The first element: positive emotions.
In fact, it refers to our inner positive feelings.
For example, you will feel happy because of promotion and salary increase; You will feel warm because of the encouragement of your friends; You will also be refreshed by fitness exercise, which is also a positive emotion.
The second element: input, which is related to our flow.
Heart is the "heart" of the heart, and flow is the "flow" of running water.
What is traffic? It means that when you are completely immersed in an activity that attracts you, you will feel as if time has stopped and your self-awareness has disappeared. When you are in this state of mind, you will find that people and things have been completely integrated.
To achieve the state of flow, you must mobilize all your attention, cognitive and emotional resources, so you have no time to think and feel other things.
When we give full play to our advantages and do what we are best at or like best, it is easiest to reach the state of flow.
For example, you especially like painting. When you concentrate on painting, you are likely to enter a state of flow. Or if you are good at playing the piano, it is easier for you to achieve fluency when you devote yourself to playing music.
The third element: meaning
It means that we should have a long-term goal, which can make our life full of meaning. This goal usually contains something beyond ourselves, that is, our most valuable and meaningful life energy state at present.
For example, you hope to write a book in your lifetime. So you have sacrificed time for rest and entertainment, and have been reading extensively and outputting a lot.
The fourth element: achievement
Achievement is influenced by two key factors, namely skill and effort.
Efforts can make up for the lack of skills. For highly skilled talents, extra efforts can bring more rewards.
The author especially advocates the theory of ten thousand hours genius. He believes that many people who look talented and show amazing talent in a certain field have done a lot of deliberate exercises.
For example, Mozart, a famous pianist, is not a genius. He can make such great achievements in music mainly because he has spent all his time playing the piano since kindergarten.
According to statistics, world-class pianists have practiced for 65,438+00,000 hours at the age of 20, second-class pianists have practiced for 5,000 hours, and amateur pianists have only practiced for 2,000 hours.
The fifth element: interpersonal relationship
The famous psychologist Christopher Peter once said: If two words are used to describe what psychology is about, it is "others".
The author shared a friend's story in the book. Whenever this friend is in a bad mood, his mother will tell him: You look unhappy, go out and help others.
The mother's words are full of wisdom, and scientists have found through research that helping others is indeed a reliable way to enhance happiness.
When you are at a low point, others can help you. This kind of help can be material support or spiritual understanding. Having a few intimate friends who talk about everything can make your happiness index go up.
The author thinks that happiness can't be defined by any single element, but these five elements are of great significance to happiness. You can refer to these five elements to see if there are any elements missing in your life, and then make adjustments.
First of all, learn to be grateful and thank those who have helped you in the past.
Secondly, before going to bed every night, I spend 10 minutes thinking about three good things that happened around me, and write down the reasons and make a good record, just like the grateful events recorded in my life diary now.
For example, my husband got up early and cooked your favorite pot-wrapped meat, because he really takes care of you and is especially considerate of you.
Third, when communicating with family and friends, follow the losada ratio. Each negative word is matched with five positive words.
Zeng Guofan once said, "The past never leaves, the present never mixes, and the future never welcomes."
It means that the past is irreversible. If you indulge in the past, you will only be surrounded by endless regrets and regrets.
Therefore, to be happy, we just need to live in the present, focus on what we are doing now, and care about the people around us who work and live together.
Learn to be grateful, learn to be content, and happiness will knock at the door.