Take children for example. They like to destroy things. In the past, parents could only try their best to stop their children and clean up the mess behind them, but now parents always have many surprisingly difficult tricks.
Now I will briefly introduce two tricks to you.
The first trick: self-inflicted.
Some babies always have some destructive factors in their bodies. If they are dishonest at home, they will be naughty when they go out.
Look at this one-year-old baby, round face, lovely face. In fact, he is a little king of destruction. The child's hands were dishonest when his mother pushed him with a cart.
Pushed to the place where oranges are sold, the milk doll reached in and began to pick orange peels. Maybe the orange peel was hard, maybe the time of committing the crime was not enough, and the orange was not smashed, but there were several scars.
After a while, after visiting the peach area, the child looked at the peach at hand and put his hand in it. You know, ripe peaches are very soft.
So the child kept pushing hard and the peach was poked with a hole. While the mother was not looking, the child kept pinching peaches.
My mother's face cooled when she saw this scene, and she wondered why the child was so thin. So her mother taught her children not to do this, but the children didn't listen because they were young.
The mother played a trick to get rid of the child's bad habits. She took the children to the place where durian was sold.
As we all know, durian shells are hard. If you clap hard, it will still hurt, so the mother and the baby said, "Come on, don't be afraid of pain, clap hard."
Children don't know durian's tough armor. When they saw durian, they were excited to shoot it. Who knew durian actually stung people? Although it didn't take much effort, the child still cried in pain and shouted for his mother with his mouth open.
Although it seems cruel, the mother's method is immediate, letting the child know what is self-inflicted and what is pain.
After this time, the children will never touch the things in the supermarket casually, and they will be curious and dare not destroy them casually in the future. After all, it will be counterproductive.
If you nag a hundred words, it is better to let the children suffer some losses themselves, and they will learn a long lesson later.
The second measure: apply what you have learned.
Many children like to sabotage at home. If there are twins at home, the destructive power will be even greater. After all, it is a double crime. However, young parents did not show panic.
This is an online celebrity family with a pair of twin sons, who are very cute, but at an active age. Their biggest hobby is "tearing books". If they are not careful, there will be a pile of paper scraps at home.
The book I bought for my children was accidentally torn by them, so my parents came up with a coup. Without violent education and severe reprimand, things were solved.
Since the child likes to tear things, let him tear enough, so the parents took out a pot of cabbage, changed the paper into cabbage, and let the two children tear it hard.
The two children squatted on the ground, tearing cabbage seriously, and looked cheerful. Mom and dad's actions are really great.
This can not only stop children's destructive behavior, but also let children do housework and reduce the burden of housework.
The child also unconsciously assumed a sense of family responsibility. My mother was very pleased to see two children tearing cabbage, and sighed: "It is not without benefits for children to tear books."
It seems that the task of tearing cabbage in the future is for children, and parents are responsible for cooking. It is really a clear division of labor and a harmonious family.
Netizens are also teasing:
"It's a pity that I finally learned to tear things, but I don't tear cabbage. I want to apply what I have learned. "
"How important it is to have a professional counterpart."
In fact, we can also find that in life, some children are typical "good babies", while others are typical saboteurs, which can be described as human bombs, destroying wherever they go.
When I'm at home, I throw things around, easily smash a few fragile items, and I can't wait to lift the plate when I eat. I have a strong desire to destroy, and my parents called me "my hands are short".
Many parents even worry: "Children are so skinny when they are so young, but they will grow up." In fact, if we find out the causes of children's destruction and do a good job of guidance, I believe that children will not like destruction so much.
The destruction of young children may be unintentional.
Some children are too young, with incomplete physical development and poor mobility. Their destruction is more unconscious. For example, if you let him take the quilt, he will fall with a bang.
That's because his strength is really insufficient, and his muscles and nervous system are not well developed.
Too young children don't know the world clearly, so many things are distinguished by smelling, touching and falling. This is an exploration of the unknown world, not a deliberate destruction.
Therefore, for the baby, parents can be as tolerant as possible, put away the dangers and valuables to avoid damage and injury, and give the baby some toys to ease the baby's curiosity.
Don't scare the baby because of his fierce attitude, because they really didn't mean it, just because they haven't developed well.
A sense of order has not yet been established.
Children are destructive because they have not yet established a sense of order. Therefore, when children are 2 to 4 years old, they must form a sense of order and let them know the rules.
Venting psychology
Because parents don't meet their children's requirements, children lose their temper, vent their dissatisfied interests and use extortion to achieve their personal goals.
Parents can't easily tolerate some unreasonable demands and injuries of their children. They need to severely criticize their children and tell them why it is wrong to do so.
If the child is still like this, parents can take some appropriate punishment measures, such as the child breaking a toy and then punishing him for not buying toys for three months.
Xuan dad has something to say.
Children can't always be good babies when they grow up. Parents can let their children play with their temper occasionally, but they can't let their children become spoiled kings. Only by guiding children correctly can they grow into an excellent person.