Life won't tell you the answer right away.
The king took his ministers to the forest to hunt, and suddenly he met a lion. The lion chased everyone and lost his strength. Unfortunately, the king's little finger was bitten off by a lion. After returning to the palace, the king asked the minister to drink to relieve his worries, but the minister smiled and said to the king, relax. All this is the best arrangement. The king was very angry and threw the minister directly into prison.
After recovering from his injury, the king went on a trip to a remote mountain forest. This time, they met cannibals and ate everyone except the king. The king was puzzled and asked why. Cannibals say they don't eat disabled people. The king was ecstatic when he returned to the palace. He immediately ordered the release of the minister and held a banquet. The king said to the minister, "You are right. If I hadn't been bitten by a lion, I would be dead today. But how can you say that you spent more than a month in prison for no reason? " The minister said, if I'm not in prison, I'm the one who travels with you. If I meet a cannibal, I'm finished.
Sakyamuni said: No matter who you meet, he is the one who should appear in your life. It is no accident that he will teach you something.
When people encounter emotional problems and seek psychological counselors, psychological counselors in different schools have the following coping styles.
Psychodynamic-oriented psychologists will discuss the major trauma in his past experience with the visitors, explain the root causes of the current psychological block, and then let the visitors subconsciously forgive themselves and others, so as to cure the physical and mental diseases.
A cognitive psychologist will make you focus on something, experience living in the present, concentrate on eating while eating, concentrate on sleeping while sleeping, accept what you have without any judgment, and finally take positive action.
Psychologists with existential orientation will focus on caring for individual existence, paying attention to life truths such as death, freedom, loneliness and meaning, and existence comes before essence. People can create the meaning of life on the basis of existence and live wonderfully.
Buddhist psychologists believe that life may be difficult, but that's the case. Guide visitors to go forward even if they see the difficulties of life; In the darkest days, face them with a normal heart and let them come and go by themselves.
No matter what school of psychologists, there will eventually be a direction, that is, to see, admit and accept.
Look at this experience face to face, no longer escape, no longer hide, no longer deny. Stay with your deepest sorrow and pain, without judgment, without defense, and completely surrender. Accept the status quo, live in the present, and stop whitewashing it.
We can break through the resistance, look at our past with an accepting eye, and then let go of some past pains and persistent things. We can face the truth behind life bravely, face each other face to face, and die, so as to find the meaning of life and make our own answers.
The sudden heavy rain delayed our travel plan, and we can be glad that at least we didn't get wet halfway; The ice cream we just took a bite fell to the ground, and we can be glad that at least we have tasted it; The person you like doesn't like yourself, at least we met someone who made us warm and happy.
All stories always have an answer. What's important is whether we can hold our temper and keep our original heart before the final answer comes.
If people are wonderful, they will naturally arrange themselves.
Some readers leave a message:
I grew up in a patriarchal family, and my brother is six years younger than me. I hate my brother, because he took everything from me, my father's love and my mother's love. In order to have a younger brother, my parents anonymously put me in a relative's house for foster care. It was not until high school that I was taken back to my side and called a relative's child. In this way, I have been living in loneliness and inferiority.
Once, my brother and I had an argument over grabbing quilts in winter. He rushed into the kitchen and cut me with a kitchen knife. I was so scared that I hid in my room and locked the door. My brother came after me and kicked my door desperately, growling that he would kill me! I hide in my room and want to call 1 10. But I am worried that my brother's super-life identity will be exposed after calling the police, and my parents will not spare me. So I really want to jump out the window. Then my parents came, and they didn't blame my brother's behavior at all. Instead, he made a scene and promised him batch after batch of conditions. Then tell me you have to let your brother go.
That night, I had a dream that my parents and younger brother were monsters and joined hands to eat me!
The reader thinks that the younger brother has taken away the love of his parents. In fact, his parents have no love at all, and his younger brother just occupies their parents' attention. It is not necessarily a good thing to be stared at by unhealthy parents. Readers can thank their younger brothers for taking care of their parents for him. My brother has lost the ability to judge right and wrong in his morbid life with his parents; Readers can also escape from their parents and gain peace of mind and freedom.
