Middle-aged anxiety, how to break it?

After middle age, people often feel lonely, because when they open their eyes, they are surrounded by people who depend on them, but there is no one to rely on. "-Zhang Ailing

1, hitting "middle-aged anxiety"

When it comes to middle age, people are often surrounded by hair loss, weight gain, stress of life, endless overtime and being labeled as "greasy". The heavy burden of mortgage and car loan, parents' support responsibility, children's investment in education, the competitive pressure in the workplace and the gradual sub-health of the body have all become megaliths in the hearts of middle-aged people, making them feel depressed and unable to breathe.

According to the recently released report "Observation on Employment Pressure of 35+" people, there are obvious challenges in career promotion for the "35+" people in the workplace. According to the report, more than 60% of the "35+" respondents are currently in non-management positions, while 70% of the respondents said that their last career promotion occurred before the age of 35. This data highlights the dilemma of "35+" professionals on the road to promotion.

What is even more worrying is that these middle-aged people not only have difficulties in promotion, but also face many obstacles in job-hopping. Once they lose their jobs, they will face greater pressure of re-employment. According to the survey, in the past year, the number of resumes submitted by "35+" respondents increased by nearly a quarter on average compared with previous years, but the interview opportunities they got decreased by 20% year-on-year.

Recently, my good friend Xiao Chen, who just crossed the threshold of 35, suddenly fell into a deep "middle-aged anxiety". He said with emotion: "After crossing the 35-year-old threshold, I obviously feel that both employment and promotion have become extremely difficult. In the face of at least 20 years of career in the future, should I continue to run around with my resume and seek that opportunity? " The future is full of uncertainty, and the only certainty seems to be the anxiety that goes hand in hand.

Facing the huge gap between dream and reality, Xiao Chen was confused by the double pressures of life and work. He witnessed the outstanding peers around him moving forward all the way, but seemed to be stagnant and at a loss. This dilemma is not only a personal challenge for Xiao Chen, but also a common problem for many middle-aged people.

Middle-aged anxiety is not only caused by occupational crisis, but also a comprehensive psychological stress, covering career development, family responsibilities, physical health and many other aspects. In this rapidly changing era, middle-aged people need to bear pressure from all sides, and life is no different. However, this does not mean that they can't overcome their difficulties. By actively adjusting their mentality, improving their skills and expanding their interpersonal relationships, they still have a chance to find their place in the workplace.

2. Learning is the best way to fight anxiety.

How do middle-aged people get out of the dilemma of anxiety and confusion and find their own position?

When people reach middle age, continuous learning and improvement is not only a process to fight against inner anxiety, but also a good medicine to cure this anxiety.

Friends who wander in Beijing insist on taking the postgraduate entrance examination even if they are busy with their work. Although he still didn't get what he wanted after three years, he never dared to stop. He is very clear: "The requirements in the workplace are getting stricter and stricter. Once it stagnates a little, it may be mercilessly thrown out by the great wheel of the times. Nowadays, only by constantly moving forward can we gain a foothold in this city. "

Feng Tang wrote on the title page of Dare: "You don't have to kill dragons, but the blade must be sharpened often." In the face of the ever-changing torrent of modern society, impermanence has become the norm, and a person's most solid self-confidence undoubtedly comes from his constant iteration and improvement of his own ability.

The crisis of middle-aged people often stems from their gradual separation from the nourishment of books and learning. Only by constantly maintaining that thirst for knowledge and constantly absorbing new knowledge, that is, "inputting" new wisdom and opinions, can middle-aged people live more freely and calmly on the stage of life.

Analysis of the learning content of middle-aged people can be roughly summarized into the following three aspects:

1) General management class: this class focuses on the underlying logic and management. These courses include MBA, e MBA, psychology, structured thinking, cognitive methodology, presentation skills and critical thinking.

2) Advanced skills: These courses are closely related to career development and future transformation. It covers practical skills such as qualification certification, efficient time management skills, effective parent-child communication methods, and data analysis.

3) Interest expansion: Middle-aged people now have more time and opportunities to explore areas that they could not set foot in when they were young for various reasons. Such as dancing, music, chess, calligraphy, painting, writing and reading.

Among the above three areas, skill certificate courses and general management courses are especially sought after by adults. They are convinced that "more skills will not overwhelm them", so many people actively prepare for the exam and strive to get two or three professional certificates a year to add more chips to their careers.

3. "Double certificates" empower middle-aged people's career development.

Certificate is not only the recognition of professional ability, but also the affirmation of self-worth, which makes middle-aged people more confident and confident in the face of professional competition. Through continuous study and textual research, I will constantly enrich myself and expand my career path, thus alleviating my inner anxiety and anxiety to some extent.

Many middle-aged people choose crazy textual research, which is an attempt for them to bravely walk out of their comfort zone. On the social platform, we can easily find that "textual research" has become the same key word in the annual plan of many middle-aged people facing anxiety. Many middle-aged people admit that getting a certificate closely related to their career will help them on the road to promotion and salary increase.

Therefore, to some extent, the anxiety of middle-aged people can only be alleviated by "textual research".