China has always been known as the "State of Manners" in the world, speaking of "etiquette" and "etiquette" is the excellent tradition of the Chinese nation handed down from generation to generation, the long history of etiquette culture is the ancestors The culture of etiquette has a long history and is a rich heritage left to us by our ancestors. So, here is the story I share for you children's civilized etiquette, welcome to read and browse.
First, Zeng Zi avoided the seat
"Zeng Zi avoided the seat" from the "Classic of Filial Piety", is a very famous story. Zeng Zi was a disciple of Confucius, once he sat next to Confucius, Confucius asked him: "The former sage king had the highest virtue, the most profound and subtle theory, used to teach the world, people can live in harmony, there is no dissatisfaction between the king and his subjects, do you know what they are?" Hearing this, Zeng Zi understood that his teacher Confucius was trying to instruct him in the deepest truths, so he immediately got up from the mat on which he was sitting, walked outside of it, and respectfully replied, "I am not clever enough to know, so how can I know, and I beg you, teacher, to teach me these truths."
Here, "avoiding the mat" is a very polite behavior. When Zeng Zi heard that his teacher was going to teach him, he stood up and walked outside the mat to ask the teacher to teach him, in order to show his respect to the teacher. The story of Zeng Zi's understanding of politeness was recited by later generations and many people learned from him.
Second, Chengmen Lixue
Yang Shi (1053~1135) was a very talented scholar during the Northern Song Dynasty, and was a native of Jiangle, South Jianzhou (now part of Fujian). After he was awarded a bachelor's degree, he gave up being an official and continued his studies.
Cheng Hao (1032~1085), Cheng Yi (1033~1107) brothers were then very prestigious great scholars, philosophers, pedagogies, Luoyang people, the same is the founder of the Northern Song Dynasty science. Their doctrines were inherited by Zhu Xi of the Southern Song Dynasty, and were known as the Cheng-Zhu school. Yang admired the two Cheng's learning, defected to the Luoyang Cheng Hao's door, to study under the master, 4 years after the death of Cheng Hao, and continue to pay tribute to Cheng Yi as a teacher. At this time, he was already 40 years old, but still honors the teacher as before, study hard.
One day, when it was snowing and freezing, Yang encountered a difficult problem, so he braved the cold wind and went to his teacher's house with his classmate, You Yu (1053-1123), to seek advice. When he arrived at the teacher's house, he saw that the teacher was sitting on a chair and fell asleep, he could not bear to disturb the teacher for fear of affecting the teacher's rest, so he quietly stood outside the door and waited. When the teacher woke up with a start, the snow was already a foot deep under their feet, and their bodies were covered with snow. The teacher invited Yang Shi and the other two into the house and gave them a lecture. Later, the story of "Cheng Men Li Xue" became a popular example of respect for teachers.
Three: Kong Rong gave up his pear
Kong Rong had five older brothers and one younger brother.
One day, the family ate pears. A plate of pears in front of everyone, the older brother let the younger brother take first. Guess what kind of pear Kong Rong took? He didn't pick the good ones, didn't pick the big ones, just took the smallest one. Dad saw, heart is very happy: do not look at this child is only four years old, but also really understand. Then he deliberately asked Kong Rong: "There are so many pears, and let you take the first one, why don't you take the big one and only take the smallest one?" Kong Rong replied: "I am young, I should take the smallest one; the big one is left for my brother to eat." His father asked him again, "You have a younger brother, isn't the younger brother even younger than you?"
Kong Rong said, "I am older than my brother, I am the older brother, I should leave the big one for my brother to eat."
You see, Kong Rong spoke so well. When his father heard this, he laughed out loud, "Good boy, good boy, what a good boy."
Kong Rong was four years old and knew to let the pear. He let his older brother on top and his younger brother on the bottom. Everyone praised him.
Fourth, the Prime Minister apologized
Hawke was inaugurated as Prime Minister of Australia, once in a shopping mall with an old man on the issue of superannuation disputes. In a moment of impulse, Hawke called the old man, "Stupid old man." The old man took him to court. Hawke held a press conference to publicly apologize to the old man for his uncivilized language. He said, "I was very annoyed that day, but that doesn't excuse me from using that kind of language. If I did hurt him, I would like to apologize to the gentleman for that, and I sincerely ask for forgiveness for my incivility."
