Reflections on "One person is never lonely" (1): It is better to be alone.
I really like the title "Not as Good as One", which I thought of for an author before. Although I have never used it, I really like it, because it is a gentle and firm blessing to everyone.
A person doesn't mean that he can only live alone, nor can he only talk to dink people or people who are still single.
But whether you are single, have a lover, have many friends, or live with your family, you should be good to yourself and live well with yourself!
At the same time, this sentence describes the book and its title just right.
When we spend a lot of time in life, we spend the most time on ourselves, far exceeding the time spent with family, lovers and friends.
When I was in college, I packed my bags and went north to study. Since then, I have only spent ten days with my family in a year. In my opinion, the usual greetings, such as phone calls and WeChat, don't get along at all, just let you know that there is each other.
I get along with my friends occasionally. Today I may be the best friend, and tomorrow I may be a new geek friend, but these hours occupy a small part of my life at most. This is especially true after work.
Lover? Love has various States, some like to stick together all the time, and some can't touch long-distance love. Even if we are intimate, I think proper space and time are essential.
When you are alone, you can touch your heart more; When you are alone, you can see the surroundings better; When you are alone, you can enjoy the most intimate and beautiful life.
I didn't know much about Han Meimei before, so reading this book is new to me, and it is a process from strangeness to familiarity.
I read the introduction of the book carefully first, and then read the content carefully.
There are two words knocking on my heart, and that is "cherish".
In the second chapter of the article, it is extended to write "Be sure to cherish yourself".
From those two words to reading the whole book, if I have to describe my feelings for her, it should be: this girl is really a soft girl.
I believe she can do it alone.
This book is well structured,
From the first film "You Have a Strong Heart", Han Meimei tried to tell girls to be strong, confident and be themselves. ...
The second part, cherish yourself,
To love,
Back to self-examination. "Did you have a good day?" (Recently widely spread on WeChat),
Finally, build yourself for beauty.
For girls, the aspects involved are still relatively comprehensive, and the practical gentle tips are the last two chapters.
I like that book about love, which says "Where there is love, there is loneliness", "There is no harm in making more male friends when you are young" and "Treat the man you love like a puppy or a child". These views are very interesting.
I like to tell girls in the book that "it is better to be respected than popular" and "girls should hold on by themselves", which is very emotional.
I like to ask softly in the book, "How was your day?" , very comfortable.
"A person is never lonely", so what? Is to be alone with yourself and not feel lonely or lonely.
Yes, I did.
Whether it's one person or two people, and then three or four people (the policy is liberalized), I can live well!
Are you the same?
Reflection on One Person, Never Lonely (2): Another soft girl, writing a strong life.
Whether it's a person or a group of people. As long as you get along, there will be rivers and lakes.
Han Meimei tells you that you must have a strong heart. Everything in the world, face it bravely, and everything is tempered into steel. In fact, the root of pain is yourself. It turns out that all the troubles in the world are caused by themselves. You just don't want to lose. In the final analysis, you are not strong enough, or not strong enough.
Han Meimei, the soft sister, is fresh and beautiful, which reminds people of the feeling of a flower, gardenia, sung in He Laoshi's song. At first, I unconsciously typed her name as Sister Han. This is a little girl, and the world opened a colorful door for her. She faced this door and told her to be strong in life and herself. Obviously, she has a literary dream, and her writing is a little strong and light. She is a beautiful soft girl and likes beautiful sentences.
In fact, there are still few books written by such fresh and beautiful girls.
She really wants to tell herself, others and the world that life should be strong.
But this is powerful, not a storm. She then told the world, others and herself that she must cherish herself and live better alone.
Lonely? This era is lonely. The world is too strong, many doors are too strong, and the loneliest time is when you can't afford to get in.
While preparing for strength, we should lament ourselves. At the same time, we should love and everything that the world will experience.
Some people say that the most important thing for a person from the moment he owns his life to his life is to find himself.
When have we ever been with ourselves?
How much time do we have for ourselves?
A little girl, standing in the light, said weakly to the world: being alone is never lonely.
Some people say, how can one get along? It's obviously a sick sentence. It should be a person.
