Speaking of the reasons for drifting to the north is actually a compulsion. The reasons are as follows.
A bachelor's degree in choreography, I had no chance to go to the TV station. The first time I saw this, I was able to see a lot of people who had been in the same room for a long time.
This is the first time I've ever seen a movie in the world.
Secondly, the civil service examination has been a few times, two interviews, but not. I looked at myself in the mirror half a day I thought 173 head weight 108 pounds I look okay (later on the map friends to judge my appearance) I wondered how I could not pass the interview?
Fourth, after graduation, there is no preparation of the work simply to find objects are subjected. I remember the boyfriend's mother in the Environmental Protection Agency has been talking to my mom about why I can't get into the civil service or institutions. The first thing you need to do is to get your daughter to take the test, and then say a bunch of their own son has a stable job capital. The eyes are full of pride. To go to my boyfriend's home for New Year's Eve to face their family seemingly concerned about the greetings, "When will you review and then take the civil service ah, that is a stable iron rice bowl to give birth to a child can rest for a year. You have to work hard!" I can only hold back tears to the stomach. I can only break up decisively.
At that time in Shenyang dating feeling as long as the stable work of a month to open 1500 ugly girls than I am so popular. The contact twice know that he is a master of the Chinese Criminal Police University family solid. One day he suddenly asked me what your parents do I said my mom is an accountant. I said my mom is an accountant, and my dad drives a truck. Then he also said you can't get a career or civil service? He later on I was not enthusiastic because of my and no so-called stable work.
In the old country, no matter what things are put together relations without fairness, but I am from a grassroots family I can not put together father I have to blame my parents? I'm not going to be able to get a good look at this. The first time I saw the movie, I was able to get a good look at the movie, and I was able to get a good look at the movie, and I was able to get a good look at the movie. Two years ago, I went back to my hometown for a party and learned about some people. Those who rely on family connections to have a stable job of the same age they proudly talk about their superior treatment and existing capital at the dinner table. Then with a smug little eye concern asked me how difficult to mix in Beijing ah hurry back, do not drift. Beijing houses are so expensive. Expecting you to say how hard it is to drift in the North look at you. I said I have a house ah. They also said that the parents are old how to do a house is your husband's you have the cheek to let parents to live? I said I bought a house for my parents in full before marriage. They also said that after the child later married to buy a house is also difficult I said I was pregnant when my husband bought the son's house is also finished. And bought two. They finally shut up. They went on to say that Beijing is so tiring. The old home work is stable and free. I said I don't have a stable job, so I have to work hard for the first few years to make all the money from the stable job. Race against time to take parents to go out and travel to see the outside world, which is to live a sense of quality. (I said such a proud civil servant friend only represents part of the please do not take the right seat)
Life is too short some road can not go maybe change the road will get a different surprise. The above are some of my views not adapted to the old home. I don't like it, don't spray. I hope to return to my hometown is to recall the joy of childhood rather than to brag about each other to compare.
In a word.
This thrift and luxury does not simply mean material, but also spiritual.
My family in Shenyang, a high school classmate went to Beijing in college, graduated from the work in Beijing. I have been not rich, living very hard, but also very wonderful. Weekend to see the exhibition, off work to the university to listen to lectures, vacation around the city to sneak around, will go to see the play, will make friends with the band, to meet friends on the Internet, her boyfriend at the time is a foreigner. There was no money, but her spiritual life was fulfilling.
There was a time when her father's health was not good, and her company in Beijing had a branch in Shenyang, so she applied to work in Shenyang. The income from Beijing would live well in Shenyang, but except for a little, her daily leisure life was almost gone. But she still tries very hard to create all the opportunities to enrich her life, for example, she went to great lengths to find an English corner in the city that had disappeared, which was a product of a long time ago and has almost all disappeared, but she found it by all means. But the spiritual life is really not comparable to Beijing, not only less, but also expensive, after a period of time really can not stand, back to Beijing.
In is not a popular saying - can not go back home.
Physical hometowns can go back, but spiritual ones? The first thing you need to do is to get back to your home country and get back to your home country.