V. Lenin Makes Way
Once, Lenin went downstairs, in the narrow aisle of the staircase, and was bumping into a woman laborer coming up the stairs with a basin of water. The woman looked at Lenin, and was about to give way to Lenin, ready to go back on his own. Lenin stopped her and said, "There is no need for that. You are halfway up the stairs with your things, and I am now empty-handed, so please go through first!" He said the word "please" loudly and kindly. Then he pressed himself against the wall and let the workwoman go up the stairs before he went down. Lenin was undoubtedly a great man, but he was not impolite because of the nobility of his position, which showed his great qualities even more.
Sixth, "tolerate" Lincoln
Once, President Abraham Lincoln and his son Robert drove down the street, encountered a column of troops in the street through. Lincoln casually asked a passerby, "What is this?" Lincoln was going to ask which state's regiment it was, but didn't make it clear. The man, thinking he didn't recognize the army, rudely replied, "It's the Union army, and you're a big fucking idiot." Lincoln simply said "Thank you" without anger in the face of a common passerby's rebuke.
Seven, the origin of the aggrieved award
Shanghai bus 22 bus conductor Ke Liping, once won a very special award - "aggrieved award". One day, a young man bought a ticket, deliberately spit on a Wu Jiao bills, and then threw on the floor of the carriage. The other passengers, while accusing the young man, also quietly watched Ke Liping. She bent down to pick up the bill, wiped off the spit with a napkin, and then politely handed the ticket to the young man. Ke Liping's behavior was praised by the passengers, the young man was ashamed and apologized to Ke Liping. After the incident, colleagues reported to the team, the team leadership to Ke Liping special award "aggrieved award" to encourage the whole team of conductors.
Eight, respect for respect
In the North and South Dynasties period of Qi, there is a person called Lu Xiaohui, he is talented, knowledgeable, people are even more respectful and gracious. He had worked as a chief historian under several kings, and could be considered a high and mighty man, yet he never thought highly of himself, and the officials who came to see him, no matter how big or small they were, he treated them with courtesy and didn't pose as a driver at all. If the guests leave, he will even get up and personally send each other to the door.
One of the staff saw this scene, it is difficult to understand, and said to him: "Lu Changshi official in a high position, no matter to whom, even to the common people are courteous, this is really out of place, and even more nothing can be gained, why would Changshi be such a nuisance?" Lu Xiaohui listened to this with an unimpressed easy smile and said, "If you want to take it first, you must first be with it. I want all people to respect me, then I must respect all people."
Lu Xiaohui has practiced this guideline all his life, so he has been respected and supported by a very large number of people, and his political achievements have far exceeded those of others.
Nine, the model of civilized manners
Dr. Sun Yat-sen was the forerunner of the Chinese bourgeois revolution, and a model of civilized manners. He believed that: spitting, long nails, do not brush your teeth and other habits, are contrary to civilized behavior, is not in line with the civilized traditions of our Chinese people. He advocated "sincerity and loyalty outside the form", pay attention to "every move of the micro" civilization.
Tenth, respect for teachers
A spring rainy day, the cartoon "three hairs," the author of Zhang Leping one hand on the umbrella, a handheld cake, to visit more than 50 years have not seen the elementary school teacher Lu Yinsheng. Lu Yinsheng once gave Zhang Leping a topic and instructed him to draw political satire, which was the beginning of Zhang Leping's cartoon study. Although it has been more than 50 years since then, Zhang Leping still remembers it very well. 80-year-old Mr. Lu sized up Zhang Leping and asked, "Who are you? Who are you looking for?" Zhang Le Ping said, "I am Zhang Ping, now called Zhang Le Ping." Mr. Lu was excited: "It's rare that you still think about me after decades, it's really not easy!" Zhang Le Ping said, "My first cartoon is you taught me to draw, I have never forgotten you!"
Eleven, Zhu De honors the teacher
In early 1957, Zhu De watched a play with everyone in the auditorium of Yunnan Political School. Before the show, Comrade Zhu De and the audience around the pleasant exchanges, at this time, an old man in his old age in the bystander's help into the auditorium, Zhu De see the old man came, and hastily rose forward, stood at attention to military salute, salute, and cordially called a "Ye teacher", then, Zhu De and asked the old man to take a seat, to be the old man sat down, he only sat down. The first time I saw this, I was able to see the old man's face, and I was able to see the old man's face, and I was able to see the old man's face, and I was able to see the old man's face.
XII, arrogant little mouse
Once upon a time there was a little mouse, always think they are great, very rude to others.
Once he went to school, a snail came head-on, blocking his way. The little mouse said fiercely, "Dot, get out of my way!" The little mouse said and kicked it, sending the snail rolling out a long way.
