In the movie, the actors did a great job of giving us a clear view of how emotions are expressed.
When Chris goes out and comes back, still the other end of the medical equipment, his heart is very stressed, because he has to face his wife's cold eyes, so when he enters the door, he is head down. And his wife to see him lead the instrument back, he looked at him with cold eyes, do not give him to speak, she used silence to express their dissatisfaction.
When Chris stayed in the subway restroom at night with his son, he was restless. He is especially disturbed when there is a knock at the door. Covering the child's ears hard once, shaking his head and putting his foot against the door, he is so full of unease that he is close to begging God to make whoever is outside stop knocking.
The child loved basketball and was particularly upset when Chris stopped his son from playing basketball to take him to interview a client and ended up dropping a basketball so hard he put the ball in a bag.
Finally, when the boss notified Chris that he could continue to come to work tomorrow, tears welled up in his eyes, and his excitement was beyond words. He froze for a while before shaking hands and thanking each leader with force. Once outside the company, he covered his mouth with both hands to prevent himself from losing control.
From these scenes, we can see that everyone has their own emotions, whether he has spoken or not, his emotions are consciously or unconsciously brought into his behavior. By observing their behavior, we get a glimpse of their inner emotions.
In the movie, when Chris sees his son drop the basketball, he realizes that his son is upset. Immediately, he conveys a point of view to his son, "Never let anyone tell you that you can't do something, not even yourself, if you have a dream, it's your responsibility to defend it, and if someone else can't do something, he's trying to tell you that you can't do it either, that if you want something, you've got to take a step forward and make it happen."
Through this communication, he relieves the child of his unhappiness, but also conveys a positive attitude towards life.
Many times in our lives, when we find a child behaving negatively, we just blame the child and force them to stop and not to behave negatively, without observing attentively, why is the child behaving negatively and what do they want?
Last week we had three classes on emotional expression, and in the class a girl said she recently had an upset today. Because she and her mom went shopping, her mom let bring a hat, but walking on the road, she felt hot, so she took off the hat. Who knows walking, the hat fell to the ground.
Looking at the hat fell to the ground, her mom began to train her. She felt particularly incomprehensible, fell picked up even if, why mom to say her in public, she felt very humiliated, the result of the whole afternoon is not very happy.
At first, my mom didn't notice her emotions, and she didn't realize her own problems, so she didn't communicate in a timely manner.
Later, after taking our emotional expression class, she told her mom what she thought, and she said she would improve in the future.
In life, we need to be attentive to other people's emotions, and we also need to feel our own emotions, express our thoughts in time, and avoid letting negative emotions continue to affect our lives.
When we have negative emotions, it is often because one of our needs has not been met. If we want to solve the negative emotions, then we have to learn to express the needs.
How do you express your needs? Marshall's "nonviolent communication" gives us a perfect answer, he believes that "nonviolent communication" is a constant reminder, remind us in the communication process, focus on each other's observations, feelings, needs and requests, to avoid verbal violence to the maximum extent possible, to cultivate mutual respect, attention and love. Therefore, nonviolent communication is also known as the "language of love".
In the movie, Chris's wife communicates with him in a completely opposite way. She's lost faith in Chris, so when she hears that he's going to try to be a stockbroker, she speaks with skepticism and sarcasm. When she hears Chris say he's going to be an intern, she just says backwards?
Throughout, she never thought about why Chris did what he did or why he thought the way he did, neither seriously feeling Chris' heart nor asking him what he needed, nor respecting and paying attention, completely immersing herself in her own world, and the two ended up going their separate ways.
Getting along with people, we have to observe with our hearts, notice everyone's emotions, take them seriously, communicate with nonviolence, and learn to express our needs and fulfill others' requests.
Emotions can be everywhere, we need to be attentive, timely detection of negative emotions, positive response, so that the emotions can be used for us.