So someone replied, you can still get along with your soul.
Another soft girl, writing a strong life
Loneliness, Never Lonely is a seemingly rational book, but in fact, the overflow of emotions is more serious.
The lines are full of positive energy, beauty, and weak self-confidence that she doesn't know.
Remind yourself to be strong, at least to reveal people who are not confident.
They say it's easier to meet than to get along. It may be harder to get along with yourself. I only wish to be better to myself in the future: go to bed early and get up late, eat and drink well, do less stressful work and make friends with people you like.
Reflections on "One is never lonely" (3): Only by keeping a good nature can we live better.
In the best time, we don't know how to face our imperfect selves, and always complain about the injustice of life, the unsatisfactory career and the unhappy life. In fact, you don't know that nothing in the world is perfect. The so-called "no gold is perfect, no one is perfect" is to let us meet better ourselves on the road of growth, and I have always used "no best, only better" to encourage myself to face everything in life calmly.
Being in a bustling and noisy city, having a warm and harmonious family and a stable and generous salary ... In the eyes of others, you belong to perfection in perfection, but why do you still feel lost and lonely sometimes? Because you are not alone, so are many people. Because you have to understand that there are many things in life that we have to face alone. Maybe you have to choose a person to walk a lot, you have to bear a lot of hardships, you have to listen to a lot of words, you have to face many difficulties, you have to go through many ups and downs slowly, and you have to … anything is possible.
Life is complicated if you want it. You said it was like a mass of hemp, and it was also a flower twisted with hemp rope. You say it's a line, and there are also inseparable summaries on the line; You said there were potholes, and despite all the hardships, we had to walk all the way on thorns, because only in this way can we see the rising sun and the brilliant sunset glow. In fact, life is not as complicated and bumpy as mentioned above! The key is to see if you can see through it. In fact, life is very simple, as Han Meimei said: Life is to make yourself better, to make the people you love better, and to make the people around you better, so that the world will become better. I believe that if you really understand and can do it, and always have the courage to face everything calmly, then your life can be said to be perfect and relatively happy.
It is precisely because we are not strong that we encounter one obstacle after another in life. We will learn to be wiser, more decisive and braver on the road to solving difficult problems and know which is more important. It is precisely because we rely too much on others, sometimes trust others' comments too much, and care too much about ourselves in others' eyes that we will lose ourselves over time. We must believe that we love the world, we all have our own unique personalities and specialties, and we are no worse than anyone else. All we want is to have a positive mood to face ourselves and believe that you will gradually become what you want day by day.
If you are now in a confused area of life, Han Meimei's "One Man, Never Lonely" will tell you that you must have a strong heart in your life; Be healthy, be kind to others and cherish yourself; Even if you have love, it is only a part of your life. You should have your friends, your life and your world. 365 days a year, you should live every day easily, because time is no longer coming; No matter how big the changes in your life are, don't worry, don't panic and deal with everything easily. If you really can't figure out a way today, sleep until tomorrow. If you feel that you are not perfect in any way, then you should strive for perfection, learn from idols and be a better yourself. I believe that in so many ways, there is always a medicine that can save your mind.
Don't worry, don't be confused, and don't be confused. You just need this chicken soup to warm your heart and stomach and supplement your nutrition. I believe that if you input positive energy, it can help you get out of the smog world and see the sunshine and blue sky again.
Keep your beautiful nature, and you can live better! Face everything calmly and live better!
Reflections on "One person is never lonely" (IV): Let's talk about it.
Hmm. The cover design of this book is really great, which is my favorite style. I don't know if it is a minimalist design. In short, it makes me feel very pleasing to the eye and a little fresh. It is very suitable for buying and storing in bookcases. The value of this cover far exceeds the value of the whole book.
The feeling of reading the whole book is chicken soup, a lot of poisonous chicken soup. Reading is equal to not reading, and not reading is not equal to the sense of sight. In fact, we can talk a lot, but we can't. Nobody knows. After all, we all understand the truth, but we just can't live this life. It is said that it is aimed at girls, but there is really no special gender difference in all the projects. Of course, chicken soup is difficult to subdivide. After all, it takes great emptiness to earn the approval of most people. The name of a girl is just a gimmick.