Once, when the little mouse went to the river to drink, he felt that a little fish in the river was in his way, so he picked up a stone and threw it. The little fish was attacked, startled and scrambled to avoid it. The little mouse laughed out loud and said, "Know what I'm made of."
One night, the mouse saw a piggy lying on the side of the road on his way home, and said condescendingly, "Who gave you such a big nerve to block my way". "Boom" sound, the mouse just kicked the pig's feet, the pig is nothing, but the mouse "aigoo, aigoo" screamed, it turned out that his feet swollen up a big bag. The pig stood up and said to the mouse: "You are arrogant and rude to others, do not know how to respect people, today tasted the pain! Only by respecting others can you gain their respect." The little mouse looked at his injured foot and lowered his head in shame.
XIII. It's all the trouble caused by uncivilization
In a mysterious big forest, there lived a group of lovely little elves, they have a pair of transparent wings, pointed ears, small and lovely. On the other hand, on the other side of the forest, there lived their enemy, who was ugly and named Ugly. He was a man who caught uncivilized elves, and God had decreed that any elf who was uncivilized would be at the mercy of the Ugly Bastard. This was a great success, and every few days, a leprechaun was captured and put in a golden cage.
The elves couldn't take this anymore. Determined to change this fate. They insisted on doing small civilized things every day. But there are always lazy ones, and Lazy is a very lazy elf who is too lazy to do this. Still huffing and puffing and sleeping every day. See the elders are not polite, which can cause big trouble, the ugly monster in the magic ball found this little thing, ecstatic, and immediately sent his men to catch it back. Lazy lazy at this time is still in the moss sleep it, the ugly monster's men easily will be lazy lazy captured.
When the lazy sloth woke up from his sleep, he first stretched his back, then took a long breath, and just as he was about to get up, he crashed down, and the ugly monster laughed shrilly, "Ah-ha, little thing, I'm so lucky, I haven't captured an elf for a long time, and in a while, I'm going to make a snack out of you, and fill me up with this tummy of mine." Sloth was so scared that he cried and screamed, he really regretted that he was too lazy, why his name was "Sloth", just then, his companions came to save him, Mimi and Jing Jing used magic to trap the ugly monster, stole the key to open the door of the cage, and used the instantaneous flight back to the elf's castle. Lazy lowered its head in embarrassment, and the elf elders comforted it by saying, "Child, there is no need to worry, as long as you treat people politely in the future, you will be happy and joyful." After hearing this, Lazy swore that he would be a civilized elf in the future.
Fourteen, asking for directions etiquette
Niu Gao asked an old man for directions, and he roared down the road, "Hey, old man! Master asked you, how to go to the farm?" The old man said, "Go forward 1500 zhang". Niu Gao said strangely, "How can it be zhang not li?". The old man said "we here say zhang do not say reason", niu gao red face away. After a while, Yue Fei also came here, he first dismounted, and then went forward to salute, "May I ask the old man, just now have seen a riding a black horse? Which way did he go?" Seeing that Yue Fei was quite polite, the old man patiently showed him the way. This is just as the saying goes: "Gift to the heart warms the heart, and rudeness begs suspicion".
Fifteen, just because of a mouthful of spit
It was a difficult negotiation.
One day, the United States, Mr. Joseph for the opponent - a Chinese medical machinery factory director Fan, both annoyed and admire. This Fan factory director is very familiar with the introduction of the "large infusion tube" production line market. He not only demanded a high technical index for the equipment, but also kept the price very low. It seemed that Joseph had never met such a difficult and powerful negotiator in China. He concluded that the future cooperation with the pragmatic factory director Fan, the business is to be able to go smoothly.
So he accepted Factory Director Fan's low offer with conviction. "The two sides agreed to formally sign the agreement the next day. It was still early in the morning, and the factory manager invited Joseph to take a look at the workshop. The workshop was well organized, and Joseph nodded approvingly as he looked around. As he walked, he suddenly felt a worm crawling in his throat, coughed, and hurriedly ran to a corner of the workshop. Joseph stared at Factory Director Fan in surprise, only to see him spit in the corner, then wiped with the sole of his shoe, leaving a spit stain on the painted floor. Joseph quickly walked out of the workshop, despite the director of the factory Fan's best efforts to retain, determined to go back to the hotel.
The next morning, the interpreter knocked on the factory manager's door and handed him a letter from Joseph: "Dear Mr. Fan, I admire your talent and shrewdness, but the scene of your spit in the workshop made me sleepless. With all due respect, the hygienic habits of a factory manager can reflect the quality of a factory's management. Besides, what we are going to produce in the future are infusion tubes for curing diseases. There's a proverb in your country: Human lives are at stake! Please forgive me for leaving without saying goodbye, otherwise, God will punish me. ......"