Share it, before the Jiangsu side, graduated to go, probably stayed more than two years, and then back to Wuhan to stay a year. Poorly summarized, 1. first-tier cities with high wages, high consumption, more young people, nightlife is also rich. 2. home is generally 18 lines, there is nothing young people, consumption is not very low, the wage is low, but the frighteningly low, we are almost 2-3,000 wages, of course there are more, just to take most of them. Job opportunities are also less, just that a few companies, travel words is not convenient, a lot of either no public transportation or 5:00 more than gone. Public transportation is not developed. The key to our city are still no high-speed rail, it is estimated that the county-level cities can be counted out. Generally speaking, those who can come back are usually those who can't afford to buy a house outside and can't save money for a year. When they are old enough to get married, they come back to develop. Then buy a house. It has to be said that they can't adapt to the work, the wages are low and they don't want to do it, and there are not many young people, all of them are big mothers, right? If you want to get married, you don't even have a young girl. Haha. The hardest thing about it! There is also no life rituals, I feel that I can see myself when I am old. The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it, and I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it.
A few words about your own feelings. First of all, I'm glad I came to Suzhou, this city is still very energetic, especially the park this, are some science and technology companies, the overall atmosphere with the Beijing not much difference. The overall atmosphere is not much different from that of Beijing, so I can adapt to it quite well.
But it's not the same when you're back home. I was in Beijing, in Suzhou, all day long the most contact is the work of information or industry trends, think about how to achieve the monthly goal, how to rely on their own efforts to strive for this year to a higher level, how to get a better assessment at the end of the year, to get a higher end of the year, etc.
To the end of the year, I was in Beijing, in Suzhou, I was in the middle of the work, I was in the middle of the work.
It's not the same when you go to your hometown, all you hear all day long is: so-and-so's distant relative has opened a big company, this is his phone number, have time to contact more contacts; or so-and-so's son is now mixing well, in XX, several sets of houses, or you go to rely on him to look at; or so-and-so has become a XX cadre of some sort, have time to ask him to have a meal, you talk to him!
Human relations and relationships are all around you all day long, it's really as if you can make these relationships work and please these people to make it to the top of the world.
A lot of people say that big cities rely on themselves, small cities rely on relationships. This sentence, is a real experience. In the big city, everyone has a relatively equal playing field, as long as you pay more effort, and strive for better results, you will have the space to promote, all based on the results speak. In small cities, on the other hand, it seems that everyone is always thinking about how to maximize the value of their network. Even people who can't relate to each other can find a way to climb the ladder.
Of course, I'm glad that I was able to find a job in my hometown that was similar to the one I had in Beijing, so that I could get rid of all those connections. Maybe I'm just going to have a hard life, and I'm not going to be able to take care of these relationships, but at least I'll be able to live a little bit more freely and not have to look at anyone's face.
First of all, if you stay in any place for a long time, you will not get used to leaving.
So the point of this question is really what is the difference between being in a first-tier city and a third- or fourth-tier county. Of course, if your hometown itself is one, then our discussion might be about what's uncomfortable about returning to Shanghai after spending time in Beijing. It's more about the climatic and human aspects, which are not discussed here.
Let's just say that the biggest advantage of a big city over a small county can be divided into two kinds in simple terms.
1. There are more choices in big cities.
Including the choice of work, the choice of lovers, the choice of consumption and so on. Because of the development of industry and the abundance of talent, companies in large cities can be divided into a wide variety of jobs and enough drama, but also the first experience in the developed cities, so there will be a lot of work that did not exist before, like what the escort shopper, the smell of the teacher, the pornography identifier and so on the cold occupation. It means that at the stage when you choose a job or are ready to jump ship, you have enough options, while in the county, you may only be assimilated to a limited number of positions.
This is also the case in love, in the big city to meet all kinds of people, different educational backgrounds, you have more space to find the right for their own that she / he. And the small county, a relatively fixed in, may be together just matchmaking.
Consumption is even more needless to say, big city shopping malls basically at least one in each district, shopping, entertainment and food integration. The only thing you have to do is to order takeout, and you'll have a lot more choices than you would have in a city like this.
