Don't ever overthink it, names are just for calling people.
By calling you by your full name in a WeChat group, the leader is not alienating you, but no longer treating you as a child.
There are only two kinds of people who will call you by your full name when they are angry, one is a parent and the other is a lover.
For example, when you were a kid, you would hear "Xiong Da hurry up and do your homework!"
The most extreme name of the lovers is not the full name, but "X's", once called to this point, basically to the sword.
The rules for addressing people in the workplace are completely different. In ancient times, the name is parents, the emperor, the governor can be called, between the peers call each other word, subordinates call superiors, and even the word do not dare to call, generally call "boss man" "Mr. Lao" "a phase "" a governor ", or with the number or place of origin to refer to.
But in any case, there is one thing: he is more official than you, call your name is not rude.
Today's Chinese basically don't take characters anymore, and coworkers have no problem calling each other by their first names.
Some leaders will call their subordinates "Xiao Xiong", "Xiao Ou", which is a sign of love and care for young colleagues. You're a little older, seniority is also deep, and then call you "small so-and-so" is not appropriate.
The full name sounds less intimate, but it's a rite of passage for everyone.
Leaders call subordinates full name, in addition to "start you as an adult", there are several reasons: finally remember your name
Most of the leaders can not remember the name of the subordinates of the subordinates of the subordinates of the irrelevant, and even more outrageous subordinates can not remember what the last name.
You must have heard the leadership so shouting people: within a who, within a young man, yellow hair, glasses, fat ......
Adjectives a bunch of frozen can not say the name of the person being shouted also hurt self-esteem.
◆ Protagonist is equipped with a name
Remember what the subordinate's last name is, it is a good way for the leader to be lazy, and then add a "small" word, but also seems to be kind.
When you make achievements, the leader found "ouch this child is good oh" when he will remember your full name.
Recognizing people, he could not wait to let you know, so he called you by your full name.
◆? The same family name of the subordinates
The same family name, shouting a "small X", there may be two or three people should. For example, if Lao Cao shouted "Xiao Zhang", Zhang Liao, Zhang He, Zhang Yan, and Zhang Shi would all respond, not knowing who they were shouting at.
The good thing is that we have four Lao Cao, can be divided into orders, the arrangement of work if the division of labor is not clear, it is easy to make mistakes. The better way is to shout the full name.
◆? Leaders want to avoid suspicion
Some leaders will try to hide the difference between close and distant, "small X" still sounds intimate.
The situation is more dangerous work unit, the leadership will try to equalize the subordinates shouting full name, especially call subordinates of the opposite sex, are called the full name does not show, so as not to be over-interpreted by others.
There is also a situation where the leader does not want his personal preference to lead the team to have a mountain, and wants to create a team atmosphere of equality between subordinates. In this case, if the leader calls his subordinates "Little X", he will be embarrassed to meet his older subordinates, so it is better to call all of them by their full names.
Coach Anzai shouted every child's last name
Since we've talked about the rules for leaders to address people, let's talk about how ordinary employees should address their coworkers.
There are quite a few scruples about shouting at people in the workplace, and trying to get close to force intimacy, but will invite suspicion.
Wrong 1: shout brother shout sister
Tianjin custom is to shout women regardless of age "junction", but the workplace, it is best not to call brother called sister.
Local customs are not suitable to bring to the workplace, one is not professional, and the other makes people feel too deliberate.
I mentioned the concept of "high intimacy value" in my "Relationship Tips", which makes a lot of people uncomfortable and even defensive: what are you after?
Additionally, many people don't like these types of "honorifics".
Some people would say, "I'm so young, why are you calling me old?"
◆ The youngster doesn't like it when people call him brother
Similarly, don't call him uncle, aunt, or grandpa. They're just a few years older than you, and they didn't write "Moonchild", so how does that make them your great-aunt?
Additionally, if you like someone in particular and really want to call them "brother" or "sister," it's best to keep that respect in reserve.
When you call someone "sis", will the other person mind and be jealous? There is no point in calling out "sis" and inviting resentment from both of you.
Mistake 2: openly shouting nicknames
Some people like to give close colleagues nicknames, tiger back and waist with accent, called people "XiongDa", pig waist face, called people "bald strong! "
The nicknames usually carry the meaning of flirtation, and the relationship is good enough to fight privately, but the workplace is so playful that it seems unprofessional.
"Journey to the West" in the monk did a good job, although the lines come and go is "grabbed" and "right", but he has always been to other colleagues to use the official name "big brother " and "Second Brother" to other colleagues, instead of "Monkey Brother" and "Pig Brother". This has helped him establish a calm, honest and hardworking persona.
◆ A shouting method before and after people
The nickname of the leader is even more not to be called indiscriminately. Pig Bajie to the Tang Monk nicknamed, said the master "name Chen in the end", this is very serious, typical piggyback.
Mistake 3: shouting nicknames/breast names
Private and public are not suitable to shout people's nicknames or breast names.
In the past, when children were difficult to raise, many parents worried about their children's premature deaths and would give their children a "cheap name" when they were young, such as "dog", believing that cheap names are good for raising children.
While the medical science is now advanced, the habit of naming the child still continues, not necessarily cheap, but still the elders in use.
Once you call someone else's nickname, there is a suspicion of pressure, as if you are someone's family or even elders.
◆ A hui is a black name, and family members shouldn't be called that
Even if the nickname or breast name is good, the workplace is not the place to announce your relationship, and it's easy to attract jealousy.
Mistake #4: Using a relationship title
"Senior" or "brother" is not a problem in the lab, but if you're in a big company and you're still using a title to address your coworkers or leaders, it's not appropriate. or a leader, it's not appropriate.
People who have seen the old movie know that every time the Whampoa department calls Chiang Kai-shek "principal", the miscellaneous army will have to disobey the officer and do something about it.
It's more comfortable to have a sense of distance
I can't call out this or that, but I'm in constant contact with my colleagues, and it's too awkward to call them by their full names, so what should I do?
I'll give you a "two words":
Name is a three-word coworker, to show closeness you can only call the name, such as "Kotaku", or the name of the superimposed characters, such as "
The name is two words of colleagues, called the full name, such as "cat head".
Some people's names are three words, but they are also called by superimposed characters, depending on the individual's wishes, such as "Xiong Taixing" superimposed characters into "Mrs.", which is very inappropriate.
As for nodding acquaintances, the level of colleagues follow the "two words", the level higher than their colleagues or leaders, shouting the surname + position abbreviation.
If it is an organization, you can call each other "comrade".
Schools, media or Shandong Company, you can call each other "teacher".
Finally, to give newcomers to the workplace a tip of judgment.
Whether or not they are reused by the leadership, some of the changes in the name, meet with no greeting, are not done accurately.
To see how he organized your work.
Leader to send you work, send a lot of work, send important work, but also give you a promotion and a raise, this is the real reuse you.
Money has been shoved into your hands, and you're still obsessing about a name!