How hard is the first year after having a baby?

Three, organizational capital:

You think these are already enough to put, far from it! In order to raise children, we have to cultivate a lot of ability it

1, family culture: Our neighborhood has a lot of training institutions, piano institutions, guzheng institutions, guitar line, painting school and so on, all day long look at the children coming and going, the family early to discuss, to give the child a relaxed, free environment, not to give the child too much of a burden,

2. Emotional management: It is said that post-partum depression, in order to bring children in-laws and daughters-in-law do not get along with each other, there is a baby couple cold relationship . We have no such thing in our family! It is not that we are good, is simply not give us the opportunity to melancholy, quarrel, cold. This energetic abrasive goblin, forcing us to keep moving forward every day, dealing with this and that, where there is time to think about this, occasionally there will be some bad moods, and quickly dissipated. Only every night lying in bed a broken shell!

1. hospital after giving birth to a child for three days, are husband and mother-in-law mother care, mother-in-law every day to hang around a bit, I let my mother back to rest rest, mother-in-law also said in a conspiratorial manner that my mother that can be how tired, so that the mother-in-law came to stand in for a day, she said that she is not good, can not stay up all night;

2. after giving birth to a child on the third day, breast milk came down, due to the first three days the baby Take the bottle to eat milk powder, resulting in the baby crying not to eat breast milk, mother-in-law said it was my nipple special reason, with normal people grow different, but also said I hold baby posture is not right, crackling said a bunch of, then in the hospital I cried angry;

3. before pregnancy, mother-in-law said that in the future the baby's new year's money, she did not give us, directly to the baby to buy insurance to buy funds, after the baby to pay the newborn baby insurance, she said that all are A very cold bedroom, but also bare buttocks, the name of the baby so raised out of the body strong, not heat rash, I said at the back of the good and bad not to listen, the results of the child was diarrhea, she said I ate problems, the key to eat together with the midday meal, there can be no problem;

6. My mother died due to the death of an elderly person at home away from one day, so that my mother-in-law came to one day, the whole time I coaxed the baby, did not help a bit, the people eat first, and the people eat first. Eat when people eat first, I eat cold rice, people say she has a bad stomach, can not eat cold, I sit on the moon can eat cold, huh!

7. Eight months pregnant, must let me a pregnant woman to accompany her out to walk, I said not to go, can not walk, she said the doctor said, more exercise will help smooth delivery, every day in front of the bedroom yin and yang loud talk, and finally went out, accompanied by three days, came back to the whole body edema;

8. The whole of the pregnancy, the chores are no one not to do, laundry cooking clean up the house, the mother-in-law people every day lying on the The sofa said her sick body is not good, can not be too tired, the key to go out every day to talk to the community that his daughter-in-law was her tube of obedience, but also said that she is how good to her daughter-in-law, said his daughter-in-law is not good to her bad bad heart;

1, since the confirmation of the pregnancy, the mother-in-law from time to time in the ear chattering about the second half of the pregnancy don't a little bit of symptom on the blind tension rush to the hospital, the child less than a few days will not come out! ...... whole she seems to have how professional.

2, the entire pregnancy maternity check their own run, the cost of their own out of pocket, spare things to organize their own, as if pregnant with this child is not their family, but also day after day chatter: who who who's daughter-in-law in the belly of their own driving do what do what, who who who's girl in the belly of the day to do what what do what, as if I've been pregnant since the shelves on the bed to lie as well.

3, cesarean section, no milk, the doctor repeatedly explained the first three days no milk normal, slowly, avoid drinking broth, the results of the second day sister-in-law took a pot of chicken soup sent over ...... doctor's account has long been thrown to the side

4, the fifth day of the hospital, my mother and two settled, the child's father said to go to buy fish to me! The next milk, her grandmother's family flocked to her grandmother's home for dinner, completely disregarded my first mother in the face of the child's poop at a loss ......

5, the entire month, depression, cold three times, milk has been bad, the child's grandmother holding the child in the ear chanting: mother does not give milk, hungry my baby! ...... At that moment, I wanted to die of heart all have

6, mother-in-law said that is to take care of my month, in fact, my mother is day and night guarding our mother and daughter. It is also strange that my mother in the child is also good, my body is not uncomfortable, busy season my mother back to the next day, the child is diluted, I am not a cold drip is back to the milk.

7, playing small meat I do not eat, in order to have milk to eat, hard to drink a bowl of a bowl of pig's trotters without any spices, a salt does not bring down. As for the other rural various breastfeeding prescription on the more needless to say.

