Ps: Today, Mr. Shen said that writing is actually very simple, that is, writing your true feelings, so I took this opportunity to write a review. This is my real feeling after watching this movie. As a senior, I just passed the age tests of 14 and 15. Really touched, I hope to share it with my parents and friends. I suggest that parents and friends can take time to watch this movie, which should also be enlightening and helpful for educating children.
Children are not stupid. Secondly, primary school students in Singapore will be assigned to three different courses according to their academic performance when they reach the fifth grade: EM 1, EM2 or EM3, among which EM3 is the shallowest and considered the least promising. The story "Children Are Not Stupid" tells the story of three children studying in the EM3 course.
They are Guo Bin, Terry and Wen Fu. Their family environment is different, their personalities are different, their diligence is different, and their learning ability in cultural classes is also different. Among them, Guo Bin likes painting and is very talented in this respect, but he is introverted and impulsive. Guo Bin's parents are both intellectuals. They want their children to succeed, and they do not hesitate to urge their children to study through corporal punishment. Terry's family is rich, and his mother is too "responsible" and likes to help children make decisions. "Everything has to be involved." The adolescent sister Salina often has conflicts with her mother, and the little Terry has become a typical child who listens to her mother under her discipline. Wen Fu grew up in the market, his parents' education level is not high, and he runs a small enterprise. Wen Fu, who grew up in this environment, is smart, loyal and talented in reading, but not focused and serious enough, which leads to unsatisfactory academic performance.
In the movie, the child Guo Bin touched my sensitive nerve. In real life, there have been many such classmates around me. They are poor students in "Chinese, Mathematics and English", but they have extraordinary talent in painting. They may not have the "photographic memory" like Guo Bin, but often their works always attract people's attention and arouse the audience's * * *. For such students, we can't just measure their value by the test scores of "Chinese, Mathematics and English", let alone carve them by the template of exam-oriented education. But like teacher Lin in the film, we should fully affirm their specialties and abilities, and teach students in accordance with their aptitude. This is the connotation and charm of quality education.
Among them, there is such a scene in the film that I was particularly impressed: the children teased Terry for listening to his mother and asked, "Your mother asked you to eat shit, so you ate it?" The little fat man's answer is "go, with my mother, I'll make the stool delicious." Terry worships his mother in his heart, takes his parents' words as the golden rule, and has no ideas or opinions of his own. This is not only the sorrow of Singaporean education, but also the sorrow of China education. China's parents are used to "doing everything" and like to impose their opinions and wishes on their children. Although their original intentions are good, they objectively hinder the development of children's critical thinking and indirectly stifle their creativity and adaptability. As a primary school teacher and a mother, we should also reflect on whether we have disciplined students intentionally or unintentionally in the education of children, and whether we can find a better balance point and a more appropriate way to interpret the word "education" in our future work and life, which will neither stifle nature nor guide the formation of children's values.
As the title says: children are not stupid. Kong Ziyun: There is no class in teaching. As educators, we should pay more attention to our educational objects in our work, be diligent, be willing to find their bright spots, and seek the most appropriate methods to cultivate them; Don't impose social and personal values on children. Instead, they are encouraged to explore, discover, judge and establish their own unique views on foreign things. This is the significance of our work, so that the future flowers of the motherland can grow sturdily and have enough ability to practice the Chinese dream.
Children are not stupid. The film Children Are Not Stupid describes some fragments of the growth of three good friends, Guo Bin, Wen Fu and Terry. They are all studying in EM3 (a class that is considered hopeless). They come from different families and backgrounds, and their parents give them different education, which leads to their different personalities. There are many tidbits and jokes in the film, but they are drowned in the scolding and painful lessons of parents and teachers. Fortunately, they finally heard the child's inner voice, and the child understood the love and commitment of his parents from the serious consequences of his rebellion.
This film combines the character's personality and background just right, which is easy and funny, but it is also very intriguing. After reading it, I felt extremely heavy while laughing. I am very worried that I used to be like the parents of movies, because I was busy with work and didn't take care of and pay attention to my son's fragile and sensitive heart; I have also been severely criticized and scolded for my child's careless mistakes; He also interferes with children's hobbies, binds their hands and feet, and blocks the space for their personality development. ...
Fortunately, it's not too late. The inspiration and education this film gave me made me more clear about the way to educate my children:
First, safety is the most important thing, and we must not ignore the safety education for children.
For parents, the personal safety of children is undoubtedly the most important. If personal safety does not exist, all education will be meaningless. There are two incidents in the film that threaten children's safety. One is that Terry's sister was almost molested by netizens when she met them, and the other is that Terry and Wen Fu were kidnapped by gangsters. In daily life, dangerous factors that threaten children's personal safety are everywhere. Therefore, children's safety education must not be ignored, and safety education should be integrated into every bit of daily life. For example, how to turn the gas stove on and off, how to cross the road, how to prevent strangers from coming, how to get lost with adults and so on.
A few days ago, my teacher recommended me to learn safety from my parents. This set of books and CDs is very good. I give guidance on how to prevent and deal with "social security accidents", "public health accidents", "accidental injury accidents", "natural disasters" and "medical common sense", and educate children how to protect themselves, their families and social security by combining preaching with vivid cartoons. Through today's movie, I am more determined to carry out safety education for children. I will lead my children to study this set of safety education in depth and consolidate it in daily life.
Second, children are different, and expectations for children must be reasonable.
Every child is different. Thousands of different children in Qian Qian make up a colorful spring. The difference of children's personality determines that children's hobbies and abilities are different. Some children have good academic performance, some dance well, some draw well, some are obedient and clever, some are lively and active, some are competitive, and some are timid ... However, the bright spot in each child is what other children do not have. As a parent, how can we accurately discover and grasp the bright spots of children and cultivate them into personality and specialties? My answer is: let the children do what they like! Not every child is omnipotent. Don't compare your child's shortcomings with other children's strengths, and don't always ask your child to do well in one aspect, which will only take care of one thing and lose another.
