The old man passed away is at home, or in the hospital, the city, the countryside there is a big difference. After all, the city people living space is small, the old man's death is a big deal. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money.
But our rural areas here, the most taboo old man died in the hospital. Because once in the hospital died, the body into the village was blocked, but also can not enter the yard of their own. In other words, the old man as long as there is a breath in, into their own homes, the village people will basically come to see him one last time. If not, they have to set up a funeral tent outside the yard to park, set up a funeral hall to pay homage, and set up a tent to celebrate the event. In spite of this, the sons and daughters of the heart still left regret and guilt, but also in the village fell into the reputation of ungrateful.
Therefore, the old man hospitalized in the condition does not see improvement, the family early in the home to order, make old clothes, clean up the house, the courtyard, and specially burned the old man to live in the dirt floor. The first time I saw this, I was able to see the old man's face, and I was able to see the old man's face, and I was able to see the old man's face. My father-in-law, in this case, was injected with a "strong heart injection" and was carried to the door of his home, and died the next morning.
Before the old man died, there are village elders or understand this aspect of the "rules", shaving, combing hair, wearing clothes, but also the old man died after some of the "old rules" to do, unlike in the hospital to hinder the hands and feet, immediately set up a hearth. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car.
This depends on the situation, my child's grandfather was sick for more than ten years, the last 3 months bedridden, gone when they have not been to the hospital, then the situation if you go to the hospital is the whole body full of tubes, waiting for the last in the hospital, so the last of my mother-in-law decided not to send to the hospital, because it is in the countryside, the home is also spacious, in accordance with the local customs of the rural areas for the funeral; but my mother was also sick for years, and she did not have to go to the hospital, the beginning of this year. She did not bedridden, the first morning of this year sent to the hospital after the rescue failed, died in the hospital, because the house in the city and small, the floor is high, and finally in the funeral parlor booked a 20,000 2 days of the hearth specification ceremony, for very good, that is, her old man did not go back to his hometown, she can understand, after all, now that the city of that point of the house can only be so, when they go all very peacefully! This is very comforting!
For this question, I can answer as a person who has been there.
In the countryside, most of the older people want to pass away at home, not in a hospital.
There is an unwritten rule that the elderly in the countryside, when they get old, they return to their homes, and they don't want to go out and do things that they can't do at home.
My mother was 79 years old, she has always been very good health, she was strong, love of labor, has always been on the good health of the body to carry everything without saying, but also did not stop working, because the disease to see the back, resulting in a weak body. Then see her not right to the hospital, three days later, the doctor said there is no therapeutic value, or go home to take care of the aftermath of it, at that time they were young, has not been able to accept to go home, we went home with an oxygen bag, the same night the mother passed away.
In the old house, the mother walked peacefully, walked frankly, full of wrinkles, instant stretching, the feeling of clear eyes. Although until now can not accept the mother's passing, but she drove the moment of death forever fixed in my mind. I have heard that old people who pass away in this way are happy.
My father was 94 years old, my father was alive, the most worried about the death of the old can not be at home, so the last few years, our sisters four who do not go home, said the fear of rushing to the house of who, only in the two older brother's home a month to take turns to live, but my second brother's family in the county, more than ten miles from home, to go to the second brother's home is his most reluctant, only at this point in time, I still take the opportunity to pick up a few days to live with him, the older brother's house as the old home, the older brother's home is the old home. My elder brother's house, as the old home, was the place he longed for the most, and his daily behavior proved it. The first time I saw this, I was in a coma. I felt that the doctor said that I was dying and had to stay in the ICU, but I refused to go to the ICU because of my father's age and the fact that I was in the ICU, so I let the doctor treat me conservatively and try to ease my father's pain.
Hospitalized the next day, the father's condition is critical, the doctor issued a critical notice, withdraw treatment, to wear all the father died clothes, full of pain to take his father home, halfway suddenly want to touch his father's hand, a touch of surprisingly warm, soft, (I clearly remember my mother was a moment of the body on the stiff). Rush to tell brother and sister, which realized that his father was waiting to go home, the old outside is his taboo these years, he was insisting on the last breath, although the pulse has been unable to touch. But he is still holding on.
