"upgrade" or "have children"
● Armani employees in foreign companies Our company has three working mothers, which is very "typical" in my opinion.
S, one year older than me, and my son is in grade one this year. The child was born prematurely and recovered well. Every time someone learns that she has become a mother, she will be surprised. H, older than me, capable, unmarried. It is said that the boss took part in an industry activity organized by her and spared no expense to dig her up. J, a new mother, our company is the first company she took over after giving birth to a baby. She has rich experience, strong ability and good performance, which is quite appreciated by her boss.
Usually, when I mention the baby, I will be very happy and talk endlessly. I can see that I am intoxicated with the joy of being a mother.
Look at myself, but I don't know what to do-I have a good relationship with my boyfriend, I plan to get married this year, and then I will consider having children. Parents urged behind: "It will be a trouble to help you bring up your children while we are strong now." But I am hesitant myself: I will "stand" soon, and my career has just sprinted. I really don't want to carry the burden of children at this juncture.
In fact, I also know that I will be "robbed" sooner or later-money and status will be "robbed" unless God takes care of me and meets a boss who cares about women (of course, this is not impossible, just impossible). Sometimes, I will say "Forget it, be a fashion dink", but I know in my heart that I am not the kind of person who can be avant-garde enough to enjoy the two-person world, let alone be watched by my parents.
Asking yourself, like s, is obviously impossible; H, like J, is the most ideal. But I have been working for less than three years, not to mention the accumulation of experience, and my career has just started. At this time, I seem to have set myself a career obstacle. It's already an older woman to have children in a few years. What shall we do? After thinking about it, it seems that three years of postgraduate study really wasted a lot of time. Look at those students who didn't go to graduate school. They work long hours and are closer to J state. Now they can think about their children.
As for me, I am a graduate student, and as a result, I have great employment pressure, little work experience and get married late. Instead of feeling superior, I became somewhat inferior. Whose fault is this? Me? School? Society? Maybe something around us really needs to change.
Industry division of working mothers
● Levin Human Resources In Shanghai, a city where competition is cruel and efficiency is paramount, female job seekers really have no advantage.
I often sigh: many times, many companies prefer to train fresh graduates rather than give female job seekers a chance-unmarried, the company looks at you and feels that you should get married soon and don't know where to go; If you get married and have no children, the company is even more afraid to avoid it.
On the contrary, it is easier for them to find a job when they get married and have children. This phenomenon is also a feature of the female workplace.
Although I haven't become a mother yet, with my years of personnel experience, I think it is difficult to be a working mother, depending on the nature of your company.
There are already friends with children around, and some are engaged in medical work. Most medical institutions, especially hospitals, pay attention to efficiency, but the welfare benefits are still good, and the policy on employee pregnancy is quite humanized. So is the teacher. There are also units engaged in sales, which are judged by sales. Therefore, the company has considerable tolerance for working mothers without affecting performance.
On the contrary, since 2000, the IT industry has been pursuing efficiency almost crazily under the aura of maintaining high profit margin. In such enterprises, even female leaders are not allowed to have inefficient employees. Working mothers have little room for survival in such enterprises. Therefore, women who want to have children should be cautious when choosing to quit the it industry.
If you look deeper, as long as the profit of the unit allows better welfare treatment, the life of working mothers will be better, not because you are in state-owned enterprises, private enterprises or government agencies.
In order to have a lovely baby, you must make sacrifices in some ways. Although I sometimes think twice and can't let go of many things, I am still proud of those expectant mothers. Give them a word, have a lovely baby and let your husband earn the money back!
Have a personal career plan
● 28-year-old doctor in Yun Yun
Sooner or later, professional women will encounter the contradiction between work and childbirth. Generally speaking, you can't have your cake and eat it. You can only concentrate on your work for a while, have children at the right time, and then work after giving birth, so as to maintain a relative balance.
In my opinion, we should plan our life path and career in advance, so as to be aware of it. I am a radiologist. My job is to take X-rays, do X-rays, do CT and do interventional therapy for patients. I am a woman again and need to get married and have children. As we all know, long-term exposure to X-rays is harmful to health. Although the equipment is advanced and well protected, I dare not say that it will never affect fertility. But it is precisely because of this that this profession has the most thoughtful protection for employees' fertility: First, the state has special laws and regulations to protect employees engaged in harmful radiation work; Secondly, employees will never be dismissed because of pregnancy; Finally, the initiative to choose when to get pregnant is in your own hands.
A few years ago, I worked hard and obtained the qualification of practicing doctor and intermediate title. This year, I am pregnant. I don't need to look anyone in the eye. I went home legally and reasonably, and spent the perinatal period with peace of mind. I am not afraid of the hospital's disapproval, and I am not afraid of losing my job.