2. The big cities are more efficient.
You might say that big cities have a lot of people and a lot of cars, so how can they be more efficient? On the contrary, because of the big city people, so the office unit had to derive a high efficiency of the office process, and bad service and system, in the big city is more likely to be exposed, so slowly, the big city will be more and more rules, and combined with the development of the line, the workload of the line will get a greater release. And the small county is not, the poor mountain water out of the dilemma, so that is not without reason, the more closed environment is more likely to produce a small circle, everything depends on the relationship, do look at the food under the meal, deliberately make things difficult, this situation is rather more likely to appear in the small county.
You've already got a living environment to adapt to, and if you go back to your hometown for a while, and then go back to the city, you'll be just as uncomfortable.
Once in the work of three years, very like the living environment and work atmosphere there, although very tired pressure is also relatively large, but there is hope and freedom.
They are the only children in the world, and my mother's health is not good enough to worry about my lifelong problems, so I have to coax and then play the family card to go back to my hometown, which is a five or six-tier city.
The above is the background, the next say from back to the hometown of the feeling now.
First of all, there is no nightlife, summer is better, winter at seven o'clock in the evening on the street there is no one, 7:30 p.m. at home with their parents to watch TV is boring enough, want to go out to walk, my mom asked me to go out at night to walk what is not safe! Seven thirty is a big night? It's still not safe? I'm a seven-five pure man, okay?
Then the city is too small, but shopping is very convenient, shopping malls are so few, and I left home when there is no change, half a day on all walks, the advantage is to buy things to save time and effort, on the one or two streets of the one or two big shopping malls do not have to pick the margin, here thanks to Jack Ma, without him, these small towns of young people I would like to have the luxury of a little bit of is delusional. The disadvantage is that shopping a few times on the tired also have no choice.
There are other small cities and other common problems, young people are less, during the day in the street buses are hanging out on the elderly, nothing to take the bus senior card free card every day to sit back and forth sitting in the park to play chess at night square dance, a leisurely and comfortable, you carefully ask a lot of various institutions and units are retired, as well as some of the older ones are still working to earn a living wage, the reason why I speak later.
Now let's talk about the work, it is estimated that many friends are concerned about is also my deepest feelings now the most upset thing.
When I first came back, my family urged me to find a serious job, what? The first thing you need to do is to find a way to get the job done. Later, I realized that in my hometown, civil servants and state-owned enterprises or institutions within the system of work is called a serious job, other work is called a part-time job. I just came back from the big city and has been talking about the system of work of the hot-blooded young people of course will not be compromised, in the righteous refused my parents for me to spend money on the campaign to find a job after the start of the long journey to find a job. After more than two months of looking for work, I finally know why the system work in the hometown why so popular, why civil servants will feel superior.
At first I was looking for a job in Shanghai in accordance with the set of ways to go online, job fairs, recruitment of newspapers and other methods of sea casting resumes, the results found that you see this month's recruitment information is still in the next month, and even one or two years later is still in and the recruitment information does not have any change, and then I understand, these long-term recruiting company is basically the recruitment of advertising to play, recruiting is also responsible for the base salary system, the completion of the performance required by the company simply does not have any change, and the company will not have any change. The company's performance requirements are not completed at all any salary, so the staff more good to come to the people who do not refuse.
Later, I also interviewed a few companies that seemed to be okay, and they were roughly the same, so I'll probably give you an overview below.
Most of the work time in eight to eight thirty, off five to five thirty, most will not work overtime, paid rest two days a month (you read it right, is paid rest, daily wages are in accordance with the average of a month thirty days, so your two days of rest the company is to give you salary, this belongs to the company to give you the benefits.) All holidays without rest (except New Year's Day, usually about seven days off) five insurance and one gold? Justified to tell you, don't mention it to me, I'm not a civil servant or organization here, there is no such thing. Then you will draw a cake, tell you how the company's future how how, you are just back from the outside, right? This is not the north and south, the treatment is like this, blah blah blah ...... Encountered told you to work in a year after the performance is good to you to pay pension insurance is a good company (which has a considerable part of a year after the company will tell you did not meet the requirements of the company, either continue to work hard for a year or go).
After Dorian's blow I finally understand why my parents want me to go to the civil service or even try to spend money to arrange a job, because in addition to the system really do not have a suitable job ah, I analyze it for everyone.