A dozen miles away, to the home after settling down father, deliberately to touch his father's hand, his old man rested.
Associated with the demolition of our village this year, listening to my brother and sister-in-law said that many people have cried, especially the elderly, said that the old man did not have a nest, and even a corpse of the place are gone, listening to my heart is very sad, very sad. At the same time, I also feel a touch of relief for my father, if it is my old father built in, I do not know will not have the old nest worry into what kind of appearance.
A lot of young people in the city in the field of work in the elderly, older people have to go back to their hometowns to enjoy their old age, the leaves return to their roots, the dying, in the old family yard, wave after wave of the House of the descendants to see them, perhaps the dying old man in the world's most beautiful memories.
There is an old saying in the countryside: "A golden nest is not as good as one's own earthen nest". Perhaps the most apt answer to this question! I am the landing of the rain, I hope my answer can cause everyone **** Ming.
At the beginning of 2013, my mother suddenly felt like there was something blocking her chest, and it was very hard to bear, so I took her to the hospital for a checkup. I took her to the hospital for a checkup. She was diagnosed with "heart failure".
After more than 10 days of hospitalization, my mother felt better and I discharged her.
However, less than 3 months later, my mother felt sick in her chest again, so I brought her to the hospital again. The doctor said that my mother's "heart failure" had returned.
I felt a little strange and asked the doctor privately, "Wasn't it cured last time I was hospitalized? How come it happened again in less than 3 months?"
The doctor patiently explained: "Your mother has an enlarged heart, medically known as 'heart failure'. This disease cannot be reversed and is terminal."
I reluctantly asked, "Can't the swelling of the heart go down?"
The doctor further explained: "Your mother's heart is like a ball of gas, if the swelling is reduced, it is like a ball of gas, the whole heart will lose the pumping function. And if the swelling continues, it will cause respiratory failure, which is life-threatening. What we can do now is to try to slow down the progress of the disease and prolong the survival period."
When I heard this, I got anxious and asked the doctor, "Then how long can my mother maintain this condition?"
The doctor said, "Maybe a few years, maybe a few months, maybe, in any case it is very dangerous."
Although the doctor's words were very certain, because my mother's health has always been quite strong, plus I never thought that my mother would leave me so soon. Therefore, I was half-convinced by the doctor's words.
This time, too, after more than 10 days of treatment, my mother's illness was once again in remission, and she asked to be discharged. When I saw my mother like this, I had to go to the doctor for advice.
The doctor said, "Your mother's illness is just like that. She herself feels that there is no problem to be discharged, so let her be discharged. Staying in the hospital, there is nothing else we can do. Go back and come back to the hospital again if she feels sick!"
Listening to the doctor, I had to discharge my mother.
This time, after living at home for only a month or so, my mother felt uncomfortable with her heart, and I rushed her to the hospital. After treatment, my mother's condition was again under control and she was discharged from the hospital.
Not long after that, my mother felt sick again, and I had to put my mother in the hospital again.
Since then, after 4 or 5 discharges and admissions, my mother was in and out of the hospital more and more frequently. From the initial 2 or 3 months in and out of the hospital once, to later only a month or so to be in and out of the hospital. It was November 2013, and it had been almost a year since my mother became ill. At this time, the mother was hospitalized again.
Perhaps it is the feeling that the mother's days are numbered, the older brother called us brothers said: "Mom's disease is getting worse, I see why not take some medicine back to eat, do not let her old in the hospital (that is, in the hospital died in the meaning of)".
Big brother said this means that, according to our local customs, people old (dead) outside and then transported back, it is "cold corpse" (please forgive me for my mother's disrespect) into the house, it will be unlucky. But if you die at home, it's a "hot funeral", and since your mother is almost 80 years old, it's a "white wedding", and people won't gossip about it.
When I heard, I couldn't help but be angry, not waiting for the other two brothers to take a position, I said loudly: "This is absolutely not! I can not stand by and watch my mom wait for death at home! I can't just stand by and watch my mom die at home!
