Excessive pursuit of perfection is morbid psychology. Western psychologists: excessive pursuit of perfection is a morbid psychology, which is not conducive to physical and mental health.
There are three types of perfectionists:
Some researchers divide perfectionists into three types: the first type is self-type. Such people set lofty goals for themselves and strive to achieve them. They tend to fall into self-criticism and become depressed. Karen Kane, a Canadian ballet dancer, is famous in the international ballet world. During her career, she performed more than 65,438+00,000 performances, but she said in her autobiography that she was only satisfied with 65,438+02 of them. Besides, her first feeling about her ability is disappointment.
The second is always thinking that others have higher expectations of themselves, so they keep working hard for it. They are prone to eating disorders and even suicidal thoughts. They are unwilling to try new things because they are afraid of leaving a stupid impression on others. When they feel that other people's demands are unreasonable or unfair, they can only silently adjust their sadness or anger. They want to be perfect in front of others, so they never ask others for help, and they have to bear all the problems themselves.
The third is to extend the object of high standards and strict requirements to others and ask them to be perfect. "They impose their demands on others and think it's only fair," Flatt said. This kind of person often can't handle interpersonal relationships well, and marriage will generally fail.
But in the eyes of many people, the "perfectionist" hat is not ugly, and the pursuit of perfection can achieve Excellence. In fact, the pursuit of perfection and Excellence are two different things. Keeping a contented heart is the best way to temper and purify the soul. "A really smart person never competes with himself, does not compare with others, and does not take life seriously. Don't envy other people's lives, enjoy what you have, that is, the little luck of life.