Application to join the inner planet-cover letter

The last application to join the inner planet was in August last year, but it failed to pass the examination. To be honest, there were a lot of question marks in my heart at that time, but that didn't stop me from yearning for the inner planet and Jupiter. Since I became a mother, my focus has changed little by little, just like my husband's brainstorming last night. I sat down to comb together and found that my inner thoughts were more and more clearly presented, and my inner exploration and growth plan changed from ignorance to as if there was a road slowly spreading under my feet. I have been paying attention to the inner planet for almost a year, and I have benefited a lot. In the era of knowledge payment, this sharp and warm little planet gives me the feeling that it is not just a dry article by Joven, but a team of small partners who respect each other and vibrate at the same frequency. After more than half a year, I re-examined these points in the recommendation letter, and I am grateful for this opportunity to push myself. Whether I can pass the audit or not, I want to sort myself out and face the real me at this point in time.

1. What are your puzzles about parenting or personal growth?

My daughter is over four years old now. From liking the attachment of a little creature to getting along with her in the most scientific and appropriate way, until she was three to three and a half years old, I felt unreasonable and wanted to lose my temper with her from time to time. This situation makes me feel more and more that my relationship with this little creature needs to change from "nurturing" to "nurturing", and more importantly, it needs to change from my influence on her to mutual influence. I'm no longer in her world. I'm going to learn to quit slowly, and I'm beginning to have more personal time. Everyone says that "setting an example is the best education that parents can give their children". My thoughts on personal inner exploration, pursuit of life meaning and personal growth always inspire me like a mysterious force. I have been immersed in various online courses for several years, and I have my own screening of information and knowledge, leaving many names of communities and individuals, while the inner planet has been left behind. One of the two WeChat platforms that I often punch in and read carefully has become my habit. If you ask me now, what are the puzzles in parenting or personal growth? I think it may be in terms of personal growth, accompanying myself who thinks I am introverted and sensitive and willing to look inward, releasing my inner strength, pushing myself forward, learning from people with better quality of life, and being able to practice a more positive life concept. As a wife, mother and daughter, I hope to broaden my horizons, make better use of women's strength to accompany my family, make my family warm and stable, have an atmosphere and a direction, give full play to my family's companionship and healing power, and bring a small but warm positive impact to my family.

2. What efforts have you made to solve this problem?

Over the years, with the growth of my children, I have gradually shifted the focus of my study from the outside to the inside. Now I prefer to live and grow better only if I learn to know myself better and live in harmony with myself. Face yourself and think seriously. Beneath the calm surface, I always knew my problem: I always felt that I was unable to be happy. To outsiders, I am not bad in all aspects, but only I know, because of my childhood family education, I have a "perfect mother" with strong desire for control. When I was a child, I always looked at my mother's face and was often punished by my mother, because it was not my fault. Now I find that I have become a "please-type personality", because I want to please others and can't really express myself, which makes me feel all the time in interpersonal communication.

Up to now, I have been learning new parenting ideas, so that I can grow up and get close to my excellent friends. I just hope that my situation will not happen to my daughter, and that she can express herself freely and be a calm and happy person in the future.

In order to solve these puzzles, I have been looking inward and outward. In terms of personal career development, I never stop reading and ask myself to read at least 10 books every year. Punch in and read the article "introverted planet" and apply it to practice; Immersion of offline personal growth groups; Learning the knowledge of online psychology, I completed a series of courses on depression, anxiety and mania of Teacher Zhang Tianbu. Ten lectures on teacher Wu's scandal; Teacher Zeng Qifeng's psychoanalysis related courses; Try to give your child the effective companionship he can give at this moment; Encourage yourself to keep exporting; Try to stay in shape, yoga+sugar-free healthy diet; Try to create an atmosphere of eating with your family and prepare an intimate breakfast and dinner for your husband and children; Actively express love with her husband, exchange ideas in time, and get the support of the family system.

3. What books or courses have you studied about spiritual growth and psychology?

I graduated from psychology, and I studied the basic course of psychology when I was studying. In addition, Hu Yinmeng's trilogy of body and mind was read by Zhang Defen and Zhang Yijun earlier. In the past two years, I have read Owen Yalong's books and courses, the acceptance of the sea, and Rachel Custer's motherhood. Some descriptions have also made me see my mother's voice from different angles, which is very loud. Last summer vacation, I learned Zou Jinhua's "Mother's Self-management". At present, I prefer the perspective and method of positive psychology to look at the problem and agree with the resource-oriented life.

Now that my daughter has entered the park, my free time has become more and more. I remember reading a teacher's article when I first saw the inner planet, and I was deeply impressed. This is about whether a three-year-old child should force her to say hello to outsiders. The teacher made this truth very clear and practical in simple language, and gave me a guiding direction for what I have been insisting on. I want to follow my teacher, systematically apply what I have learned to my life, and have a systematic view of dealing with things; At this stage when women become mothers, their own strength is often easily overlooked. With the increase and change of social roles, women at this stage need guidance and companionship more. Women are sensitive and changeable, but I think most introverted and sensitive people are better able to explore their own growth. Inner planet only accepts applications from women and provides them with growth partners. Thank you for meeting such a special little planet. I have read many articles about Inner Planet, which is very consistent with what I have been looking for in my heart, and I often marvel at the teacher's perspective. I want to learn from teachers and classmates, a group of women full of internal motivation, how to put these ideas to the ground. I hope to join the writing camp and continue to maintain the habit of continuous output. After paying attention for so long, I think it's time.

Written on March 5, 2020/kloc-Xi Anjia.