Factory Director Fan felt his head "boom", like it was going to explode.
XVI, garbage home
China is an ancient civilization, known as the "State of Manners" in the world. In the past and present, many stories of etiquette and humility have been passed down to this day. For example: the well-known "Kong Rong let pear", said Kong Rong seven years old, will know courtesy; "Zhang Liang pick up shoes" is Zhang Liang respect for the elderly, take the initiative to pick up the shoes, and respectfully to the old man put on the story. Chairman Mao Zedong, although in a high position, but easy-going, humble and courteous. Our beloved Premier Zhou, with his warm and considerate hospitality, is recognized worldwide as the most gracious leader and diplomat. From these stories, we get the inspiration: we have to develop a good habit of civilization and politeness from childhood.
Speaking of civilization and politeness, I recall a thing that happened to me. One day, I walked home as usual, to the stairway, I found a bag of garbage in the corner, this time upstairs, Grandma Hu happened to walk down, at first, she did not notice the garbage in the corner, because her eyes are not very good, this time and came face to face with an uncle, Grandma Hu turned back to take a look at him, which found the garbage in the corner, and then turned around to walk back to the original place, pick up the bag of garbage, walked to the garbage can in front of, "flutter", "flutter", "flutter", "flutter", "flutter", "flutter", "flutter", and "flutter", "flutter". The bag of garbage went back to where it belonged and was thrown into the garbage can. The bag of garbage returned to where it belonged, and Grandma Hu quietly left. Looking at Grandma Hu's departing figure, my heart is very regrettable, why I did not go to pick up the bag of garbage it?
Although this is a small insignificant thing, but she is the meaning of environmental protection.
Students, let's take action, everyone strive to be a small guardian of environmental protection, everyone strive to be qualified civilized etiquette of small citizens!
XVII, let the seat
In a sunny day, my mother and I 12 road to Aite shopping. The people on the car is really a lot of people, my mom and I got on the car and rushed to find two seats to sit down, soon the car is no seat. Not long after, the car drove to the head of the cinema station. At this time, up a about seventy years old grandmother, she hobbled into the car, not waiting for the grandmother to stand steady, the car started again, almost the grandmother fell down, everyone seems to have not seen as if. As for me, I sat aside and thought: If I give my seat to her, then I am still so far away from the station ...... I really want to give up my seat again, but I don't want to give up my seat. At this time as if a voice was saying to me, "You are a pioneer, you should be civilized, polite and helpful." I thought about it and stood up involuntarily.
Just when I was about to give up my seat, suddenly a seven or eight year old girl stood up, her voice sweetly said to the grandmother, "Granny, you sit in my seat!" "Thank you, you're such a good kid!" The grandmother gratefully praised the little girl.
Looking at this big-eyed, round-faced little girl, I suddenly had a pang of guilt: why did I hesitate to give up my seat at first? The little girl's every move is y imprinted in my mind, so that I can never forget.
18, "will" talk
The great writer Xia Yan old man before his death feel very difficult, the secretary said: "I go to call the doctor." Unexpectedly, the old man said with great difficulty: "Not 'call', is 'please'."
On the bus, a middle-aged woman carrying fish got on the bus and rubbed the new clothes of the middle school student Xiaogang dirty. The middle-aged woman: "It doesn't matter if your clothes are dirty, just go home and wash them."
Xiaogang laughed: "Auntie, I should say all the words let you say. I can only say 'I'm sorry!'" The crowd cast approving glances at Xiaogang, and the middle-aged woman blushed with shame at the humorous criticism.
XIX, civilization from small things
China is the world is a famous ancient civilization, the state of etiquette, has a long tradition of etiquette. From ancient times to the present, from generation to generation. With the development of society, etiquette also continues to develop and add new connotations, can give people enlightenment and strength.
It happened in the winter before last, and the weather was already very cold. It was a bitterly cold winter in Beijing, and our family went out to the movies by car. Because of the Olympic officials' visit to Beijing, the streets of Beijing were filled with plastic flowers of all colors, which gave a touch of warmth in the winter. We cozied up in the car with snacks and music.
