1. Always strive for right and wrong. Some people will fight to the death when they encounter any problem, and they must admit that they are right in order to feel at ease.
Everyone is narcissistic and has the desire to maintain their "good", so are partners in intimate relationships. They want to prove their goodness in front of their partners, so they must prove that they are right, but this kind of behavior is very easy to hurt their feelings and make their partners think that "our relationship is not as important as your opinion." People who really want to manage their feelings well will not always struggle for right and wrong emotionally.
2. It is normal for two people in love to be moderately jealous and possessive, because love itself is exclusive, but excessive control will distort love. Some people will ask their partners to act according to their own standards in the name of being good people, but this kind of "kidnapping" with love can easily suffocate them.
3. Giant Baby Behavior There is a kind of person who has been in a state of taking after entering the relationship and does not know how to pay. This is the performance of "giant baby". Healthy emotional commitment is two-way and beneficial. Two people can learn from each other and grow together in the process of communication, while unhealthy feelings are given by only one party and accepted by only the other.
In the early days of love, when love is strong, the paying party may not have too many negative feelings and think it is worthwhile to pay. However, when the passion tends to be dull and one's efforts are not rewarded, the paying party will also feel tired and want to give up.
4. Cold violence, refusal to communicate Many people think that when falling in love, partners should know themselves very well and can meet their needs without communication. But in fact, the two people who entered the intimate relationship are strangers, the environment in which they grew up and lived is very different, and the concepts they accepted are also inconsistent. There will always be differences and misunderstandings.
If one party always refuses to communicate when encountering problems, it is actually a passive attitude, and the party who suffers from cold violence will often be in a state of depression and anxiety, suffering from mental torture, and finally yield to the other party under pressure. If this often happens in relationships, the party who has suffered from cold violence will always be unbearable to break up.
5. Suspicion and cheating trust are the cornerstones of intimate relationship, and a feeling without trust can easily rot from the inside. If you are too suspicious of your feelings and always suspect that there is something wrong with your partner, then your partner's normal behavior may also be interpreted as shielding.
This is related to people's confirmatory bias. When people firmly believe in a certain point of view, they will look for all kinds of evidence to prove their point of view and ignore the information that is not conducive to their point of view. If the other person is often suspected, you will feel your distrust and disrespect. A relationship that is not respected by the other party cannot last long.