A girl, when she saw the butterfly coming out of the cocoon, struggled with all her strength. Out of kindness, the little girl stabbed the butterfly with scissors. Sure enough, the butterfly climbed out easily. But strangely, this butterfly is weak and its wings are small and shriveled. In fact, this butterfly will never fly.
The pupa struggled from the cocoon and broke out with all its strength to become a beautiful butterfly. This is the best arrangement in heaven. Because through this squeezing process, body fluids are squeezed from the body to the wings, so that they can spread their wings and fly after breaking out of the cocoon.
Rhetorical question: if fate arranged for the butterfly to meet that person, and then it could only drag its weak body for a lifetime, would it be the best arrangement?
This cocoon turns goodwill into malice when it meets people. This kind of thing happens from time to time in this world. In this case, most people lament their fate and eventually become disabled.
However, many people in this world are born with disabilities, facial features are incomplete, limbs can't move, but they can get rid of physical restrictions and finally achieve Excellence and stay in the world. For example, Beethoven who was deaf, Milton who was blind, Stephen Hawking who was completely paralyzed,
Helen Keller, deaf and blind
There is no such thing as an accident
Tagore said: The sufferings you suffered today, the losses you suffered, the responsibilities you shouldered, the sins you shouldered, and the pain you endured will eventually turn into light and illuminate your path.
When you encounter setbacks after your efforts, don't be too depressed; When you stick to your feelings, don't fall; When you are in pain, keep looking for direction.
When I am in pain and confused, I tell myself that everything is the best arrangement, and I must have my own arrangement in the future; When we encounter difficulties, it may be difficult to accept them now; But at some point later, I suddenly felt that all this was the best arrangement.
Things have come to this because someone planted them, even if the result was not of their own making. I believe everything is the best arrangement for the changeable. Let's see the reality clearly, accept the present and then put it into action. For the unchangeable, I believe that everything is the best arrangement, because this road is inherently impassable, so cut the gordian knot and welcome a new beginning.
Some people say that the creator is cruel, but Beethoven who wants to compose music is deaf and Milton who writes poetry is blind. An Zhi, if it weren't for the arrangement of the creator, these two outstanding geniuses could have tasted the sweetness of peace and not be dazzled by the secular melody, thus writing such beautiful songs and poems.
In real life, there is no such thing as an accident. Because everything we experience is the choice of our own soul, the purpose is to let us gain spiritual evolution through experiencing these things.
Every situation is an opportunity for growth; Everything that happens can make us stronger, smarter and more caring. Everything that happens makes us go for the best. Some situations give us a good opportunity to release our persistence or eliminate unnecessary emotions.
The universe will eventually give us the answer. When we grow spiritually, we will deeply understand the truth of what happened and see the perfection of everything. Today we can look back on the past from a clearer perspective. Then we will understand that what we thought was a negative event in the past has brought us a lot of growth and new opportunities.
Everything is the best arrangement.
Therefore, everything has a reason, which is the best arrangement. There are no accidents in this world. Nothing happens by accident! Each of us is the master of our own destiny. As long as we are indomitable and optimistic, we can create the brilliance of life.
When God closes a door, he will open another window for you. Don't stop crying in front of the closed door, but know how to find another brighter window that has been opened. Don't complain, don't give up, God's arrangement is always unexpected and the best!
Our so-called thoughts and "I" are all given to us by this world. It seems that this time is accidental and inevitable, so every experience we have is inevitable. I was, am and will always be. If life can start all over again, nothing will change and nothing will be missing, because without anything, the whole universe will change.
No matter who you meet, he is the right person; No matter what happens, it is the only thing that will happen; No matter when things start, it is the right moment; The past is the past; If not, please believe that all this is the best arrangement (Indian proverb).
Jin Shang, a one-point platform psychologist, master of mental health education, the first batch of certified psychological supervisors in China, a national second-level psychological consultant and a college psychological teacher. 20 18 1 Published "Apple Trees Growing Forever".