There is also a friend, although the two are in a city, but far away, can not meet every day, so the two made a date, once a day to call.
The first two months are fine, then slowly annoying, every day to talk about that sentence, he felt boring.
Then, he deliberately did not answer, or did not say a few words to make excuses that he was busy, and then hang up.
Sometimes the girlfriend even hit a number of people do not answer, I think he will not be in trouble, crazy call everywhere to find him. Finally picked up and said: I'm busy, nothing, do not always call me.
What are you busy with? I don't know.
Anyway, it is very busy.
These are the first time I've ever seen a person with a high school diploma, and I've never seen a person with a high school diploma, so I don't know what to do.
Even said you do not care what I am busy, I just do not have time to answer the phone. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.
In my opinion, this has been a very reasonable girlfriend, never disturbed during working hours, you said you would have time to say, I have been waiting, sometimes even until midnight, the phone slightly vibrate, immediately jumped up.
Then the two peacefully broke up, soon after the girlfriend re-love, it is said that the other party is mild-tempered, the phone are twenty-four hours on, when the mood is bad, call him, but also must be picked up. The wedding, the girl said to him, thank you, never do not pick up my phone.
This is a kind of security, called "I need you when, can find you."
I remember another time, I went out to eat with my friends, sitting next to us is a young couple, the girl with the menu has been asked, we eat this how? I think this is pretty good, what do you think? Do you have anything you want to eat? Do you want to look at the menu? And the boy just ah ah answered two sound, has been looking down just playing with the phone.
Then the woman was not happy, closed the menu and said, you have been holding the phone why?
The man said there is nothing to do, just casually look.
Honestly, I can't sit still when I hear this, can you not look at your cell phone when you eat, or next time you eat, you'll be alone with your cell phone to eat.
This reminds me of a paragraph I once saw, said a couple of evening ready to go out shopping, the girl has been trying on clothes, and then asked his boyfriend to wear which suitable good-looking, he did not look at said all, during this period of time has been playing with the cell phone game. After that, the girl said coldly, then I'll go out like this. The man felt the atmosphere is not quite right, instinctively turned back to look, girlfriend bare.
The basis of love is to sing together, have questions and answers, one side of the time, the other side will give a response, rather than only "um" "ah" "oh" "Okay" and nothing more.
If it's just one person talking, and the other person doesn't listen or respond to anything, then what are you looking for in a partner?
So the second type of security is, "When I talk, I know you're listening too."
A lot of boys for his girlfriend to know their cell phone password is always very disgusting, that belongs to personal privacy, even if his girlfriend, should also have their own private space.
In this regard, I would like to say, you are cheating? You are doing something bad or do something wrong to her? Did you break the law? If none of them, the heart is open, then what are you afraid of, she has to know what to see to show her ah. It's not like you have anything to lose, for her, but gained valuable trust and security. On the contrary, the more you do not give her to see, the more she feels that you are hiding something from her, thus thinking nonsense.
Does she really want to see your phone? Not necessarily.
She just wants to know if you are hiding something from her.
Every day you hide, even if you are innocent, but how do you let the other side think.
Besides, privacy is to friends, coworkers, parents and relatives, strangers, not to the people around you, if a person who wants to be with you night and day, and grow old together, can not you know the root of the matter, then what is the meaning of being together?
This is the third kind of security, "I hope you are in front of me, no secrets."
What exactly is security?
Many people always feel that security is a kind of nebulous thing, invisible and unable to feel, and can not feel, is a kind of insubstantial things, which have money, houses, cars and other real things to come to the good.
Is security really very vague?
No, security is very realistic, summarized in one sentence: "No matter what happens, I know that you have been there.
Work: a stable job, a stable income, can be competent in their own work and small achievements, the relationship between colleagues, and the leadership with the work, at least in the work of a sense of security.
Life: food and clothing, physical health, the elderly are not sick, the child is learning well, surrounded by three or five confidantes, daily life difficulties can basically solve their own, family stability and harmony, there is no worrying about things, in terms of life, there is a sense of security.
For people: treat people honestly, good to people, pro-virtuous people, far from the evil evil and selfish people, willing to help people, people respect people high, people have a sense of security.
On the matter of: not to do harm to others, not to do harm to themselves, with their own conscience and conscience to do things, can be done with a clear conscience, on the sky, the next to the ground; not to do more than their own ability to do more big things, so that in the matter of a sense of security.
In short, in order to have a sense of security, in terms of work needs to be stable, in terms of life is not strained, no patients at home; people do not do anything wrong; things to conscience.
, - First, security is a feeling, a psychological; is from the performance of one party to bring the other party's feeling; is a let people can rest assured that you can rely on, you can believe that the performance of the speech and demeanor and other aspects of the performance of the bring.