Other female compatriots may be different from me, but planning ahead is the same. For example, work hard for a few years to earn enough money to have children, and then find a relatively easy job while being a mother; You can also find a job in a unit that can tolerate childbirth, and then find a suitable unit after giving birth. As for the age of having children, I think it is better to be before 30.
Having children and "professional anchor"
● Zhang Hao Psychological Counselor
A career planner wants a position? Have a baby? Can you have your cake and eat it? According to psychological theory, this is a typical "two-way conflict"-there are two different goals at the same time, but they cannot be achieved at the same time. How should I choose?
Generally speaking, a person is trying for the first 1 ~ 3 years after starting a job, and many people will try different jobs. This is the process of forming the "career anchor".
Once you find the job that suits you best, a "career anchor" is formed, and then you can design your own career blueprint.
Professional women face the same pressure in the workplace as men, but also the pressure of marriage, having children and family, which is often very painful and confused.
From the perspective of career planning, the age of "professional anchor" is about 30 years old; From a medical point of view, the best childbearing age for women is around 25-28 years old. Women of this age have not yet determined the "career anchor", so they can consider their husbands and children before deciding to work.
Of course, different people will have different ideas, but one thing is certain. Before making a choice, we should rationally analyze our talents and abilities, motives and needs, attitudes and values, so as to make our professional outlook clearer.
Why did she become a "peerless" beauty?
● Zheng freelance writer
A friend's daughter is called a "peerless" beauty, which has two meanings. There is nothing to say about beauty. Although she is 35 years old, she is 1.7 meters tall, graceful and good-looking. She belongs to the kind of woman who walks on the road and turns around 100%. All the colleagues around her call her Gong Li.
There is another meaning. After six years of marriage, the beauty refused to have children and laughed at herself as a "peerless" beauty.
The reason for asking him "peerless" is actually worrying about his children's education. Beauty herself is high flyers of a famous university. She works as a director in a multinational company, earning a lot of money, but under great pressure. She goes to work on time every day, and it is unknown when she gets off work. Besides, she has to travel for nearly half a year. A beautiful woman told me that "as soon as a child is born, he should start education, and then go to nursery, kindergarten, primary school, middle school and university." Needless to say, choosing a school and accompanying students will cost a lot of money. I don't know how hard it will take. Many of her colleagues worked hard for their children, making themselves look like yellow-faced women and being "eaten" by their bosses. The most worrying thing is that children's grades are not good, and couples often quarrel about their children's education, which really makes people feel chest tightness. Irresponsible teachers are the children of others, and irresponsible parents are their own children. In order to be responsible for the next generation, she decided to do the "peerless" beauty to the end.
Give priority to raising babies.
● Element Human Resources Family is one of the most important components in personal life. Therefore, when dealing with the conflict between work and having a baby, working mothers may wish to choose one of them and put raising a baby in the first place.
On the one hand, whether at work or in family life, we pay more attention to getting satisfaction from it. Relying on work, we get a stable income, reflect our personal values, and gain a recognized sense of accomplishment; Relying on the family, we will build a warm harbor of hearts, help each other in life, and gain emotional and intellectual development. Work is a major event during the period of working ability, and family is a lifelong event. From the perspective of family happiness, it is worthwhile for professional women to raise children.
The second reason is that the time to have children will not be too long, so the "opportunity cost" (material loss) of giving up work and choosing to have children is also limited. Working mothers who are in a period of strong working ability can completely re-enter the workplace after a few months' rest.
Third, the company's attitude towards giving birth to a baby is actually the touchstone of personal future career development. According to the regulations, the unit shall not dismiss female employees or unilaterally terminate the labor contract on the grounds of marriage, pregnancy, maternity leave and breastfeeding. If a unit is the enemy of working mothers, it shows that it has defects in observing labor laws and regulations. In such a company, it is conceivable whether an individual has a future.
Children are more important than positions.
● Children of administrative positions of Susu Chemical Company
It is a fact that it is difficult to have it both ways. Since you can't have your cake and eat it, choose to have children! After all, family is the most important thing for women, and children are a powerful bond to maintain family. A happy family life should be more worthy of women's contribution than work.
Raising children is a lifetime thing. Who can take work as a lifetime thing? Everyone is old and can't do anything after retirement. How lonely a child would be without him! Children and grandchildren under the knee, children and grandchildren have fun together, is the most beautiful sunset red!
In short, children must be born and strive to be before the age of 30. After all, as an elderly woman, the risk factor is too high, which is not good for the health of herself and her children. Losing your job is only temporary, and there will be plenty of opportunities to start again in the future, but missing the opportunity to have children will make people regret it for a lifetime!