what the purpose of the individual in the counseling profession. If a counselor is not equipped with the personality to help people, his knowledge and skills will not be effective and may be harmful. Secondly, a qualified counselor does not only have extensive theoretical knowledge and counseling skills, if he lacks the character to sympathize with and care for people, to be honest with people, to win their trust, and to be sensitive to interpersonal relationships, he will likewise fail to become a qualified counselor when he is only a skilled craftsman.
Secondly, a qualified psychological counselor, should also have a wealth of professional knowledge and skilled professional skills.
Mastering specialized knowledge is certainly necessary, but just having this specialized knowledge is not enough. Because although I think it is important to learn the knowledge of the profession, but after learning this time can not be said to be your own thing, the key is how to make these professional knowledge, become your own thing, this time is crucial!
Counseling is a profession, it has its own theories, methods and techniques, but the most important feature is that we are the part of the application. Those who work in counseling can only work after obtaining a certificate of competency. However, a qualified psychological counselor must undergo specialized training and training, but also to continue to study the theory of psychological counseling, master the methods and techniques of psychological counseling, and actively participate in the practice of psychological counseling, and constantly improve their own business level, the mastery of the professional techniques and theoretical knowledge, effectively applied to the actual work, in order to become a qualified counseling staff.
Third, have a good mental health indicators
The counselor himself is also a human being, and has many desires, such as wanting to be loved, wanting to be accepted, recognized, affirmed, and wanting to feel safe. But he has the ability to seek the fulfillment of these desires outside of the counseling relationship to ensure the effective completion of the social role of the counselor, without causing role tension.
The counselor also lives in the same social environment as most of his visitors, and will have a variety of life problems, and will also have psychological contradictions and conflicts, but he can maintain a relative psychological balance, and can be resolved outside of the counseling relationship to resolve his psychological contradictions and conflicts, and not interfere with counseling work because of personal problems.
A qualified counselor should be a pleasant, life-loving person with good adaptability. Those who are emotionally unstable and are often in a state of psychological conflict without being able to balance themselves are not qualified for counseling work.
In the process of theoretical learning and practical operation, we should pay attention to the continuous adjustment of their own psychological state, so that their own psychology has been to maintain a healthy or basically healthy level, which is the primary psychological quality of mental health workers should have, is engaged in the psychological counseling work of the spiritual foundation. It should be said that people living in today's social environment who are difficult to do psychological "absolute health", mental health workers are also the same. Psychological counselor will sometimes "psychological cold" or often feel "psychological hunger", need "mentor supervision", "partner consultation "or to friends and relatives to confide in, catharsis. But as a qualified counselor, his mental health indicators should be above average.
Fourth, comprehensive quality
1, the ability to self-knowledge
Correctly recognize the self, analyze the self, adjust the self, which is to be as a qualified psychological counselor must be taught. Each of us has a blind spot in life, so do we counselors, we certainly do not want to help us find our own blind spots in the visitor, although most of the time, I think we should do a good job of these tasks before seeing the visitor. A competent counselor should be competent above self-analyzing skills. Before we talk about we are a counselor, first of all know that we are also a human being, we as well as some frustration, depression and other negative emotions, this time self-adjustment is very important, I think this we should all have the same point of view!
2, a wealth of social knowledge
Doing counseling work is not to the market to buy food, you want to pick up what kind of can have your say. In counseling we will encounter different cultures, environmental experience background to find us help. Many people's problems are unique to them and are related to various background factors. We know that it is much easier to form a diagnosis than it is to find a solution to a problem. Because there are many factors that the counselor has to analyze and face together with the visitor***. Let's think about it, if you do not understand society, do not understand people, do not understand the laws of culture, how do you do this counseling, just those very professional theory, skills can? No. So I think a good counselor has to have rich sociological experience or understanding, because we are dealing with a complex person. You have to pay attention to what's happening in society, especially in this changing society!
3. Positive outlook on life
Mentally healthy people are mentally positive. Competent counselors are progressive, optimistic and full of life in their work and life outside the counseling relationship. Such people can bring their life-loving optimism into their counseling work, and when they are counseling, they can, on the one hand, revive the courage of life in a discouraged person; on the other hand, they do not deplete their own energy. They do not see counseling as a burden, and thus bring enthusiasm and vitality to the counseling work. Psychological counseling workers, not only to the superb technology to heal people's spiritual trauma, but also to their own noble and sound personality strength to the visitors to the positive infection and influence.
