We need to refuse to rush. Now parents, teachers and children all over the country are running wildly, anxiously and fearfully, but no one wants to stop and think about where everyone has been in such a hurry, why they are running like this, and what they have sacrificed to run. My second son Kane was repeatedly asked by the teacher to skip class, but we also refused many times, because we didn't want to put the expectations of adults for his high IQ above him, but hoped that he would have a normal childhood and give him enough space to let his emotional intelligence and social skills grow in step with IQ. A child with high IQ may not surpass his peers so quickly in other parts of his life. Although he has the ability to read a profound novel, he may not have enough maturity and life experience to understand its profound significance. We need to raise a complete child, and we can't take shortcuts for the rapid rise of IQ at the expense of the balanced growth of children in other aspects. When I was studying at MIT, I knew some students who were prodigies since childhood, but they were not happy, because they only studied, but lacked intimate friends and could not date friends of the opposite sex around them. All this unhappiness is because they are younger than their classmates and partners around them and cannot integrate into the circle of their peers.
Happiness is not the goal of children, but a by-product. If the child's happiness becomes the main goal of parents to raise their children, the child will become a selfish tyrant who will not consider others. A child needs to learn to delay gratification, control his own desires and consider the needs of others from an early age. He also needs his parents to allow him to grow up in failure, instead of forbidding him to fail and fearing that he will fail, because failure is a certain process of life and a good tool for growth. When a child thinks that failure is a part of life, he will not be defeated by setbacks and will not give up because of setbacks. Instead, he will learn to meet risks, learn to innovate, learn to think, and learn and reflect from failures. Children also need enough time and space to rest and be in a daze, so that they can play their inner imagination. Most importantly, regardless of a child's IQ and ability, every child can cultivate good living habits and sense of responsibility under the discipline of his parents, and this good character and sense of responsibility will eventually make this child a popular child everywhere. When a child has a good personality, happiness will naturally follow the child. On the contrary, when a child thinks that everyone around him must meet all his needs at once, his selfishness will make people around him dislike him and eventually bring loneliness and pain.