8, it is hard to get out of 30 days of the month, my mother rushed back to the farm, thinking of my mother-in-law to take a hand to do two meals, the results of the child's grandmother did not enter my door for a week, the child's father is too much a sentence will not be anything no matter what, waiting for me to do the cooking, well, I do, but not will not be able to do it is not to do it ...... results fall a foot The old problem of leg pain and waist pain.

9, full-moon wine after holding the child back to my mother's home to rest, go when the in-laws are full of solicitude to go to a good rest ...... less than a week the child's grandfather through the wine phone chatter over and over again, I don't care how you take care of the child in his mother's home, but wherever you let my granddaughter have a headache I'll only you are to be asked! ...... at home have not seen you two old people have more concern for the child

10, simmered to the child four months to her grandmother, I have to go to work, and then came a sentence, the child is too small, away from the mother of a small baby suffering. The child is too small, they can not see ... again and the boss asked for a month's leave, the boss repeatedly emphasized that at most another month off

11, the child's grandmother during the day, the night to see their own, not two days after the child's buttocks red red red, are fast seeping out of the blood, buttocks any time there is not cleaned up poop, when the mother of the pain, if not for a little bit of time I really want to quit and go home to see their own children, but also for the sake of a little bit of time. I really want to quit my job and go home to see my own children ...... Naihe children's food and clothing need to spend money.

12, the child is now three years old, the second half of the year to go to kindergarten, and one began to chatter: a child is too lonely, the family can not not have a boy. I immediately returned to a born you with ah? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.

Back in the day, I was a parent who loved the whole family, and the three years with the baby froze and made me a girl who would not be able to do anything, but was not afraid to do anything, a woman who was widowed with a baby, and the mode has long swallowed up the simplicity of what I used to do. The woman's life is too difficult, don't ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever. I am now the one who loves to have a second child who goes to have a child, do not give me say, who said I and who anxious.

How hard is the first year after having a baby?

Was it hard?

Not really!

I think it depends on what kind of baby was born and what kind of Mr. Married!

I was a planter, all three of them, and for me I think the first year was basically the easiest to get through.

After coming home from the hospital, it was all about moonlighting and then taking care of the baby. When I was in labor, my mother-in-law and my mother came to help me, but as soon as I was done, they all ran away! I'm not going to be able to do that because I said I wanted to take care of the baby by myself!

Our first baby also belongs to the kind of anxiety baby, crying up can cry for 2 hours without stopping, that time can only hold back and forth, and that time she does not eat milk, can only make milk powder, basically three times a night milk powder is Mr. things.

My second and third babies belong to the kind of quiet children, three months after the night milk is not eaten, a sleep to the dawn.

And the first 7 months of the baby's life are basically eat and sleep, wake up and eat, eat and sleep again, so I feel better.

A little bit older is to follow her to read the story, do housework, or I look at the book, brush the circle of friends and so on. In fact, it's quite a pleasant thing after arranging your own life.

But I hardly ever went out to see friends or eat before my baby turned one! I think that's the hardest thing for a foodie to get through, but it forced me to learn how to cook several dishes. It's kind of a give and take!

I don't think it's the first year of life that's really hard, it's after he's gone, then kindergarten, elementary school, that's the hard part!

Difficulty, pain, disappointment to despair have experienced, during the month alone with the baby, eating and drinking someone tube child no one, and there is a mother-in-law like no mother-in-law a kind of did not manage a day of the month and what kind of mother has what kind of son, mother-in-law, she will only come to my room to blow up the hoo-ha to wake up my baby and then go away, out of the month to the husband's workplace he did not have to do a little bit to be the He did as a husband, as the father of the child should do things, this is the second child interval of ten years, adding up to thirteen years together in these days I can not forget all my life, in addition to the hate and loathing of no other can change my psychological! The baby was almost four months when I got hyperthyroidism, the early stage is powerless to hold the child on a three head up people are very tired to stand not allowed to like, heartbeat is very fast, and easy to starve, sweating more, thought to bring the child to bring, and later because of the neck has a small lumps I found the recent wrong before going to the hospital confirmed that the disease, when confirmed to know that their own heart is very indifferent to the disease, because I want to get in the long term a person to bring up the child to change the hands of the people did not eat well, sleep well will certainly collapse! Not good, not sleep well will certainly collapse, but I did not think it was hyperthyroidism, at this moment I more look down on the couple's agreement! If he can hold the baby to let me rest, even if fifteen minutes I will not be so fortunate, and he is ignorant through the top, thought with the child is very easy, I thought of the child and not for him to give birth to this is my responsibility, tube you are what kind of man, in this life, I'm only responsible for the birth of my people and my birth of the people! In the future, all of my indifference and selfishness is to protect themselves and their children, do not care and all his emotions. A year I survived, the child healthy and healthy very satisfied, they are also due to the mentality of their own living is quite good, separate room to sleep with the child to sleep, he is not at home not in not much significance to the child just know that there is a father, for me is just a day to see a face of a stranger, no matter what I do can not be changed my indifference to my indifference I like this kind of indifference, the heart does not move, not pain, the woman should not be too much to think of a man who does not have the responsibility, not responsible for the man. bear, no sense of responsibility of the man can find their own feelings and understanding, will only increase the heartache and disappointment, their own over their own, with a good child, the food to eat the drink, more with the baby to go out to walk around the street, the spirit of the people will be good, don't care too much about other people's views to do things, their own are not happy how to do all the things, the other side did not experience their own experience of the things how to understand their feelings it! I'm not sure if you're a good person or not! Love yourself is the most important.

