Case 1: Yuanyuan was late today, and the children were sitting in the activity room listening to teacher Zhang's story. Yuanyuan arrived at her place, only to find that there was no small chair in her place, so she stood there waiting. ...
Case 2: The children in the class didn't know their names when they first went to the middle class, so we cut many different patterns and asked each child to choose a favorite pattern and stick it on the cup. In this way, the problem of the cup is solved. So every time Xiao Han drinks water, he says to the teacher, "Teacher, I can't find my little cup." Can't Han Xiao find it? Or you don't want to look for it at all?
Case 3: Let children learn apples in art activities. The children are drawing carefully. But some children play by themselves. I asked, "Why don't you draw?" The child said, "Teacher, I can't." In fact, other children draw at sixes and sevens, and they are still drawing. These are also some problems that we often encounter.
Why are these problems? This is closely related to our education. In the one-child family, there are often several people around a child, and the child learns to reach for clothes and open his mouth to eat. Children already have the ability to do things, but parents blindly do things instead, depriving children of the right to act alone, leading to the gradual deterioration of children's ability to solve problems independently, unable to deal with problems and at a loss. Once such children enter the society, they are like caged birds. He can neither fly nor catch food, so it is difficult for him to stand. Children will face a society that needs to walk by themselves in the future. In our family education, parents are the children's first teachers. They can give children a lot, which will affect their life. So young parents, we should be both parents and teachers.
So what can be done to cultivate children's ability to solve problems independently? I suggest that we should do the following:
First, let go and be a "lazy" person.
When children's body and mind develop to a certain extent, they already have the physical and psychological conditions to solve their own problems. Parents deprive their children of the opportunity to exercise and unconsciously stifle their ability to solve problems independently. Therefore, parents should let go of their hands and feet in daily life and be a "lazy" person. Let the children do everything by themselves. For example, if children are allowed to dress themselves, they may tie their buttons in a mess, but only when they are in a mess for the first time will they learn from them and tie their buttons more neatly. Perhaps in this process, children will make mistakes, and some will even cause a lot of unnecessary trouble. Parents can help secretly, but don't do everything instead.
Second, cultivate children's independent consciousness and ability.
Many families abroad allow their children to go out to work and experience the hardships of life during holidays. When they reach a certain age, they are allowed to live independently. In this kind of family education, children gradually gain independent consciousness and ability through practical exercise. However, China's parents lack this awareness. If children want to have the ability to solve problems independently, they should emancipate their minds, let them analyze and solve their own problems independently, be calm when things happen, and actively try to solve problems instead of waiting passively. For example, let children choose what clothes to wear; When you encounter a fight with a child, let the child handle it himself. When you encounter something related to the child, ask the child for his own advice. Perhaps in this process, the child will do something inappropriate, but it is in the process of dealing with these small things that the child gradually matures. Parents should guide their children to think independently, be brave in practice and help them grow up.
Third, set up difficult problems to improve their ability to live independently and solve problems independently.
In our life, there are many opportunities to solve problems, and some opportunities can be pushed to children. A parent once told me that there was a steamed bread seller near her home. She usually gives her four-year-old daughter money to buy steamed bread, and he peeks upstairs. This is a way to educate children. A series of things will happen when children come back and forth. Only the children are present, so the problems encountered by children must be solved in time and their natural abilities have been developed. Parents want their children to become capable people, so they should take practical actions to promote their growth and give them a real chance to solve problems. In this way, our children will grow up soon.