However, making your life better is more than just hard work.
Adult life, every day is the rest of my life, and these three steps are needed to get happiness.
The first step is to be healthy.
In the adult world, we need to struggle for life every day, but the struggle to lose health is not a long-term solution.
Only by mastering health and striving to live a happy life can you have strength every day.
The author Shen once mentioned a "desperate father" Mr. Chen.
His two sons are both in college, and their family expenses are relatively large. In order to improve the living conditions at home, he chose to work two jobs, doing decoration works during the day and running takeout at night. With such a high workload, Mr. Chen's health became unbearable, and his condition became worse and worse.
Just one night, when Mr. Chen was delivering food, his right eye suddenly blurred. After a short rest for a few minutes, he felt much better and was busy running the next list.
However, at noon the next day, his eyes became worse. Even if he had a long rest, it was useless. Mr. Chen had to go to the hospital for treatment and was diagnosed with an acute stroke.
It turned out that Mr. Chen had high blood pressure for many years, but he never paid attention to it, and he usually didn't pay attention to his living habits. The main causes of stroke in young people are often unhealthy living habits, diabetes, obesity and high blood pressure.
Mr. Chen finally had to stop working because he didn't pay attention to his health. Fortunately, he recovered after being hospitalized for more than half a month.
Without health, one loses the capital to fight for a happy life.
As someone said, "You have 10,000 functions. You can conquer the world and even change species. You have no health and can only talk. "
Health is a prerequisite for a person to live a better life.
The second step is to adjust your mood.
No one can avoid negative emotions, but when some emotions arise, if people can't control them and let them develop, they will only destroy themselves in the end.
I have seen such an animation, which moved me very much.
A bakery owner made many gingerbread man in different colors and put them in a window.
Just then, a guest came to the shop. And this guest chose for a long time, originally wanted to take the white gingerbread man, but finally took the gingerbread man next to the white gingerbread man.
This made Bai gingerbread man very angry. He thought that he had not been selected by the guests, so he pushed gingerbread man next to him off the counter one by one and smashed him to pieces.
It thought it would be chosen and bought by others the next day.
However, the next day, the owner of the cooking shop came to the store and saw that all the pieces except one piece of gingerbread man were broken, so they threw them into the trash can together.
In fact, many people in life may be like white gingerbread man. When they encounter some setbacks and difficulties, they lose their minds and let their emotions vent at will. It is normal for a person to have emotions, but if you can't control your emotions well, you may end up hurting not only others, but yourself.
You can control your emotions so that you don't hurt yourself in life.
As orison marden, the founder of Success magazine, once said:
"At any time, people should not be slaves to their emotions. They should not let all actions be subject to their emotions, but should control their emotions in turn."
Control your emotions so that you won't hurt yourself.
The third step is to control desire.
There is a famous experiment in psychology.
Give the children some sweets and tell them that if they hold back eating for a certain period of time, they can get more sweets afterwards.
After the experiment, the sponsors found through long-term follow-up observation that those who didn't eat sugar at that time were more likely to succeed in later life.
In life, people always feel that they are unsuccessful in doing things, largely because they can't control their desires.
A snooker player has been addicted to gambling and drinking because he has never seen any progress in playing, and it has intensified.
But for a long time, these things did not bring him progress, but made him even worse.
Fortunately, he soon found the problem and slowly tried to ease his desire for these things. By controlling his desire, he also returned to exercise, made great progress, and won the championship in the follow-up competition.
No one's life is doomed to nothing. Control your desires and you can open the door to success.
The higher a person's achievement, the more he can force his desires to surrender in life.
Fate is impermanent, and everything is difficult to achieve. But if we can know how to control our desires at certain moments in life, we can always achieve something in life.
finally
In the world of adults, life is not easy for anyone.
But when you can keep healthy, control your emotions and overcome your desires, you will feel more and more happy and rewarding in life.
For the rest of my life, I hope that every step you take will make your life better and better.
About the author: Zhang Wuwei has nothing to do, but nothing to do.