For children, the psychological characteristics of each age group are different. At present, the incidence of psychological problems among junior and senior high school children is 20%-30%, which is still relatively high. Parents must attach great importance to their children's mental health.
In the senior grade of primary school, that is, the fifth and sixth grades, some children's self-awareness began to gradually increase, and some cognition formed by the original family education clashed with their changed ideas of finding what they want to do under the influence of peers, environment and media. At this time, the child's inner contradictions will increase, and he will be anxious or depressed if he can't figure it out. If something is unclear, you will be unhappy. These are all things that our parents should pay attention to.
Guide children to express their inner feelings and thoughts, so that some unreasonable ideas can be discovered earlier. At this stage, too much preaching and reasoning must be said, which is difficult to play a role. So as parents, we also need to adjust the way we communicate with our children.
For growing children, there are almost no psychological problems at all, and more or less they will encounter psychological difficulties. Psychological problems are like a little cold, which will break out from time to time, and many of them can heal themselves. But we cannot underestimate it, because aggravating it will also cause serious problems. I even have to go to the doctor to take medicine.
I began to learn this knowledge systematically when my children were young. With the growth of children, students' experience in combining theory with practice has increased, and my understanding of this issue has become more and more profound.
Parents who love their children must pay attention to their children's mental health, which is related to how their children get along with themselves and the world in the future and to the future happiness of each child. Let's study more and work harder together.
Judging from the current parents, more parents care too much about their children's mental health!
When a teacher criticizes a child, he always asks the teacher why he criticizes the child, and then says that my child is weak. Can he criticize education in other ways? I don't want to affect the child's mental health. See, the teacher had to give up the education of the children in one sentence.
Of course, there will be parents who are more concerned, but I think they don't think their children will be fine, but what should they do? I don't want my child to have a problem, and I can't solve it, so please don't say my child has a problem. Can it be solved?
I'm sure I care. There is only one child.
In middle school, children's psychology changes rapidly, and if they don't care, it is easy to have problems.
In junior high school, it is easier for women to communicate. So it's better for mom to pay more attention at this time.
In high school, when children mature, the effect of father's communication will be better.
But this is not absolute. The effect of communication has a great relationship with parents' respective personalities, their relationship with their children and their own personalities. So we should take turns to communicate and see who the children adapt to.
Especially when the child behaves abnormally in the short term. More attention should be paid to it. The earlier the communication, the better the effect.
In addition, pay attention to children's classmates and friends.
Middle school is different from primary school. During primary school, children are basically influenced by their parents. After entering middle school, besides parents and teachers, students will also be greatly affected. Sometimes even more than parents. So pay more attention at this time.
Anyone may have psychological problems, but as long as they are found in advance and communicated as soon as possible, there is still no big problem under normal circumstances!
Because I have seen too many children with psychological problems, even rising to behavioral problems.
Over the years, I have heard from my peers and students that some children jump off a building, self-harm, run away from home, refuse to go to school, bully others, be bullied, fall in love early, be depressed and have obsessive-compulsive disorder. ............................................................................................................., some of them are children of excellent teachers. Who doesn't love children? Who stipulates that these problems must not appear on their own children?
Some parents, as long as their children's studies are not affected, nothing else matters. When you are really in a hurry, it is basically very serious. It is already difficult to consult and adjust. Some parents are not as mature as their children. The children who came to my consulting room are all fine. Basically, once it is adjusted, it will be different. But if parents don't do anything and don't change, the child will change back after half a month. So I'm consulting teenagers now, and I ask parents to be highly cooperative.
Compared with life, that score is nothing but mental health. Children's self-confidence, sunshine, happiness, courage and strength are very, very important. Only when children have a good attitude can they have a good behavior pattern, truly live out and have the power to study hard.
I have been doing psychology for ten years. Although I didn't make any money and spent a lot of money, it was the best investment for my family and children. Now my relationship with my child is also a mentor and girlfriend, and her classmates are envious and worthwhile.