In this small city of five or six lines, the average income of two or three thousand, outside the system generally do not pay five insurance and one gold, pension insurance in 2018, individuals pay the lowest file 6688 yuan, has been two or three months of wages, employee health insurance nearly three thousand, so basically everyone is paying urban residents health insurance 210, this health insurance reimbursement ratio we all know, so a big disease still A big illness can still destroy a family. Pension insurance many people are going to pay, after all, want to have security after the old, but look at their poor income, but also tighten their belts to pay the lowest grade save enough for fifteen years on the good, this is why I mentioned above, many of the system of retired elderly people walking in the park every day, these people retired which is not three or four thousand of the retired salary, in this small town is completely enough to use each year will save a lot of money to subsidize the children, the ordinary people tight fifteen years. Children, the average citizen tightened the waistband for fifteen years retired poor pension a few hundred thousand dollars, had to go and do another job to support themselves (do not say that the children are not filial piety, the children themselves are very tired to live) so will see the age of the hospitals, properties, etc. cleaner, a month of a thousand one hundred and two hundred, that's right, a month of a thousand one hundred and two hundred in 2018, we also grabbed the job.
The above is the reality, I am also very helpless, of course, finally I also found a job, although the same does not have any security, two days of rest per month, but there is no way to only "follow the customs", can not be at home all the time to eat. After I started working, I realized that no one was as enthusiastic about their work as they were in Shanghai, and everyone was working steadily, not too fast or too slow. At first I was very active, but then I realized that the more active I was, the more work I had to do, because it's not just a place where you think you can do your own job, there are many other jobs, and you can do them. You can do it, can't you? Other jobs that don't belong to you will be pushed on you, like the company accountant said, 30% of my work is accounting and 70% is miscellaneous work. Overtime is generally not, even if occasionally overtime is no overtime pay, hard work is no hope of promotion, even if the promotion of the salary is just two or three hundred more, the boss also think that the alms you great kindness, so slowly I am also to everyone like a mixed life. We often complain that they work for a month, the salary is not as much as others retired. Indeed, the park met many moncler jackets outlet are four thousand or so salary, are so and so unit retired, young tea read the newspaper, the old singing and dancing, and then look for relations to go out of the way to arrange for their children to the system, and the future generation is not worried about it. There is also a moncler outlet store retired salary of nearly five thousand, but also too little, because every month to give his son subsidies of more than two thousand, but sometimes also said that the treatment is good, after all, hanging more than twenty years do not go to work, but also contented. That's right, a lot of moncler jackets outlet are hanging, or sick leave, ten or twenty years do not work also pay insurance, take our young people hard work to save up to the pension insurance to consume, I do not know when I am old pensions will not collapse.
This is what I see and hear when I go back home these years, in this small town no relationship is very tired of living, hard work all your life can not get rich, because the good work of good projects are left to their own people. So far I'm still doing the job without any protection, go is impossible, on the parents under the child, can only do their best to live, do not ask for more good, only strive to live not so tired it.
Now often think of their own children grew up, will never let her like me was kidnapped by the affinity of their own unwilling to live life, let her free and easy to live it.
The first-tier cities rely on themselves! Live true! Old home, a year-old mess of weird relatives: can not see you better than them! All kinds of brainwashed self-editing and self-guided, forcing you to listen to him lu blow! New Year's Eve back to the village! People in the village say they make 1.86 million a year! But no house, no car, but also said to find my family to borrow money to buy a Maiden. I said I'm a poor North Korean, my salary is very low! You guys earn so much a year, I still want to find you to borrow some money, for a big house it old man open BMW I drive Mercedes Benz! Okay! Rich villagers, I do not understand!
This I really asked, in my unit working outsiders, they have been integrated into the city life, the hometown of the young people all go out to work, basically all the people on the age of the people are very miserable, only the New Year's Eve to go home to make a bustle, usually do not come to the countryside this day, may be the future of the parents in the past, but also will not go back.
Really do not adapt, I'm not in a first-tier city, but back home, I want to go out with my friends, asked where to go to sneak around at night, the other people's answer is: this point supermarkets are off work, there is no place to sneak around
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