A friend of mine confided in me that when she first entered the company, her coworkers were quite friendly and often called her for dinner, and some people waited for her to leave after work, but the original atmosphere was quite good and was broken in the moment she got promoted and got a raise.
Because of her late entry into the company, less experience, so we did not expect her to be promoted, but also in the way of professional ability, other people can not pick the wrong, in the usual get along with the alienation of her.
At first it was a handful of people, then more and more, sometimes she took the initiative to say hello, the other surface is not cold, but several times have seen turn around towards her rolling eyes behavior.
Friends are very puzzled, so good people, why often do not like people? In fact, the reason couldn't be simpler, it's just that the wood shows in the forest, and the tree attracts the wind.
Jealousy
The most straightforward reason stems from jealousy.
Everyone was at a level, but on a certain day, you changed, with more glittering enchantment, the leadership appreciated you, the surrounding people appreciate and admire, which makes the narrow-minded people, easy to derive the emotion of jealousy.
She thinks she is not worse than you, so it will be in the heart of the question, what makes you superior, what makes you get everyone's compliments, jealous of the crazy growth, but do not want to admit that they are jealous, you will be blemished, catch a little handle, it is a big deal.
The human heart can not stand the temptation, so in the heart of the encouragement of a few people, will make the next person is forced to fit in and go with the flow, the more the number of people, the more people do not treat you.
As you continue to optimize yourself, rapid growth, the distance is drawn even greater, and the ability to not match the jealousy will be blinded, so that you were sidelined, isolated, but you do not need to be afraid, because sooner or later you will meet with you comparable to the friends.
Contrast
People are not afraid of being poor, but they are afraid of contrast.
Particularly in your excellent claim, so that others have no place to hide, dim, alienate you, it becomes natural.
For example, in the company to work, you complete the work of good efficiency, speed, but also to make better suggestions, but sitting in front of you before and after the right and left colleagues, are holding a mixed food and drink mixed salary state, so you will form a stark contrast between.
The heart of the gas, malicious speculation can not be avoided, they hate you deliberately show off posturing, do not like you is also the norm.
Or maybe you're extremely good at studying, and others use several classes to get through the problem, you just have to listen to it once, and you'll even be able to learn from it.
In the huge contrast, any person who wants to approach you, will consider two or three, after all, who are afraid of in your smart top, was compared to the opposite of "stupid".
So in your excellence, a lot of people not as good as you do not want to give you as a foil, will not treat you.
As I said at the beginning of the article, the wood is good in the forest, and the trees attract the wind, and your excellence is destined to be a distinctive and extraordinary road.
And can withstand much denigration, can have much achievement, so when you are good enough to let people do not see, should be proud, not anxious, after all, the more people do not like you, that you more powerful.
Excellent you, want to achieve in all aspects of the achievement, always have to first in sharpening the way forward, through a few obstacles to your stumbling blocks, as your whetstone, wait until you cross the past, the sword can show its sharp side, so that your vision and the level will be more on the next level.
Moreover, not a road people, ultimately can not go together, and in the road of mud, only like-minded people are worth your friendship, and therefore can withstand the denigration, in the lonely after the possession of other people do not envy over.