The basic meaning of mental health means that all aspects and activities of psychology are in a good or normal state. The ideal state of mental health is to keep perfect personality, normal intelligence, correct cognition, appropriate mood, reasonable will, positive attitude, appropriate behavior and good adaptation. Mental health has different meanings and measures from different angles. In recent years, there are more and more psychological problems of children, which really need to attract the attention of parents and society. Parents are children's first teachers and lifelong teachers. Parents' psychological quality and education level play a key role in the cultivation and formation of children's psychological quality. Parents must keep a little childlike innocence, let themselves have the same interest and language as their children, go into their children's hearts, exchange and discuss things they care about, and cultivate feelings in this parent-child interaction, so as to establish a good parent-child relationship!
Parents and children have a psychological relationship. Parents are the first teachers, dependent on each other, born with it and learned with it.
Caring for children's psychological support is more important than severe flogging and repression, and fully illuminating the heart in order to encourage them. Children know how to care, know who the emissary is in their mind, and can't impose their parents' will on them. But we have to be disciplined, let it think and run amok.
Some people don't understand children's psychology, so they don't talk about lists. They care about children's psychology and correct themselves first!
Some parents think that the child was born to me, and I raised her since childhood, so I still don't know what she thinks. We often hear parents say, "If you move your toes, I will know what you are thinking." But is this really the case? This sentence may be more applicable when the child is a few years old, but with the growth of age, the most difficult thing to grasp is psychology!
Children are the light of hope for the future. Parents want their children to grow up healthily and happily, and pay special attention to their education. So, how much do parents know about their children's mental health education? Let's look at the methods of children's mental health education.
Children's mental health standards
(1) Normal intelligence and strong curiosity;
Such children have a wide range of interests, like to observe things, love to use their brains, think quickly, want to learn everything, want to try everything, respond quickly to new things, and dare to put forward their own opinions.
(2) You can gradually learn to control your emotions and maintain an optimistic mood;
Be frank and easy-going, do not hide emotions, and be willing to accept other people's opinions. The bad emotions brought by difficulties and setbacks can be released quickly and will not accumulate in the heart.
(3) Learn to communicate with people around you normally, know how to share and cooperate, respect others and be helpful;
Always keep a cheerful attitude, be calm when things happen, rarely have ups and downs, be able to rationally analyze the problems encountered, and rarely show anxiety or depression.
(4) Self-acceptance and self-control, able to actively face the problems and difficulties encountered in life and adapt to the environment; Not afraid of difficulties and setbacks, don't give up until you reach your goal, and never give up halfway. I can control my will and behavior according to my own needs, and I can also eliminate external and internal interference and concentrate on my study and work.
(5) Have good behavior habits and sound personality. Helpful, caring about others, often showing "altruistic" and "pro-social" behavior. In fact, many children have psychological abnormalities in early childhood or preschool, but their performance is relatively slight, which has not attracted the attention of parents. After the children go to school, these psychological diseases affect their academic performance, and parents realize the seriousness of the problem. Generally speaking, children with psychological problems will have abnormal changes in mood, behavior and physiology, and these external manifestations can be regarded as psychological help signals.
Typical manifestations of children's psychological abnormalities
(1) Emotional expression:
Fear, anxiety, unwillingness to go to school, easy to get angry, suicidal (thinking that life is boring, feeling like years, decreasing or changing interests, depression), etc.
(2) Behavior:
Solitude, not playing with children of the same age, reticence, inactivity, inattention, violence, truancy, theft, etc.
(3) Physiological manifestations:
Head and abdomen pain, nausea, vomiting, anorexia or overeating, early awakening, difficulty in falling asleep, tinnitus, frequent urination and even general malaise, while physical examination and laboratory examination showed no physical illness.
Methods of children's mental health education
① encouragement method
Children have a psychology that needs recognition and encouragement. They like success, and they like being recognized and praised by adults. Therefore, parents should always encourage their children. Only by constantly being encouraged and praised can one's behavior be affirmed, which will lead to psychological sublimation.