Seeing the second half of the whole book, I feel a bit like reading Carnegie's inspirational book. However, compared with Carnegie's book, the whole book seems to be purely empty and supported by one theory after another. There are neither small cases as adjustments nor good stories interspersed, indicating that it is really boring. As David said among Chinese partners, Carnegie is the biggest liar. So sometimes I really feel cheated after reading this kind of book. Although you read this book, it seems reasonable, but it is too vague.
I don't deny who I really thought of when I saw a lot of words, but-hey ~
Is there really someone in this world who needs you to tell him/her what to do? I don't think so. In the end, everyone should follow his own heart. In any case, this is an unavoidable rule. So chicken soup is easy to write, really easy to write, but it is too difficult to write well, and I feel that the author has failed.
When I saw the author's name on the first day, my first feeling was: where is Li Lei?
Generally speaking, reading is not recommended.
Reflections on "One person will never be lonely" (V): I want to find myself.
This is a book written by Han Meimei to all women. She told us with her own experience and unique experience that women should love themselves and live for themselves.
I may be a little personal when I say this. No matter how hard modern women try, they have to accept the fact that they exist as the second sex in society. Family, children and parents are all involved. It would be great if we could get rid of these constraints, but we can't, because we are women in this patriarchal society and can only accept our social identity and status and accept this fact. This bondage is both warm and beautiful, and deeply sad.
However, besides these, we can not only accept what is acceptable, but also change what can be changed.
Like yourself.
Sometimes we will seriously think about whether we live too much in the eyes of others and are too cautious in what we do; In order to get others' love and welcome, cater to others and forget your true thoughts and feelings. How can I find myself? The easiest way is to control the negative thoughts in your heart and let your brain empty; Think about the meaning of your existence, the meaning of life. Do you live for other people's opinions or care more about your inner feelings? If you choose the former, then this book is not for you, and I don't expect a book to change anyone. If you choose the latter and open this book, the author will give corresponding suggestions one by one, in self, in family, in love and in beauty.
I like the saying in the book that I should imply that I am a "kind, intelligent and special girl" in this deep heart and change and move forward in this direction. I hung this sentence in a conspicuous place according to this method, suggesting that for a few days, my negative thoughts were really much less, and my mood was much better during this time. Although I still care a little about other people's opinions, I have made a lot of progress compared with the past when I changed myself for a few words from others.
I have finished reading this book word for word for three days. I have read a book by Han Meimei, "Some things are not done now and will not be done in the future", which is very true. The main idea of that book is to live in the present, and this book also mentions the present. People who are closed by the past and fantasize about the future will not feel the happiness of the present. I really can't feel the importance of the moment, let alone find my true self.
Those of us who brush WeChat and Weibo on the Internet may pay little attention to how to make ourselves better. Even if we get specific methods and make relevant plans, we will give up the opportunity of self-growth if we think too much. After all, who doesn't like a comfortable life and who doesn't like a once-and-for-all approach. But there is no such road in this world. People are born lonely. The sentence "I want to find myself" reminds us to find ourselves in loneliness. The story she wrote may be written by anyone, but none of us have written it. Because unconsciously, we have been lost in the hustle and bustle of the network or the city, forgetting the fact found in loneliness: no one is more important than ourselves.
There are only two days left on 20 15. Time flies like water. The New Year's Day is coming on 2016. 20 15 after tearing up the unfinished plan, I cut off several goals, leaving only two: research and exercise. Just like the saying, "I have read too much truth, but I still can't make it." Similarly, no matter how much advice others give, it is also others', and no matter how many stories others read, it is also others'. All we need is time alone to find ourselves. This is not chicken soup, nor inspirational, but a true fact: busy with the reputation, money and status of the outside world, we should have put our dreams and unfinished plans into action, taken the first step forward, and then bravely lived and loved ourselves. Knowing how to cherish, with a strong heart, your real desires and needs will emerge.
Finding your true self is not easy to do, but also requires practical actions. Start with small things, start to find your own journey, and don't live up to such a warm and good book.
