Method 1: Manage Time
1, try to separate work from pleasure. This is an era of online learning and telecommuting. You can stay at home all day and finish all kinds of things. Remote classes or work make your family life more flexible. However, this practice also has disadvantages, that is, work or study may quietly invade your family life. When there is always a job at hand, it is difficult for you to get out of it. What's more, the residence and the office are integrated, and there is no obvious interval. In this case, it is difficult for you to switch from work to personal life. In order to solve this problem, you need to prepare a special workspace. If you telecommute or take classes online, you will find it more efficient for students or telecommuters to work in local libraries, cafes and maker communities. You can leave the environment after completing the task, and the environment can help you switch to your personal life.
If you have to work from home, try to make room for work. You can set up a special home office or make room at the dining table. It doesn't matter to work somewhere else once in a while.
If you work in a traditional office, you must try to relax, so that you can turn from work to personal life after work. For example, you can listen to music or audio books on your way home, exercise in the gym, or call your friends to chat.
2. Set the priority. Keeping a balance between professional life and personal life is like walking a tightrope. If you want to go smoothly, you must prioritize things. In this way, at a critical moment or in an emergency, you don't have to worry about which thing is the most important. List the most important things in life, which can be family, emotional relationship, work or spiritual life, or volunteer activities, staying active, maintaining social circles or other hobbies.
Take a good look at this list and put these things in order. The most important thing comes first, the second important thing comes second, and so on. Your ranking allows you to prioritize things. In this way, you can put the most important things into your schedule and weekly plan.
3. Make a timetable and strictly abide by it. If a week has passed in a daze and you can't remember what you have accomplished, then you should spend a week recording everything you have done. At the end of this week, you will know better how to arrange different work or study tasks, personal activities or errands in your schedule. The most helpful way is to make a weekly plan covering all daily affairs, including work, class, church, social activities and other one-time activities. Then, according to your priorities, make a personal to-do list for the next day every night.
The agenda should highlight the three most important tasks that need to be completed that day (except work or school). It can be a work task, such as giving a report, or a personal task, such as going to the dentist or watching my daughter's ballet performance.
If you think this list is too restrictive, you might as well make two lists, one is the three major work or academic tasks, and the other is the three major family tasks. As long as you finish these three to six tasks every day, you can spend the day efficiently.
4. Deal with delays. Procrastination is a big obstacle to balancing work and personal life. Because you always put things off until the last minute, your work and personal life will interfere with each other. This causes you to work late or get distracted by personal affairs at work. One way to overcome procrastination is to write down your original intention of studying, taking a career path or doing other things. For example, if you want to help others, you might as well keep in mind the inherent mission when dealing with tasks: these tasks can help you achieve the purpose of helping others. Make a list of reasons for doing things, post them at work, and have a look when you lack motivation.
Another way to overcome procrastination and accomplish tasks is to break down big tasks into small ones. Doing so can make the whole big task look less terrible, and you will be more and more motivated in the process of gradually completing the small task.
5. Eliminate distractions. You will be surprised if you know how many distractions are eating up your time and reducing your efficiency. Research estimates that most people spend 20 minutes an hour dealing with things that distract their plans. As a result, it takes them two whole hours every day to refocus. If you can try to eliminate things that distract you from your work, you can prevent them from invading your personal life after work. Try these tips to get rid of distractions: focus on important tasks rather than urgent tasks-urgent tasks require you to react passively, and important tasks require you to take the initiative.
Turn off the notification function of the mobile phone or computer.
Keep the office tidy and orderly.
Put away your mobile phone.
Close programs that are not commonly used in the computer.
Drink water, eat snacks or go to the toilet during regular breaks, and try not to interrupt your work.
6. Be creative. No matter how hard you try to keep your balance, there are always two urgent things coming together. At this time, you should learn to be creative, think of possible ways to deal with emergencies, and deal with another thing at the same time. For example, maybe you have to work overtime every week and can't go out with your partner. Then, you might as well deliberately create a romantic atmosphere with candles at dinner, or find an evening to sit on the sofa with your partner and watch carefully selected movies. Doing so won't take up too much of your time, and it can also prevent your partner from feeling left out.
In order to reduce your workload, you can cancel those big projects or share the work with colleagues. If you can't reduce your workload, plan how to spend your lunch break visiting the park with your family, or take your family to the company for a picnic.
