In the face of loneliness, we can only try our best to close the door so as not to be eroded by loneliness? The following mental health: embracing loneliness is what I want to share with you. Welcome to reading.
Loneliness is a familiar word. In life, everyone will experience it and feel it in different ways. Or enjoy it, or be tortured by it, or be entangled by it.
Everyone has experienced loneliness: for example, suffering from illness alone; A hiker lost in the forest; When driving alone in the dense fog can't tell the direction; At night in the bustling city, I can't see a light to go home.
What is loneliness?
So what is loneliness? Everyone has their own notes. I used to know it myself. One night, I was sitting alone by the sea, listening to the tide. I began to like it very much. Gradually, I feel that there is darkness and silence between heaven and earth. The sound of the waves was overwhelming from far and near, and the waves of fear flooded my heart. Emptiness and loneliness hit me, and the whole person seemed to be submerged. Stay quietly in that state and feel smaller and smaller, and slowly melt away. In the consulting room, lonely topics will always appear sooner or later. Tourists describe loneliness like this: I feel out of place when I am playing in a group of people. There are so many people around me, but no one knows me. I thought it was difficult to find someone to share the difficulties, but I found it more difficult to share happiness. I dreamed that I was in a wasteland, as if there were no people or even creatures at the end of the world. I tried my best to search for sound, but there was no sound. I cried desperately, but I couldn't make a sound. I was abandoned! ? Loneliness is often accompanied by deep despair and helplessness. Exploring along the lonely feeling is like lighting an oil lamp in the dark, and you can vaguely see the heavy scenery of life.
However, more feelings caused by loneliness are always presented to us in different faces, and we need to identify them carefully before we can see through them.
Why do you feel lonely?
G is a 35-year-old white-collar single woman who lives alone. She described a terrible experience in life. Six months ago, G went home after traveling abroad for more than ten days. When she put down her suitcase and took out the key to open the door, she suddenly felt that the lock was a little loose, and an idea flashed in her mind: a thief entered the room and he was waiting to kill me! The idea was crazy. She pulled out her key and ran downstairs in horror, and then entered the house with the help of the security guard. She said:? At that moment, I was terrified and I firmly believed that I was in danger. ?
G's description sounds like hallucination and delusion. She went on to describe another feeling after returning from the trip. G said: When I closed the door, I found that the dirty clothes I had left on the chair before I left were still there, and the refrigerator was empty. The room smells more like isolation, which is depressing. ? She paused,? I remember when I was in my hometown, my family was always busy. When I came in, my mother asked me questions and someone was always waiting for me. ?
G's story solved the mystery, and her momentary delusion was not crazy at all. At that moment, this fantasy really scared her, that kind? Killed? This feeling is so strong, but the great fear also keeps her from being lonely and temporarily away from the cold situation.
In fact, most of us often have some unreasonable delusions, and we may never think about what they mean or what they mean. Psychological theory explains that normal people also have temporary delusions, which are part of normal spiritual life. In modern society, the overemphasis on personal realization and the weakening of various misplaced attitudes in marriage and family life may be the fuse of loneliness.
Then, when we are unsafe, isolated or lonely, we are more likely to have illusions. This is an emotional response, which can also be said to be a defense, to protect us from the uncomfortable emotional state for the time being.
Loneliness is everywhere. After all, it is an unavoidable growing trouble and a philosophical proposition. Then shake hands with loneliness. We must accept it.
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