"Is it not with a child? I didn't even brush the bowl. "
"The last day's work made me very tired. Did you do anything important at home? "
"The child how to cry again? It must be that your milk is not enough. "
"You eat so little, can the child breastfeed?"
"Cry, come, here you are."
"It's really a blessing to have a baby now. At that time, we cooked for the whole family in the month. "
"Which is so tired, you should go to bed when the child is asleep."
Ma Bao, have you ever heard such suffocating words? How do you feel after listening? Do you want to poke your eyes? How did the considerate husband become so strange at that time, and the amiable mother-in-law changed her face, which made people chilling.
This is human nature!
Most people can't empathize with other people's experiences, and even delicate and kind people have limited understanding.
Only when you feel the pain yourself can you know the taste.
Because it can't produce intuitive profits, the work with children is often considered unimportant and not tiring. But is this really the case? As the most typical sunk cost, Ma Bao has been doing this exhausting work day after day without due recognition. With the accumulation of sunk costs and the attitude of not being recognized becoming more and more obvious, Ma Bao is in a state of resentment and gloom all the year round, and may collapse at any time.
As a qualified nanny, Ma Xu must have paid too much sunk cost.
After learning that the child she worked so hard to raise was not her own, Ma Xu in Lacrimosa nearly collapsed. Sister Lan understands her feelings very well, because she has invested too much sunk cost.
You have worked hard for a few year-end summaries written day and night. When the computer is damaged beyond repair at the last minute, can you laugh it off?
You worked hard for hours to cook the old soup, and finally forgot the heat and burned the ingredients. Are you depressed?
You hurried for ten minutes to catch the last subway. Finally, you went in the wrong direction and missed the last bus. Did you beat your chest?
All the unwillingness and oppression are because the sunk cost has been disappointed.
It is very tiring to raise a healthy child, not to mention a sick child, which can exhaust the last drop of effort.
Before exhausting the last drop of effort, Ma Xu suddenly found that the most cherished person in her life, the child she took care of day and night, was not her own child. And there are indications that it may be caused by man. Ma Xu's mood at this time said that she wanted to destroy the earth too much.
The contribution of every ordinary treasure mother is the sunk cost of decades.
Raising a healthy child will at least bear it.
Stumbling, backache, pregnant in October
One-time delivery with fingers open and top pain
It is difficult to sit and lie down with lacerations and side cuts in the lower body.
Weak, sweaty, soaked to the skin, but not blowing.
Insufficient breast milk, breast pain and cold sweat.
The nipple scabbed, and the scabbed that insisted on breastfeeding shed blood.
Holding the baby constantly, her hands and wrists are stiff and weak.
A lot of hair loss due to lack of sleep and hormonal imbalance.
If you encounter a high probability of lateral incision infection, breast obstruction, or fat liquefaction after caesarean section, it is really like every defecation, every breastfeeding, and every turn over is like eighteen layers of hell.
These are just things that will happen within three months after delivery, feeding a child to grow up. I don't know what difficulties and obstacles I will experience in the next ten years. Most of the sunk costs are borne by Ma Bao.
Ladies and gentlemen, what reason do you have to look down on Ma Bao's efforts? Do you have any excuse to push these unpaid jobs to women with a clear conscience, and then look down on women and feel that you have made great contributions?
When meeting a good husband, a woman only needs to bear the pain above. When I meet a husband who is not sensible, the woman is too tired to undertake housework such as washing, cooking and cleaning.
It's unfair to women, and it's unfair to Ma Bao.
Ma Bao should be proud and confident of their efforts.
Say it again,
Most people can't empathize with other people's experiences, and even delicate and kind people have limited understanding.
This is human nature!
Ma Bao, you know the truth here and the value you pay, so take action.
Never listen to others, and don't heal alone after anger and resentment, but speak for yourself.
The child is for two people, and all the sinking costs are only for you. Therefore, your labor is valuable, and it is very valuable.
You have to understand that you can't wait for what you deserve. Only by fighting for it can we win respect.
Of course, Sister Lan doesn't suggest quarreling, because people get out of control when they are angry and often don't listen to advice. Therefore, treasure moms should reason with the men around them, say it once, say it for the second time and say it for the third time. If the other party deliberately belittles your efforts in order to take advantage, then Ma Bao should also pay attention to protecting its own rights and interests.
Only with economic independence can we have an independent personality. Don't give the future of yourself and your children to others easily, because you can't afford the consequences of betrayal.
Only when the economy is independent, for the sake of the family, meeting a good man can add icing on the cake, and meeting a bad man can say no.
Finally, Sister Lan sincerely hopes that all the precious mothers can live well, because only you can live well, the children can live well and our country has a future.