Method 2: Establish boundaries
1. Evaluate your situation. No matter how hard you try to find a balance, there will always be times when you need to cross the line between work and personal life, especially when you have children. Think about what situations in your work and personal life require you to cross the line. Think about your family and your personal responsibilities. How often do they need your care when you are working? How often do you need to fulfill your family responsibilities? For example, if you have young children, you may need to adjust your schedule around your children's living arrangements. Or, if you are the child's main caregiver and work from home, you must leave your job and spend some time taking care of your child when he needs it.
Sometimes, you may have to deal with your work first, and then take care of your personal life. For example, if you are an on-call medical staff, sometimes you may have to cancel some arrangements in your personal life in order to work.
2. Take care of your health. In the workplace, school or family, we may focus on the needs of others and ignore our own physical needs. Unfortunately, once you neglect your health, you may pay a high price for it, such as having to miss classes or participate in various social and family activities. If you are worried that you can't complete all the tasks, you will create pressure on yourself; If not handled properly, stress may damage your physical and mental health. In order to relieve stress and keep healthy, please exercise several times a week. You can join the company's sports team, jog around the block with your partner and exercise in the local gym.
Besides exercise, a balanced diet, adequate sleep and outdoor activities can also help you overcome stress.
3. Keep your hobby. When work, study or interpersonal relationships are in urgent need of us, we may give up our hobbies in order to deal with those urgent things. The problem is that once we give up these hobbies, we can't relieve the pressure of work and individuals. You should try to protect your spare time and continue to participate in social and interest activities. After finishing a lot of work, you might as well have a rest and enjoy your hobbies.
Another way to keep your hobby is to put it on the agenda. Just like work projects or family obligations, write down your pottery class or book club activities on the calendar.
4. Learn to say "no". At first, you may feel rude or selfish to refuse others, but after several attempts, you may find that selectively rejecting various projects or opportunities can set you free. If other people's requirements are in line with your primary task and won't embarrass your tight schedule, then you can agree to these requirements. Here are some ways to teach you how to say "no": show the other person that you understand his request. Say something like, "This sounds like a great opportunity, but."
Explain briefly, such as "Frankly speaking, it's a little beyond my ability" or "I have a lot of tasks that are almost due".
Recommend alternatives to each other. For example, you can say, "I can't do it, but I think Wang Can Jr. can do it."
5. Make a choice. If work and family life keep you busy, it is necessary for you to choose between them. Otherwise, you will always be stressed and unhappy. Take a good look at your life and see which side needs more space. Do you often get calls that require you to go back to the office from home? Does the boss always throw you a bunch of tasks at the last minute? Does your financial situation allow you to reduce your workload? If most of your answers are yes, it means that work may have invaded your personal life, but you may be able to discuss with your boss to see if you can reduce your working hours or workload.
If you are a working mother, shortening working hours may make you feel more satisfied. Research shows that women will be happier if they can shorten their working hours to take care of their family needs.
Does your partner or spouse often interrupt your work for some non-urgent things at home? Are you worried about your job performance because you have fun with friends or partners all night? Do you want to leave your job to deal with various errands or do a lot of housework? If your answer to any of the above questions is yes, then your family life is killing your ability to work. For those people in your family who often disturb your work, you must decide whether to draw a line with them.
Method 3: deal with social media
1, respectively, to establish the image of the workplace and personal life. Social media has been rooted in most people's work and family life, so it may be difficult to separate the image of the workplace from the image of personal life. If you are active on the Internet both at work and in your spare time, it is necessary for you to establish a professional image and a personal life image respectively, and to monitor whether the content you post online conforms to different identities. Many people choose to use LinkedIn to keep their professional or academic contacts, and use Facebook or Instagram to interact with family or friends.
Be sure to know how to handle work data and personal data. If you are a telecommuter, you must be clear about the company's policy on dividing work data and personal data. Some companies will provide employees with independent equipment (such as telephones and computers), stipulating that these equipment can only be used for work. Other companies allow employees to work with personal devices. Look for guides related to these things. In addition, ensure that all personal data, such as address books, photos and music, are properly backed up.
3. Limit online activity time. If your job is inseparable from social media, then you may find that the time you use social media is actually much longer than your job needs. Logging in several times a day or logging in at the first notice will not only disrupt work, but also interfere with personal life. You may be disconnected for several hours every day. Or, choose to interact with friends or fans for a short time, then log off your account and stop logging in for the rest of the day.
Method 4: Work from home
1, try to keep a fixed working time. Working from home may be difficult to maintain a fixed working time every day, but it can help you separate your work from your family life. Choose practical working hours and then strictly abide by them. For example, you can set the working hours from 8 am to 4: 30 pm from Monday to Friday. Don't let working hours encroach on personal time. At the end of the day, stop what you are doing, turn off your laptop and leave the workshop.