Reflections on "being alone, never being lonely" (6): This topic is actually contradictory in meaning. She is naturally emphasizing inner strength.
In the busy life and fast food culture, when most people are immersed in mobile games, computers, televisions and other forms of entertainment, there are still a group of readers and writers, which is very rare.
Those who insist on writing books and reading books, we still have to give them a big compliment!
I am one of them, I am a laggard, and I am still the bookworm who lives in the sea of books. Although I also play WeChat and surf the Internet, I read less and less, mostly reading electronic products. Of course, e-books are also very developed, and Douban makes people find a new way to read. Thanks to Douban, thanks to the hundreds of bookstores, and thanks to the authors who are still writing books.
"Alone, Never Lonely" (7) Comments: You are thinking of Han Meimei, not Han Meimei.
The Han Meimei you imagined is not the Han Meimei it used to be.
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I have written two books, both of which have not been published, and they are the best-selling inspirational chicken soup for the soul. Once a month. Only the advance payment 1000 was paid, the books were not put away, and the rest of the money was not obtained. Those two manuscripts are still in my computer.
Later, I learned that someone asked me to write the topic I chose two years ago. I remember a passage about "I would rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle". At that time, Le Jia was about to resign from If You Are the One.
Of course, if Le Jia hadn't resigned from If You Are the One, maybe he wouldn't have made a fuss and let all the people in China know about it.
After thinking for a long time, I decided to write this book "One person, never lonely".
This is a gift from the editor, but I'm afraid I'll let the editor down. Because, this book, let me down.
I took a fancy to this book and the author. The author's name is Han Meimei. Everyone who studied junior high school English in 1990s knows that Han Meimei and Li Lei are "Han Meimei and Li Lei" in English. This is a name that can evoke infinite memories. I don't know if this is the author's real name or an alias.
On the cover of the book, there is a girl who looks like angelababy. I'm afraid this is the only beautiful thing in this book.
On the cover of the book, it says: a super best-selling author, who has done many things, visited many places, enjoyed all the beautiful things, followed his own path and believed in love. Here are some books that have been published. Unfortunately, there are half titles after the period at the end of the sentence.
I don't know how such an obvious mistake escaped the eyes of the first, second and third trials and was openly printed in the book.
Open the book, the folio of the book is very uncomfortable. The paper is yellow, crisp and thin. what do you think? It feels like a book from the 1990s.
Just turn a few pages, maybe it is really chicken soup that will produce drug resistance. For example, this article "Good health will give you great confidence", and then this article is written like this. I said that a friend of mine had a physical examination and everything was normal. I am very happy. Then there was a blank line above and below, and a sentence was written in bold black: "How happy I am to know that I am healthy." Next, she talked about her understanding of health and quoted a psychologist who didn't know the name: "People who are physically and mentally healthy have internal control and will not rely on external control."
In order to avoid my own misjudgment, I searched Baidu online. There is neither this sentence nor this psychologist. Then I know, if you want to find a sentence to prove your point, you can say this if you can't remember it at the moment. A great man once said it, and then you can say it yourself. Now I'm sure that's how this sentence came from.
Perhaps there is a fact in this article that health is really important.
The author is lucky that such a book can be published.
This is the first time I have criticized a book. In order to write this article, I specially found a paragraph: it is a vicious interaction for literary critics to take red envelopes everywhere. He wrote below: The book reviews in The New York Times can determine the sales of a book. There are so many popular critics at present, but why does literary criticism have no minimum social credibility? Under the background of market economy, literary creation has become a common commercial production. Criticizing other people's works is to smash other people's jobs, especially the criticism of sealing their throats with swords. Not only will the screenwriter fight hard with you, but the consortium behind the screenwriter will also fight hard. There are also many critics who attend the "red envelope" seminar everywhere, that is, critics let writers "join in". The reason why foreign literary criticism has credibility is that their critics are columnists, and critics are "nurtured" by the media. Behind being responsible for the media, they are actually responsible for readers.
I think we should still be responsible to the readers. Yes, the Han Meimei you imagined is not the Han Meimei you imagined.
Long time no see, Han Meimei. You're out.