The first year after the birth of the baby hard, ask the mothers, nine out of ten said very hard, but the first year is difficult, I believe that many mothers will say that it is not difficult, because you will find that the time in a blink of an eye will pass, and in the process, and the baby every day with the close together will make you feel that this kind of pain in the sweet is very worth it.

What are the hardest things about the first year after giving birth? I summarized, there should be the following:

so sleepy ah really, the baby's sleep is like easy to fly away from the bird, teething, big movement, growing pains will affect the baby's sleep, and then as a mother of my first year of sleep is almost always fragmented, was divided into pieces. When you meet a little sleeper, you often get up at night and crawl around in the middle of the night, and you just want to knock him out with a stick.

Breastfeeding is not something that everyone can stick to, small months of age, two or three hours to feed once, day and night to breastfeed, after work to find a place to squeeze breastmilk in the office space to dodge, sometimes you do not know what you are sticking to. But when you see your baby's smiling face, you also feel that everything is worth it.

Your child occupies most of your world, and you can't go out anytime you want to go out like you used to, and your friends will be more or less less in touch with you, and your child occupies the time you spend with your two couples, and from time to time, you feel depressed and lonely, and you want to play without any attachment, but you can't let go of it.

However, more difficult, can not match the baby's a smiling face, watching his growth and his progress, you will feel that all the hard times are worth it, and the baby grows very quickly, the first year will soon be over, come on!

Throw the uterus hospital stayed eight days, the husband looked at our mother and two, discharged from the hospital husband and five days off, took care of me, will not cook, almost every day to call for takeout, milk did not catch up with, the knife wound pain, there is no in-laws in-laws, and there is no mother and father to take care of, the mother-in-law re-married, the health of the body is not good, in-laws in-laws divorced a long time ago, the father-in-law had a disease and passed away. My parents are at home in the fall harvest, October is the time to break buds, my father said he wanted to come, I thought for a moment, to come can not help much. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm sure I'll be able to.

Almost depressed, the whole spirit of the delivery room immediately collapsed, gave birth to a child without a person to call me to sympathize, no one then sent red envelopes to congratulate me, I also WeChat sent a circle of friends to record it, the heart of the cold from the feet, this life is really a six-parent support, graduated from the outside world, running, like a fly on the wall, no one to give you guidance, are relying on their own to feel the way, the detour went quite a lot. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it.

The cuts hurt for nearly a month, and my husband took care of them for five days before he went to work, and I didn't do the month, so I took care of my daughter directly, and I couldn't sleep well, and the cuts hurt, and I was sweating, and then I figured it out in the back of my head when I was almost a month old. I will give her advice, and I will be the first to arrive at my daughter's birth, the first time to take care of her, I love my child more than anything else.

Bump has been over half a year, all I basically do not believe that the heart immediately ruthless up, I used to think that everyone is good, after the birth of the baby to know the world warm and cold it is, the most ridiculous is what it is, I have a cousin, he borrowed money from the high school with me, the university borrowed money, graduated from the borrowed money, and even before the pregnancy borrowed 20,000, and then I gave birth to my daughter, and did not ask, the red envelopes did not give, and I have no idea what it is like to have a child. Let me cold, in the old home a mouth a sister ah, I married you have to help me ah so and so. He met the woman did not meet to spend thousands of at least, why I know it, because he is dry construction site, always from me here to take a few thousand, a few hundred emergency. In short, it is quite disgusting. Let me recognize a lot of people. Usually something at home ah find me, the more I think the more cold.

Forget about it, forget about it, do not pay attention to these people. In the future, in addition to my best friend Lao Wu, who does not help, something I also pretend not to know. That's it, a six parents to help me, to a photo of my old girlfriend