The other 2 brothers, seeing that I was angry, just remained silent.
I realized that I was too impulsive when I saw that my brothers were silent, so I explained to them.
I said that even though mom's illness was said to be incurable, she didn't know it herself (we kept it from her, she thought she had a normal heart attack), and she had always thought she was curable. Therefore, she has still been holding on to the hope of life and is actively cooperating with the treatment. In addition, even though my mother is very sick, her mind has always been clear. If we put her on medication at home now, she will definitely fall into fear and despair immediately. On the one hand, she will think that she is terminally ill and cannot be cured, and will fall into the fear of "death"; on the other hand, the mother will think, "I have raised so many children, and now that I am sick, but I am not allowed to go to the hospital, isn't that letting me wait for death at home"? If this is really the case, before she dies, she will definitely despair of our children, failing her in raising them! Those superstitious things and other people's gossip, how can they compare to the mother's parenting?
After listening to my explanation, my brothers finally seemed to understand and agreed to hospitalize my mother until she grew old in the hospital.
On December 7, 2013, at 11:00 pm, more than 20 days after her last hospitalization, my mother died peacefully in the hospital.
On that day, I made dinner and brought it to my mother's hospital room at 6 pm. My mother was sitting on the hospital bed talking to my father, and although she looked a little weak, she was in good spirits.
I greeted my father and fed my mother at the same time.
This meal, my mother just ate a few mouthfuls symbolically and then could not eat any more, so I gave my mother some water to drink. After that, my mother destroyed me to go back earlier.
I took a look at the time, it was only 7 o'clock in the evening.
It's a good thing that I'm not a big fan of the idea that you're not a big fan of the idea.
After about 10 minutes, my mother fell asleep with heavy breathing (maybe she was in a coma because she never woke up, but I don't know).
I called my mother a few times, but she didn't respond except for her heavy breathing. I saw that my mother was breathing heavily, but her breathing rate seemed normal and I thought she was asleep.
So I told my father, "I'm going home now that my mother is asleep, and I'll bring dinner tomorrow. If something happens in the evening, remember to call me.
My father said, "Okay.
Back at home, because I was tired, I washed up a little bit and went to bed alone (my wife went out to visit the children who were studying that day).
Just when I was in a daze, the phone rang at my bedside. I picked up the phone and I saw that it was my father calling, and I immediately felt bad.
I picked up the phone to listen to, talking to my mother living in the same room with the family members of the escort, only to hear him say on the phone, your mother can not, is being rescued, you quickly come. I heard, hurriedly climbed up, dressed, and then rushed to glance at the time. The first time I saw this is when I was in the middle of the night, when I was in the middle of the night.
Then, I rushed to the hospital as fast as possible (the hospital is very close to my home, less than 10 minutes walk). At that time, the doctors were trying to save my mother's life in the hospital room.
However, no matter how hard the doctors tried, my mother was still gone.
My mother's death was sudden, but she died peacefully!
Neither I, nor my father, nor my mother herself, expected her to go that night.
There was no pain, no fear; my mother went in her sleep.
Although the suddenness of her death left my mother with no words before she left, I think it was worth it. I think it was worth it, because my mother thought she was still alive, and she didn't tell us what she was going to do. I was sorry to see her go, but I didn't want her to leave in despair.
My mother's peaceful death was a blessing!
From my experience, if an elderly person in the family is really seriously ill and there is no cure, we can choose to put him/her in the hospital for maintenance treatment and let him/her pass away peacefully in the hospital. This has the following benefits:
First, avoid the elderly to die in fear. The fear of death is inherent in most people, and older people are especially afraid of death.
Let the old man die in the hospital, he will feel that the doctor did not give up, he still has hope, can effectively reduce or even completely avoid (like my mother) the old man before the death of fear of death.
Second, to avoid the old man's misunderstanding of their children. As the saying goes, raising children protects against old age. Especially when a person is old and sick, the dependence on children is especially strong. It can be said that there is no old man who does not want his children to save him after the disease.
