The environment that everyone comes into contact with at birth is the family environment, and the family has a far-reaching influence on a person. Generally speaking, the influence of family on a person is inversely proportional to his age. The younger you are, the more easily you are influenced by the family environment. The most suitable environment for children to grow up is a warm and harmonious environment. Children living in this environment are usually lively, rational and good at communicating with others. Therefore, every parent should provide an environment conducive to their own growth and let their children grow up healthily and happily in an environment full of love and freedom.
On the contrary, if children live in a harsh growing environment lacking care or freedom, they will be bored with their families and will not listen to their parents.
There is a friend of 10 years old who doesn't go home immediately after school almost every afternoon and often plays late. One day, after school, he went to the home of his good friend Hao Hao. They do their homework together and then play together. It's getting dark and Pumbaa doesn't want to go home yet. Grandma Hao Hao asked her friend, "Why don't you go home? It's so late, your parents should be anxious. " Unexpectedly, pengpeng casually said, "I don't want to go home. Our house is in a mess, and it is annoying to look at it. " My parents are very busy at work, so they must not have come back yet. Besides, they don't care much about me. "
If parents can give more care to friends, friends will not be so indifferent when talking about their home. Speaking of the phenomenon of not paying enough attention to children, many parents have the same reason, that is, they are busy with work. In addition to being busy with work, parents have another reason, that is, entertainment takes up their children's time. It's just that many parents won't admit this seemingly closest reason. The following facts also confirm this.
In a summer camp, children were asked to draw a picture to describe their family. There is a picture of a child that makes people sad. His painting is like this: mother is watching TV, father is playing computer, and he stands by with tears.
This is a typical picture of disharmony in family life.
Family should be a harbor for one's soul, and it needs everyone's care, especially parents. The child is still young, just a passive receiver. What kind of environment parents create for him, the child can only be forced to accept, but not choose. This requires parents to know what their children really need and provide them with such a family atmosphere. If parents don't understand and pay attention to their children's growth, taking their own experiences and experiences as the standard and starting from their own interests, forcing their children to do things they don't like will only make them rebel.
For example, some parents attach great importance to grades. They often force their children to study all day under the banner of "love their children" and "be good for their children", which will only make them afraid and tired of learning, and as a result, they may even hate learning more. Some parents don't consider their children's hobbies at all. They saw other people's children enrolled in the study class, and they also enrolled their own children, fearing that their children would fall behind.
These parents impose their wishes on their children, which will only make them resist and oppose their parents. They think they love their children very much, but in fact they just turn them into tools to realize their wishes and make them proud. If parents really love their children, they should respect them and understand their thoughts. In fact, what children want has always been very simple, that is, care and freedom, and neither can be less. If all this is done, educating children will not be a big problem.
So, how should parents give their children love and freedom? Or how can parents create a good family atmosphere for their children?
First of all, parents should care about their children from all aspects of life, give them full respect and trust, don't keep a straight face all day, don't scold their children at will, let alone beat and scold them, and try to get along with them as friends and create an equal and democratic family atmosphere.
Secondly, parents should not take grades as the sole criterion to evaluate their children, but should cultivate their children's hobbies in various ways, and consciously cultivate civilized and healthy life interests in their families, including watching current news, paying attention to physical exercise, loving science, music and literature, and paying attention to cultural literacy and language civilization. Of course, parents should set an example in these areas.
Finally, we should establish a good family style. A good family style includes that all family members have correct and beautiful ethical concepts, forming a good fashion of mutual assistance and friendship, respecting the old and caring for the young, being polite, loving labor, being positive and optimistic, working hard, being honest and trustworthy, and managing the family diligently.