Try to reconcile working hours and personal life. For example, if you have other things to do on weekends, try to avoid working on weekends.
Even if you work from home, you should dress formally. Change into professional clothes in the morning and other clothes at night. Getting up in the morning and walking directly to the workshop in pajamas is not conducive to your transition to work. Wearing professional clothes at night is not good for you to switch back to your personal life. Get up as early as possible 30 to 60 minutes before starting work so that you can get dressed and get ready for work.
When it's time to relax, be sure to put on your professional clothes. For example, you can change into pajamas or your favorite jeans and T-shirts.
3. take a lunch break. When you are working in the office, it is necessary to take a lunch break, and others may remind you to do so. However, when you work at home, you may not always remember your lunch break. You may be tempted to work continuously or have lunch in the workshop. This is not right. You should take a lunch break as a necessary arrangement in the day. Set the start and end time of lunch break every day. For example, you can set your lunch break from 12 to 12: 30 every day.
Ask your family or partner to remind you to rest during your lunch break. If you are worried that you have forgotten your lunch break, ask a friend or family member to remind you.
4. Stop yourself from doing housework. When you have a rest or call work, you may want to do some housework, but it will blur the line between work and family life, so you shouldn't do it. Don't do housework at work, and don't do things unrelated to work. If you find that you really want to finish a housework, write it down in your notebook and deal with it after the day's work.
Remember, methods always vary from person to person. For example, if you find that folding clothes at rest helps you relax, fold clothes!
Treat yourself well after work every day. It is important to find a simple way to reward yourself for a hard day's work. You can go out for a walk, have a cup of coffee, chat with friends, or announce the end of the day with other pleasant activities. Take part in some social activities after work every day. Working from home may be isolated from the crowd, so it is necessary for you to try to interact with others. You can chat with your partner after work, ask some friends out for coffee, or go to an aerobics class.
Method 5: Find a balance between taking care of children and working.
1, you might as well make your schedule more flexible. Fixed working hours are not necessarily suitable for everyone, especially those with children. You may have to adapt to the rhythm of working for 5 to 10 minutes at a time to meet your children's needs, or you may have to finish what you didn't finish during the day at night. If you are a parent who works at home, you may need to arrange your time flexibly and balance your work and personal life. For example, if you have young children at home, you may have to wait until the children fall asleep or your partner comes home at night, and then work for an hour or two.
If you plan to arrange your schedule flexibly according to your child's needs, you must get the consent of your employer or customer. If your employer expects you to work at fixed hours every day, you may not be able to arrange your time flexibly. However, if you are a freelancer, you may be able to work during the day or at night as you wish.
2. Take care of children in other ways. It is also a good choice to ask someone to take care of your child for several hours every day. If your child's grandparents or other family members live nearby and are willing to take care of your child for several hours every day, you should probably ask them for help. Think about which way you and your child's caregiver are willing to accept. For example, you can invite your parents to your home, or you can send your child to his grandmother's home several times a week.
If economic conditions permit, it is also a good choice to ask a reliable nanny to help with the children. If you have never hired a good nanny, ask friends and family to recommend one.
3. When you are working, let the children have fun through various game boxes. If you can't find someone to look after your children during the day, you need to find other ways to keep your children busy while you are working. One way is to make a game box full of all kinds of interesting things so that children can have something to do while you are working. The game box should be filled with all kinds of toys and gadgets, so that children can have fun while you are working. For example, game boxes can hold crayons, plasticine, coloring books, stickers, puzzles and other toys specially prepared for children.
Prepare the game box one night in advance, and then put it near the workshop. You can find an empty shoe box or other small box, and then choose some toys or other gadgets from the children and put them in the box. You can even put a small surprise gift, such as a new coloring book or a stack of new stickers.
You can also make game boxes with different themes. For example, if you want to teach children to know all kinds of colors, you can make a game box of red toys, a game box of blue toys and so on. You can also make a theme game box based on children's favorite movies, books, performances or characters.
4. Stay in the same room with working children. It is convenient to look after children and provide more entertainment options when children need it. For example, if you work outside the home office, you can find a place to lay a special blanket or game pad for your child to play with his favorite toys on. You may also need to learn how to talk and play with children at work. Interacting with children while working is a skill that you can cultivate through practice.
If you have a backyard for children to play in, or a playground in the park near your home, consider taking your children to work outdoors in the afternoon.