Secondly, whether a sense of security can be generated comes from a variety of factors, both subjective and objective. Your question belongs to the objective, we will mainly talk about this aspect. To let the other side to produce a sense of security, the first thing to do is to let the other side believe in themselves. Let the other party to believe in themselves this is not an easy thing, you must be able to reflect in the words and behavior, such as: talk to count, said to do, do not do not do not mess commitment; to often give her to say her heart, say what you think, often greetings and care about her life; no matter how busy do not ignore her, and often give her some surprises; do not be too good to the other girls, words and actions are The same; willing to change your bad habits for him.
Third, material security.
Third, the material security, if you want to really let her rest assured, you must also specific material security, that is to say, you must let her feel, life needs are not worry, do not have to worry about not having the money to live, which is in fact a fairly important factor.
What is a sense of security? It is whether the individual has a sense of security. Whether working, living or resting always remember to be vigilant, strengthen personal safety awareness, prevention, you can reduce the harm of insecurity on their own.
People every day is no wonder that the work in the post, home from work, plus the road to and from. Before leaving home, whether to check the water, electricity, gas valves and doors and windows closed? Here the emphasis is on home security. Do people at least understand that electricity and fire in case of accident, but cruel and merciless.
On the job, how much do you know about production safety? Protective clothing wear whether standardized, whether the operating process has produced paralysis, there is also a personal industrial hygiene is done to the right, all of this is related to personal life, health and safety.
Industrialized production of raw materials, materials and other materials used, especially in the chemical industry, each substance more or less toxic and harmful components. As a specific operator, every day with these things to deal with, their own protection awareness is weak, but the harm is their own health.
The most realistic example is the new coronavirus outbreak in Wuhan. All medical personnel participating in the rescue must wear protective clothing in accordance with the requirements. This protective clothing is very uncomfortable to wear. Because it is made of special materials, airtight, once worn on the body to participate in the intense rescue work, water can not drink, the internal emergency also need to temporarily hold back. If someone is careless, protective clothing wear irregularities, resulting in damage to the individual's life and health to take a gamble.
So, the human sense of security is always playing a role. It is also important to be vigilant and take precautionary measures even when you are resting. Nowadays, people often use public holidays to go out to travel, to a strange place, the first thing to observe is the safety of the hotel hotel escape channel, there are personal property safety precautions, do not eat or drink any food and drink given by strangers.
Personal safety is only their own responsibility, no one can replace. Now the whole society, people's mobility is very large, especially in the city can be said to be a lot of cars, you touch Te, but also beware of Te touch you ah! It is a motorized bicycle to touch you, but also will die, this is a thousand true cases.
So, safety is no small matter. Open your eyes every day, you can not be careless. (2020/02/07)
The sense of security is a subjective experience of the individual and a physiological need of the individual. It has little to do with the subjective world, and is mainly a perception and feeling within the self.
People who lack a sense of security, the main manifestation: often feel threatened and anxious; not confident, pessimistic; nervous, self-sensitive. For example, checking the door locks many times; not daring to reject colleagues' suggestions at work; sleeping with the lights on, etc.; not daring to reject for fear of breaking up in a relationship, etc.
Whereas people with a sense of security hold a trusting, tolerant, friendly, and enthusiastic attitude towards others; optimistic tendencies, cheerfulness; good self-estimation; and a positive attitude towards reality. For example, when the child is sick, less crying; life, work, the courage to take responsibility; unemployment is able to start from scratch, etc.
The real security comes from our heart, face yourself, the world is beautiful everywhere.
Happy New Year friends, I'm not much culture, specifically how to say it, here I have a few words.
The sense of security refers to the safety of our people's lives, property security specifically embodied in the two aspects of work and life.
First, when we work on the work of a series of problems faced. Such as errors in the work, will cause their own personal safety and that of others, such as factory employees, the national cause of single industry and so on will be .
Second, in the life of the words is also true, the contradiction between people disputes and so on will, for example, go to the market today to buy food contradiction, there may be a big fight, the neighbors of the chicken hair between the small things will happen
The problem of a thousand people a thousand faces, with everyone's upbringing related to the environment, for the average person for the wife and children may be satisfied with a hot bed, for the family conditions are better, may have a higher pursuit and enjoyment of the family. There may be a higher pursuit and enjoyment, in fact, Maslow's theory of needs can explain this problem very well, food, clothing, housing and transportation is the most basic, is the poor people's sense of security, the rich people are more important to the realization of self-worth!
It is said that if you have money, you will have security, if you find a man who is good to me, I will have security, and if my parents are very good, I will have security.
In fact, it is not, on the contrary, security is not given to you by others, but by yourself, the work of their own insights, their own way of solving the problem, the life of self-independence, spiritual independence, a positive and confident attitude towards life, friendly to strangers, to maintain their own point of view.
The army defends the country. The public prosecutor and the police violate internal security. Everyone lives and works in peace and contentment, with food, clothing, shelter and transportation in abundance
Cell phones have phone bills, cars have gas, and money in the card is the best security.