Anne Frank said that the purpose of life itself is the pursuit of happiness, and that the pursuit of happiness puts all beings on the same path.
Born as human beings, we all have the **** same goal: the pursuit of happiness.
Throughout history, how many people have worked hard for fame, struggled for wealth, and bent over for power.
Happiness is the enviable fame?
Happy is a huge amount of wealth? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
It seems to be.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Looking at society, we can see such a phenomenon: some people have a lot of money, power, fame, but they are not happy. Some people have very little, but they are happy.
Of course, we can also see another opposite phenomenon: some people have a lot, they are also very happy. There are people who have very little, and they are unhappy.
The results of the Harvard 75 study show that good relationships are the key to staying healthy and happy, the key to happiness in life.
Is that really true?
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According to the psychoanalytic school of thought, a person's external interpersonal relationships are a reflection of the relationship between his or her "inner parent" and "inner child". The relationship between the "inner parent" and the "inner child" is the internalization of the parent-child relationship in the first years of life.
If a person's initial relationship patterns are not well grounded, who is he to improve poor relationships and achieve happiness?
The answer is: a high joy quotient.
Goodhart and Tarleton, both of whom participated in a Harvard research program, both had terrible families of origin, and both grew up alone and in fearful environments.
The difference was that Goodhart had a high IQ, was motivated to change, and was willing to help others. He went on to become a national leader in the field of civil rights.
Tarleton, on the other hand, had a low IQ and a habit of anesthetizing himself with alcohol and sedatives. At the age of 53, he committed suicide due to a relapse of his drug abuse habit.
If a company's president is energetic, sharp-eyed and talented, but dictates to his subordinates, what kind of quality subordinates can work with such a president?
The answer is: Gao Le business.
Management guru Stephen Covey in the "7 habits of highly effective people" tells the story of a case: a president is very strong, but arbitrary and not get along with the supervisors only know how to complain and criticize.
There is a highly motivated executive who never complains. He understands his boss's shortcomings, but instead of criticizing, he responds by trying to make up for them.
When his boss is bossy, he buffers him, takes the pressure off, and finds a way to match his vision, talent, and creativity.
In the end, the executive was so recognized by his boss that he was consulted before every decision was made.
If a person is so poor that he has no place to live, what can he do to build good relationships with his loved ones?
The answer is: the high music quotient.
Chris, the protagonist of When Happiness Comes Knocking, is a down-on-his-luck salesman on the verge of bankruptcy, with a wife who has left home.
At his poorest, Chris had only $21 left in his pocket and was kicked out on the street by his landlord because he couldn't pay his rent. Carrying simple household goods, he strayed to a subway station with his son.
In order to boost his son's mood, he put the unsold high-tech medical equipment when the time machine, and took his son to play through the game, and his son was also excited to play under his drive.
In the pursuit of the "dinosaurs", the father took his son to escape to a "cave", "cave" is what it is, in fact, is a men's room. It is in that "cave" that the son satisfied in his father's arms into the dreamland.
It is his high music quotient that makes the miserable situation not an obstacle to a good relationship between father and son, and those bad encounters do not leave a shadow on the son's psyche.
The idea that good relationships are the key to a happy life may just be a phenomenon. It's the high IQ hidden behind good relationships that is the real key factor.
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Joy quotient, as a psychological concept, first appeared in the article of Zhao Yurun, the CEO of Shanda Group and "Shanda Film and Television - Huaying Shengshi", and then developed by Ren Jun, a professor of psychology at the College of Education, Zhejiang Normal University.
The optimism quotient, or optimistic intelligence, refers to a person's ability to be optimistic. It includes both the level of a person's optimism and the individual's ability to derive positive components (or strengths) from the negative events they experience, as well as the ability to influence or infect others.
There are three dimensions of optimism quotient.
The first dimension refers to the degree of optimism, i.e., the level of happiness in a person. A person with a high IQ has the ability to be happy, especially self-motivated, even when things are not going well. A person with a low IQ will not be happy even if the situation is good.
The second dimension refers to the ability to get rid of negative events or influences and to derive positive elements (or strengths) from them. If you encounter negative events and can't get rid of them for a long time, or if you only see the negative impact of the event but not the positive significance of the event, it will also affect the level of optimism. The first thing you need to do is to take the initiative to get rid of the negative events and their effects.
The third dimension is the ability to influence others to become optimistic. A person's level of happiness is not only determined by his or her level of optimism, but also by his or her environment. A person with a high optimism quotient is not only happy himself, he can also find ways to infect others and make them happy.
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A person's happiness quotient, fifty percent depends on heredity, fifty percent depends on later development. According to current research in positive psychology, there are ways to improve your IQ.
※ Learn to appreciate, from life to feel good. The world is not short of beauty, but short of eyes to discover it. Learn to appreciate, blue sky, white clouds, flowers, trees, mountains, plains, wind and rain, birds and frogs, each and every place can make people have a good sense of pleasure.
※ Concentrate on one thing, feel the inner peace brought by the flow of the heart. Reading and writing, playing the piano and singing, painting and playing sports, or just doing housework, when you are truly immersed in it, you will naturally feel calm and joyful in your heart.
※Shift the negative thinking mode, change the interpretation style of things. Shakespeare said: There is no good or evil in the world, thoughts make it so. Let go of judgment, focus only on the facts, and learn from them, and the negative will become a gift.
※In relationships, respond positively. Negative responses worsen relationships; positive responses promote relationships. Good social connection produces happy hormones, reduces anxiety, and increases concentration and focus.
※Positive actions promote a sense of control over things. The human desire for positive emotions is analogous to the light-focused nature of plants. The feeling of positive emotions cannot only come from expectations and appreciation of the things around us, but more importantly, it is important to have practical actions to try to improve your ability, increase the sense of control over the things you face, and reduce the feeling of helplessness.
※Infected with a smile, spreading the happy factor. Brain science research has found that Dugong smile can activate some of the cerebral cortex related to happiness, often conscious smile, even if it is not genuine, but also can bring the feeling of happiness. Relationship is a mirror, "you are happy, so I am happy". A person who carries his own happy factor, the environment around him will also become relaxed and happy.
? High IQ may make people make outstanding achievements in a certain area, and may also make people bent on getting along with others; high IQ may enable people to control their own emotions, but may not have the ability to spread happiness to the people around them; high IQ may enable people to get rid of unfavorable situations quickly, but may also tend to conservative and difficult to get happy.
If you have a high IQ, you will be able to succeed in your endeavors, and you will be able to have a healthy body and mind, and have a good relationship. A high IQ is the key to a happy life.