So, when an old man has an incurable disease, if his children choose to let him die at home, the old man is very likely to have a sense of "no matter how many children there are, it's useless". Perhaps the old man will not say it out loud, but his heart will be filled with disappointment. He may even mistakenly think that his children are asking him to stay at home and "wait for death". But if you let the old man die in the hospital, all misunderstandings can be avoided.
Three, you can make your own peace of mind. Although it is said that life and death are not by oneself. But, do your best to let the old man pass away peacefully. I think this is the wish of every child. Hospitals are the best place to let the elderly pass away peacefully as a place to care for them before they die. Therefore, choosing to let the elderly die in the hospital is the best way to make their children feel at ease.
Of course, if the old man insists on going back to his roots, and does not want to "die" in a hospital, we must naturally follow his wishes and let him die at home.
Additionally, if an elderly person is in a coma and there is no point in staying in the hospital, we can consider letting them return to their roots and die at home.
These are my answers to this question.
The title should be:Is it better for an old man to die at home?
The title should be: "Is it better for the elderly to die at home or in a hospital?
This is a question that each family member, or the old man himself, should decide! If it is me, to the extent that the disease is very sick, or they have been all organs are not working to go to the hospital is not meaningful. However, if the children of the family are afraid that dying in the house will give them a shadow of a doubt about living in the house in the future, then let's do what the children think! However, I think, if there is no therapeutic effect, or to give up the so-called rescue and unnecessary treatment, there is no need to so-called try to delay the life of the kind of waste of money is not the main, but the patient is more painful to give up their lives is also the final relief, live when we have to have the heart to prepare, correctly face life and death. Especially in the old age, no do not think too much, not to leave any will to children so and so buy what cemetery ah! Ashes are fertilizer! What can be planted, or scattered to the nature ah!
The old man passed away, is it better to die at home or in the hospital?
This question varies from region to region.
In our small city, the old people have a saying that people passed away outside, including hospitals, the future is a lonely ghost.
Often heard who who the elderly in the hospital or nursing home, there is still a breath of time, we have to hurry to pull home, some even take the oxygen bag to maintain that breath, and then pull out the oxygen bag after arriving at home, the old man fell out of gas.
The reason for this is to prevent the elderly from dying outside.
This is related to local customs.
Maybe it's the explanation of falling back to the roots.
My mother in this year's Spring Festival after fifteen, because both lungs infected with fluid, resulting in lung cancer, coughing, went to the hospital, stayed in the hospital for twelve days, coughing symptoms are better, she shouted home, my sister and I could not argue with her, so I had to leave the hospital and go home.
In the home to stay a dozen days, passed away, is at home to go.
Looking at my mom's peaceful appearance, I think she was satisfied. She just wanted to die in her own home.
Nowadays, old people in their eighties and nineties are from the old society to the new society, and the feudalism and superstition of ghosts and gods are still more serious.
I think with the passage of time, the old generation is slowly leaving us, and in the new society born after the 50s and 60s, will certainly change this concept.
Everyone has to face life and death, the future of environmental protection will become more and more standardized, perhaps, by the time our ashes scattered rivers, perhaps planted under the tree ......
I think so on this issue. When the old man's health condition is serious, whether to choose to spend the last time at home or in the hospital, is in different customs, different regional environment, different understanding of the concept of different economic conditions, and the active and passive choice, and its benefits of what to consider really not much.
Choose to let the elderly died at home for the following reasons:
1, the economic energy; the elderly disease has been no medicine can be saved, in the hospital to spend a lot of money on medical expenses, take up a lot of manpower and material resources, the feeling of tossing the old man can not live in peace;
2, the rural family gatherings of customs and traditions: the old man at home to die at home a lifetime of peace and security, so the old man to live at home and then go, the soul does not lose the wild;
3, the hospital is too far away from home, rather than go home to take care of the elderly to facilitate the money, visiting friends and relatives to facilitate the reception, while the family farm work can be taken into account;
4, spacious rural suburban bungalow compound, in the last moments of the old man to put on the life jacket, lying in the spirit bed, stop the needle and stop taking medication, water and food can be used to use, the children take turns to listen to look at the wait;
5, the old man is gone, the community village committees Open a death certificate, cremation of the big funeral toss 3-7 days to finish.