When we got to Dongzhimen, my mom threw a garbage bag with waste out the window, and I rushed to stop it too late. I asked my dad to drive the car back to pick up the garbage, but my mom said that the car has been unable to return, and the road is so many cars, if you go back to the car if the crash how to do? Mom even said that it would be fine to change it next time. But I was determined not to do it, and finally Dad drove the car back. Mom retrieved the garbage she had thrown away. It took a lot of time, but the whole family thought I was right to do it. On the way home, there were so many different colored garbage bags hanging from the trees on both sides of the airport highway that the whole family had a deep reflection.
Since then, we have become ambassadors of civilization and environmental protection. After the picnic, we collected the garbage separately and carried it down the mountain to the place where there is a garbage can before throwing it away. I don't have to supervise this kind of thing in our family any more, it's all done consciously. My mom even touched me with practical actions. She often picks up the garbage on the ground and throws it into the garbage can in public places.
Wearing civilization and being polite requires everyone to start from me and from small things. We are the little master of the country, we have the obligation to help people who are not well educated to learn civilization, practice civilization. Because we have a rich material life today, we need to build a high degree of spiritual civilization. In this way, our country can become a strong and highly civilized country, and civilization can be admired by more people.
XX. Zhang Liang Worships His Teacher
Zhang Liang was the military advisor of Liu Bang, the Gaozu of the Western Han Dynasty, whose ancestors were Koreans. After the destruction of Korea by Qin, Zhang Liang was determined to avenge Korea. Once, he was hunted down and took refuge in Xiapi after an assassination attempt on Qin Shi Huang. Zhang Liang had nothing to do in Xiapi. One day he went for a walk on the bridge in Xiapi, and came across an old man, dressed in coarse cloth and short clothes, who walked next to Zhang Liang and deliberately dropped his shoes under the bridge. Then he turned back to Zhang Liang and said, "Son! Go down to the bridge and pick up my shoes for me!" Zhang Liang was stunned at this and wanted to hit him, but once he saw that he was an old man, he forced himself to hold back his anger and went under the bridge to pick up his shoes. The old man went so far as to order again, "Put the shoes on me!" Zhang Liang thought that since he had already picked up the shoes for him, he might as well put them on, so he knelt down and put them on him.
The old man put his feet out and let Zhang Liang put them on him, then walked away with a smile on his face. Zhang Liang watched him with amazed eyes. The old man walked for miles, then turned back and said to Zhang Liang: "You are a child who can be trained to be a genius. 5 days later, in the morning, at first light, come here to meet me!" Zhang Liang knelt down and said, "Yes." At dawn on the fifth day, Zhang Liang arrived at the Xiapi Bridge. Unexpectedly, the old man was already waiting there, and when he saw Zhang Liang, he said angrily, "Why are you late for a date with an old man? Meet again in the morning of the fifth day in the future!" After saying that, he left.
On the morning of the fifth day, as soon as the rooster crowed, Zhang Liang rushed there, but the old man was waiting there again, and when he saw Zhang Liang, he said angrily, "How did you fall behind me again? After five days and then come earlier!" Then he left again. On the fifth day, Zhang Liang rushed to the bridge before midnight, and after waiting for a long time, the old man also came, and he said happily, "This is good." Then he took out a book and pointed to it, saying, "Study this book carefully, and you will be the emperor's teacher! In ten years, the situation of the world will change, and you will make your fortune. In the next thirteen years, you will see me at the bottom of Gucheng Mountain in Jibei County-there is a yellow stone there that is me." The old man finished speaking and left.
In the morning at dawn, Zhang Liang took out the book and looked at it, and it turned out to be The Art of War of Taigong (the book of war of Jiang Taigong, who aided King Wu of Zhou in his conquest of the Zhou Empire)! Zhang Liang treasured it so much that he often familiarized himself with it and studied and researched it over and over again.
Ten years passed, Chen Sheng and others rose up against Qin, and Zhang Liang gathered more than 100 people to respond. When Liu Bang, the Duke of Pei, led a few thousand men and captured some places in the west of Xiapi, Zhang Liang submitted to him and became his subordinate. From then on, Zhang Liang often offered his advice to the Duke of Pei according to "The Art of War of Taigong", and Pei recognized it as very good and often adopted his strategies, and later became Liu Bang's military advisor in planning and strategizing to win the battle of the thousand miles. After Liu Bang became the emperor, he was appointed as the Marquis of Liu.
Zhang Liang never forgot the old man who gave him "The Art of War". 13 years later, when he followed Liu Bang through Jibei, he really saw a yellow stone under the Gucheng Mountain, and retrieved it, called it "Huangshi Gong", and enshrined it as a treasure to be worshipped on a regular basis. After Zhang Liang's death, his family buried the yellow stone with him.