② Rhetorical methods
Language is a tool to communicate children's hearts. Therefore, parents should explore more, ask more questions and ask more questions when talking with their children, which is conducive to improving their own analytical judgment ability and developing creative thinking.
(3) the solution to the problem
Give children some difficult problems, let them know what difficulties are and let them solve them by themselves. Only after seeing the world through storms, experiencing failures and setbacks, can we produce experiences and lessons.
④ Negative educational methods
Parents use negative teaching materials to let their children distinguish right from wrong. Parents should guide the negative things in life and improve their children's ability of analysis and judgment, which is conducive to their psychological prevention.
⑤ Temper justice with mercy
It is wrong to be too lenient and too strict with children. Cultivating children's healthy psychological state and strong psychological quality requires both strict teaching and tolerance, as well as organizational discipline and personal hobbies. Once a child makes a mistake, we should criticize it more severely, point out its harm, and give love and care.
In the process of children's growth, mental health is often ignored by parents, and we are often concerned about children's health and achievements.
Let children grow up healthily, both physically and psychologically.
As parents, this is a compulsory course in our life!
To tell the truth, I didn't really realize the mental health problems before Dabao was 8 years old, and I thought that children would not have psychological problems when they were young. Even with Bauer, Dabao didn't feel any problem at home, and they got along well. Usually, we also try our best to handle the relationship between them. It was not until Mr. Dabao told us that Dabao was not focused in class recently, was not interested in various activities organized by schools and classes, and sometimes fidgeted. At this time, we discovered that children may have some psychological problems.
Later, I chatted with the teacher, only to know that the child is a learning disability caused by learning pressure and a mental health problem. If we don't pay attention to mental health, in the long run, children will have more mental health problems. Such as anxiety, depression, phobia, obsessive-compulsive disorder and so on. We checked the relevant information and found that mental health problems are really not a small probability. If you don't pay attention to and care about your child's mental health at any stage, and don't deal with it in time and correctly, your child may have psychological problems. For example, in early childhood, children's separation anxiety and social anxiety when entering the park; Learning disabilities and ADHD in childhood; Youth depression, autism and so on. Therefore, as parents, no matter what age their children are, they should pay more attention to their mental health.
First, give children the strongest love fairly and justly. Especially children from families with a second child. Only when children are bathed in love will they feel safe and warm.
Second, respect children and convince others by reasoning. Children sometimes make mistakes, and parents can't criticize and treat them rudely with their children. Although children are young, they also have self-esteem. Parents should treat their children like adults, respect them, list the reasons, point out their mistakes and guide them to correct them.
Third, create a warm and harmonious family environment. Families often organize some parent-child activities to let children actively participate. Children can form a lively and cheerful personality in a harmonious and happy family atmosphere.
Fourth, actively encourage children to communicate with others, participate in group activities, and learn to get along with others. At the same time, make more friends and tell them everything so as not to be depressed.
As a parent of young children, I am very worried about their psychological problems and find that children are particularly sensitive.
Once his father said, "If you are so naughty again, your mother will not want you." I'm depressed why I didn't say I didn't want him. But the child has always kept it in mind. When I get angry, the child says "Mom, you don't like me"! Every time you speak loudly, an unhappy expression will make children feel that they don't like him.
The child is a little constipated, because his father said that he stinks when he poops and doesn't want to clean it up. Children in mind, would rather inconvenience, but also hold back. Even if he poops, let's stay away from him and don't let us watch him. I feel that he cares about what adults say. Sometimes I can't bear to hold back when I see him not going to the toilet.
For this reason, I slowly guided him, and it was almost the same. However, during the Chinese New Year, his father was reluctant to tidy up and said to him loudly. This time, I didn't go to the toilet for seven days. I also said to take him to see a psychiatrist.
Hey, what should I do? My husband and I had a quarrel, but he still ignored it.
If you care, you must spend more time with your children, communicate with them more, and let them treat you as friends and tell you everything, so that you can know your children well and see what psychological problems they have.