When I first studied psychology, I learned that a counselor should remain neutral in the process of counseling, but after doing some counseling, I found that it is impossible for a counselor to be completely neutral in the process of counseling, and that the counselor's own values will inadvertently show up and affect the visitors. If this influence is positive, I see it as a self-opening technique, and if it is negative, I see it as negative empathy. We certainly don't want the latter to occur, so what to do? Since we can't be completely neutral, it would be beneficial to the counseling to show more positives while trying to be neutral. But to do so is not as easy as saying so, to really do this will need something inside, I understand it as a positive outlook on life, only with this as a prerequisite you can perform better, it is hard to imagine that a person who is not even confident in himself can help others!
4, open mind
I found a problem when I initially participated in the counselor training course, "the time to study here is limited, and many students do not know, even to the end of the study do not know, so how to improve it later"? So I chose to take the initiative, in this kind of thought activities led to the present I have met hundreds of psychologists and enthusiasts, and with some people to establish a personal friendship, they have different backgrounds. Now that I think about it, I am still secretly happy because of such an open mind, which will allow me to grow all the way in the psychology of the road did not give up, until today even more determined. Because of this open-mindedness, I have been able to improve my personal professionalism much faster, so I am grateful to my friends and at the same time, I am more determined to walk the path of counseling with such an attitude. Understanding the world depends on how open your mind is! So I think a professional counselor should have this.
5, keen observation
A keen mind can make the counselor in the process of counseling through the words and expressions of the inquirer insight into their inner world, from the subtle manifestations of the discovery of the general public is not easy to find or easy to ignore things. Some visitors do not know much about the nature and principles of counseling, so it is easy for them to beat around the bush at the beginning and talk about side issues while hiding their real problems. A keen counselor can detect the problem in time and lead the conversation into depth.
How can we achieve these goals. Become a competent counselor?
1, systematic learning
Psychological counseling as the main part of the clinical application of psychology, relatively speaking, the requirements for us to engage in this profession is very high, there is no systematic study and mastery of the theory of psychology and related disciplines we will feel the difficulty of the actual work. I think to be a qualified counselor systematic learning is necessary. For example, to participate in professional training courses, a month prescribed to read the basic books, in the process of writing more of their own experience. Continue to strengthen the knowledge learned. Regularly participate in the reunion or the exchange of salons in the same industry, more exchanges, promote each other's progress will be much faster!
2, systematic training
Since it is an applied science, the requirements of the actual operation of the ability to be imagined, can not skillfully and flexibly use the technology is not effective. So we need targeted systematic training, such as the establishment of a professional study group, a week to carry out a day of simulation training. This can increase the degree of proficiency in some of the techniques of psychological counseling. Or to participate in the training courses for technical training, so that can be in the application of technology to improve very quickly!
3, effective and correct positioning
A qualified counselor or a good counselor is a counselor with their own direction, do not know where they should go counselor should not be a qualified counselor. This direction we can say is the direction of consulting theory and skills of learning and use, but also the direction of choosing different groups as the object of consultation, or do you want to be a good consultant or a consultant of the direction of the choice of the marketer. And so on all of these, to a certain stage should be a problem we have to solve, otherwise it will be confused because of this.
4, regular psychological supervision mechanism
To see whether a counselor is qualified, one of the criteria is to see whether the counselor or consulting organization has a supervision mechanism. Psychological counseling is not clinical medicine, we encounter cases are basically to be discussed with other counselors, even if the clinical medicine should be difficult cases for consultation. We can imagine that if a person does counseling alone for a long time and takes cases without communication and supervision mechanism. Where will he go? We will find that it will be very dangerous! So there is a need to establish a supervisory study group of several people to communicate regularly.
5, case supervision mechanism
We ourselves are first a person is a counselor, you will be affected by their own experience in the consultation process, you will also encounter their own can not be sure how to deal with the case, when these come to what we should do? I think I'm going to go to my supervisor and ask him to help me with counseling for individual cases or my personal problems.
In short, as a qualified counselor, before starting to counsel visitors, the first task is to be able to complete the self-cultivation and growth, while in the process of continuous learning and growth, effective comprehension of the professional theoretical knowledge and techniques, to achieve effective counseling and treatment process.