How do mother-in-law and daughter-in-law reach an agreement to raise a healthy baby

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should coordinate their ways and attitudes towards their children, otherwise their education will be affected. In terms of family expenses, we also need to reach an agreement, and we can't just give more. Children lack practical experience, while old people have many simple ideas and upbringing. So how can we make the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law reach an agreement to raise a healthy baby together? Let's take a look at Bian Xiao.

1, the new father should be good at "muddling along"

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is obscure and lasting. Family conflicts arising from raising babies are common, but they are not as convenient as the relationship between husband and wife. Therefore, the new father should "make a big splash", take the initiative to assume the responsibility of dealing with family relations, be good at "muddling the mud" and "settle" all this with his own wisdom. No matter how busy you are at ordinary times, you should take time to talk with your baby's mother and grandmother, listen to their different ideas and attitudes, and adjust their relationship flexibly to prevent them from having psychological problems, because everyone is doing it for the baby's good. If the father turns a blind eye and regards educating the baby as a "housework" for women, then the intergenerational parenting contradiction cannot be smoothly communicated and resolved, which will not only affect family relations, but also affect the healthy development of the baby.

2. Adapt to the baby's own development.

There are innate differences in the temperament of babies. If the baby is naturally easy to raise, then the new mother will be very blessed. The baby's circadian rhythm is regular and adaptable; Babies whose parents have difficulty raising them at birth are physically and mentally exhausted, lead irregular lives, are easily excited, often cry and are difficult to appease, which often makes their parents very excited. Therefore, difficult-to-raise babies put forward higher requirements for parents' upbringing. He asked caregivers to be patient, sensitive and gradually adapt to his needs, so as to adapt to the outside world smoothly. If the caregiver trains the baby according to the rules and regulations in the book, or according to his own needs and ideas, then the result is "obedient and unable to teach". It can be seen that education is not everything. For a newborn baby, we must first conform to his "self-development outline".

3. Learn from each other.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have different times, different cultural backgrounds of life education, different understandings of educational concepts, educational contents and educational methods, and all of them have had successful educational experiences. The mother-in-law successfully raised her son, and the daughter-in-law successfully completed her educational experience. Therefore, the successful memory model in the past will affect the education of the baby. However, what and how to educate the baby is a new topic for two generations, and no one can be too confident. It takes two generations of parents to learn scientific early education knowledge, discuss and try equally, learn from each other's strengths and give their babies the best education.

4. Be psychologically prepared for the new changes in family relations.

"It is a kind of wealth to have an old man at home." This is the feeling of many working families in modern times. For the sake of the next generation, our grandparents went to their children to raise their grandchildren, so that young parents could have no worries and concentrate on their careers. This is a beautiful scenery after China entered an aging society. At the same time, the small family has become a big family, and the family relationship is complex, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which lacks the basis for long-term understanding and communication. Psychological relationship is complex, subtle and obscure, which will be reflected in the attitude and behavior towards parenting. If the baby before the age of 3 lives in a safe, stable and warm material and psychological environment, he will gain trust in the world and grow physically and mentally, otherwise, the baby's body and mind will be adversely affected.

5. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is based on "family and everything".

Parenting from generation to generation requires skilled interpersonal skills of family members. Some old sayings are refined, such as "respect the old and love the young", "teach the children face to face, teach the wife behind their backs", "teach the children face to face, advise the elderly behind their backs" and so on. Careful taste, these words have rich connotations and obvious benefits, because they have the function of regulating "home and everything". Because intergenerational education involves many family members, the psychological relationship between people is more complicated. If there is a psychological gap, it is not conducive to a consistent and harmonious family education for the baby. Therefore, good parenting needs to be based on "home and everything". The warm and harmonious "popularity" of the whole family is conducive to the healthy development of the baby's emotions and psychology.