Choose to die in the hospital,
1, spouses and children strive to prolong life, do not give up the last hope;
2, the attending physician's opinion is not clear, no one in the family advocate to give up the treatment;
3, know that the treatment is ineffective, the family economy is generous or the conditions of health insurance reimbursement;
4, the children are busy at work, in the hospital, there is a doctor and a nurse! At home also have to ask the nurse nanny, a lot of pulling energy, not to mention the city housing is small, more children in whose home is also inappropriate;
5, housing someone died, and its room on the self-occupation, rental, sale are affected. Home housing is narrow, arranged for anyone who is not convenient, died in the hospital directly funeral home storage cremation farewell fast;
6, but also a little worried about family, friends, neighbors and colleagues gossip "do not try to salvage," the face does not look good.
The old man passed away is best in their own homes. This is also the last wish of the elderly. But now many people's homes in the city, the street. Always feel a little afraid to pass away at home. This is normal and understandable. It's good to have a house at home. My father had lung cancer, he lasted more than 4 months, and he stayed at my brother's house on the street. We have a house in our hometown. He was always clamoring to go back home to die. It's hard to take care of it back home. One night he told us he had to come home tomorrow. It was really old fire to see him. Early the next morning, my brother and his family asked me to see my dad, they bought up what they needed to buy, went home and cleaned up. Took my dad back home at 6pm. As a result, passed away at 8 o'clock.
The old man passed away, passed away at home or in the hospital. I don't think there's a standard answer to this, I think it's all right. I can only talk about the customs and habits of the western part of Guangdong. I come from a rural area in western Guangdong, and I worked hard in the Pearl River Delta, and my mother was with me. We often took my mother on trips to various places, and we also tasted cuisines from different parts of the country. In the last two years, my mother's health deteriorated and she asked to go back to her hometown. We all know the saying of "return to one's roots". I had to send my mother back to my brother's home to live. I paid all the living expenses and medical expenses. I went back and forth to visit my mother many times a year. When my mother had a fall, we immediately sent her to the hospital. The doctors did their best, but the old man's machinery was broken. The doctor clearly told us there was no way to cure her. I asked my mother if she would like to come to a PRD city. My unconscious mother shook her head no. I asked my mother if she was willing to go back to my brother's house. She shook her head no. In fact, my brother was opposed to my mother passing away in his home for fear of affecting the feelings of the small children. My mother was in a coma but made the right decision for the sake of her offspring. In the end, with us watching over her, my mother passed away peacefully. She was finally cremated and buried. I said goodbye to my mother in a simple way. This is also the way my mother supported me. I also carried out the burial according to the Chinese style of generous support. Lastly, I suggest that those who are able to do so should arrange to pass away at home! If you don't have the means, it's not a bad idea to do it in a hospital, where the environment is clean and the service is good.
What and where a person dies is, in most cases, not up to them. In the case of being able to choose, there is no big difference between choosing to pass away at home or in a hospital.
As long as there is dignity in the process of passing away, and it is not so painful, it is a complete success. There is no need to dwell on whether it is better to pass away at home or in a hospital. It doesn't make a lot of sense to get hung up on where to go.
The older the old man passed away, usually due to illness. The old man who died without a disease, few and far between. When the elderly are sick, they have to go to the hospital. Treating illnesses in hospitals is the right thing to do.
Some elderly people have diseases that are incurable. Knowing that they can not be cured in the hospital, they still want to be treated in the hospital. Hospitals have professional doctors and specialized equipment that can maximize the life of the elderly.
There are also some old people who have incurable diseases. They know that they can't be cured in the hospital, and they don't want to suffer the pain of the disease. They choose to give up hospital treatment and return home to wait for death. There are times when death is a relief.
Brother Ran believes that whether an elderly person chooses to pass away at home or in a hospital, it is important to respect the wishes of the elderly. If the old man wishes to be at home, he should be at home. If the old man wants to be in the hospital, he is in the hospital. Respecting the wishes of the elderly is what the family should do.