At an ignorant age, we fall in love with someone. Boys are brave and girls are shy. Everything is so beautiful from the heartbeat of eyes to the tension of holding hands and the sweetness of kissing.
The most sincere love is to have her, protect her, care for her, and walk hand in hand through life.
However, love is often not so pure and broken, and there are many feelings that love has to have. If you fall in love with a family, no matter how deep your love is, it is hard to give up, let go, and don't be too persistent.
Some people should not fall in love from the beginning; Some love, you shouldn't fall in at the beginning. Some people will eventually leave; Some love will eventually die.
But there are still many people who have fallen into this extramarital affair for a long time, and even think that "we enjoy everything between husband and wife except not being able to form a family together". But I always think that this is just an excuse for many people to deceive themselves, or it is a temporary stubbornness.
When you fall in love with a family, you should understand these two cruel facts as soon as possible. The more sober, the happier.
The first cruel fact is that it is almost impossible for the other party to divorce for you.
Whether men or women seek love outside marriage, they don't really want to give up marriage, but their feelings are not satisfied in marriage, so they find such an outlet to release and vent, but in the end they will quietly return to their families. After all, there is a quiet life, lovely children, their relatives, and a responsibility that they can't let go.
Perhaps more and more people in modern society are trying to find a break outside marriage, but don't expect them to get divorced for it. Understand this early, and don't let yourself get too deep, or whoever moves first will suffer the most.
The second cruel fact is that even if the other person really divorces for you, two people who have an extramarital affair may not be happy.
Maybe someone really divorced for an extramarital affair, but does this mean that everyone is happy? Not necessarily.
Divorce is a bone-breaking thing for anyone. When dividing family property, we should strive for the custody of children. The unsuccessful party needs to pay alimony and suffer from the child's lovesickness. It is also extremely difficult for the competing party to raise children alone.
In the face of a person whose property is divided and who has children, is he really the lover you want? When they are in love, two people get carried away and always feel that as long as they are together, they can do anything, be willing to do anything, bear any price, and pay any effort.
But after really being together, I found that life is just a chicken feather. Pure broken love only exists between two lovers who are relatively perfect at a certain distance. When two people get along face to face for 24 hours, unload all their defenses and expose all their shortcomings, they will find this person in front of them, and even get bored gradually.
Zhou wrote a passage in Sometimes Love is an Illusion: The illusion of love makes you ignore one thing. The most realistic thing is to be true to him for a lifetime. In those ordinary years, rice, oil and salt were insignificant; When the wind, frost, rain and snow come, life will bear the sword and shadow. You haven't thought about it, maybe you have, but you just think it's simple.
Yes, many times we always think that as long as we can be together, we are complete, but life is not that simple. It is because we really live together that pure love is shattered, disappeared, lost and even ended.
Loving someone is not a temporary feeling. In the end, it must be a responsibility, a responsibility, a sacrifice and a compromise. This is definitely not easy.
Besides, how can you guarantee that the person who abandoned your original hand yesterday will not abandon you in the same way and throw himself into the arms of the next person in a few years?
In the final analysis, there is nothing wrong with love itself, but it must be stupid and wrong to fall in love with someone you shouldn't love and refuse to let go, pester and consume each other.
May you fall in love with someone who is truly worthy of love, and when you fall in love with him, you are willing to take responsibility and shelter him from the wind and rain, not just for the so-called feeling of love. Love is a responsibility, not a feeling.