I remember reading a story: the rabbit won the tortoise-hare race, and others praised the rabbit as a genius of running. However, mother rabbit doesn't think so. She thinks rabbits should be versatile. When she saw the tortoise swimming in the water and the rabbit couldn't, she forced the rabbit to learn to swim. After a long period of training and torture, the rabbit finally failed to learn to swim, and was branded as a "stupid rabbit", and the running that originally belonged to the rabbit was abandoned because it was not practiced for a long time.
Simple and rude education will only push children to the wall. As parents, we can't stifle the children's bright spots like Guo Bin's mother in the movie, but exaggerate the children's shortcomings and make them lose happiness too early, so that they are insecure about everything and unhappy all day.
As for children's academic performance, as long as parents guide their children to develop good study habits from an early age, let them gradually develop the ability of autonomous learning and high-speed learning efficiency, and cultivate their children's highly concentrated learning and extremely active thinking, their academic performance will naturally not be bad.
The exam is "to test children's knowledge and mother's mentality". We don't have to be led by scores, because scores are not directly related to success. Scores are only one aspect of measuring students' Excellence, and heroes should never be judged by scores. As a mother, I should say to myself and my children, "As long as I work hard, it doesn't matter how much I take the exam", and encourage my children not to have too much mental pressure, so that they can maintain a good learning attitude and fun. I believe that every child will become a pillar of the motherland.
Third, the mind should listen more and communicate more with children.
The little girl in the film finally got schizophrenia, which touched me a lot. As parents, we often neglect our children's hearts because of our busy work. Although they are strict with children's study habits and care about the details of life, they lack the most necessary understanding and support for children's hearts, rarely communicate with children, and lack observation and experience of children's psychological changes. Only say "what to do" and "what not to do" to children, and rarely ask them "why" and "what do you want". I seldom take time to chat with my children, understand their feelings, understand their little emotional changes, and seldom take time to play games and walk with them, so as to cultivate their excellent character of unity, friendship, mutual assistance and openness in the process of frolicking.
It's a long way to teach children, and we still have a long way to go for children to go to society and build their own families. How to make children grow into a healthy, happy, open-minded and good student with excellent academic performance is the common wish of every parent.
After watching the movie, I think we should learn to give our children the greatest space while giving them subtle care. While giving them sincere teaching, we should also give them spiritual communication. Look at them from a distance, not help them; Listen and encourage them, not suppress and force them. As parents, this course may be far from getting started, but we will use our love for our children to persistently support the blue sky of happiness, happiness and healthy growth for them.
Children are not stupid. Reflection on the film IV Yesterday, I went to my son's school for a parent-teacher conference. I heard the teacher Lou say that "children are not stupid". This TV is worth watching. It's just a holiday today, so turn on the computer and calm down and have a good look.
The plot and monologue in it really made me reflect, and many places made me cry. Yes, it would be a wonderful thing if each of us had a key like Mr. Hao's!
In the play, I watched Yang's blog and his brother Jerry's monologue on the stage several times, which was really worth pondering. Now I'll copy these down—
Xue Qian's blog: ... Last night, I found something wrong with my father's computer. He didn't bring it this morning, so I spent some time repairing it for him, hoping to help him finish his work after repairing the computer. Unexpectedly, he didn't thank me for what I sent him in the office and scolded me. Who can tell me what I should do to avoid being scolded? I only got 38 points in the Chinese exam today. Teacher Fu asked me how to help me. I told him that Yang was flogged to death. My mother will only scold me and force me. No matter what I do, it will always be wrong and bad in her eyes. I remember when I was in junior high school, I got lost in the wrong car and couldn't go home. I was so scared. I found a public phone to call my father. He said he was busy and didn't have time to answer my phone. Getting lost is terrible. I didn't get home until dark, and my mother scolded me. Slowly, I know this home is just where I sleep. This family has everything on the surface, but in fact there is nothing.
Xue Qian's younger brother Jerry's stage monologue: Mom and Dad can finally come to see my performance. What's more, they have found the key that Teacher Hao said. In fact, this key has always been with everyone. I remember when I was a child, we often fell down and stood up with encouragement and praise. We didn't know how happy we were. I don't know when to praise and encourage us. After we grow up, the door slowly changes and closes. Is it really that hard to encourage others and see the advantages of others? In fact, both adults and children need praise from others, but why are we always so stingy when praising others? Every child has a good boy and a bad boy. As long as their good children are awakened, they will play their best. There is a good saying: "resources, misplaced, are rubbish." And putting garbage in the right place is a resource! "After the principal and Mr. Fu appreciated this brother, the miracle that happened made us realize that appreciation was also a powerful driving force. Your brother is no longer a rotten apple. This driving force has changed many things, just because of a few simple words, a few words, or an action, an expression.
Yes, in fact, what children want is really simple, not big fish and big meat, nor wearing famous brands. They just want your affirmation and encouragement, give them trust and motivation.
If you have pets at home, you must know that both cats and dogs like to pet along their fur. Cats will be happy to stroke along the fur, and dogs will shake their heads and wag their tails.
In fact, human nature also likes others to obey his wishes. I'm not criticizing good or bad, I'm talking about reality. Most people do, or 99.9% do. After all, very few people can really listen to criticism and harsh suggestions.
What does this mean? There is a proverb in China: hide evil and promote good. It refers to avoiding talking about other people's shortcomings, let alone exposing their own scars, and making others feel respected and comfortable on unprincipled issues out of goodwill. This is not hypocrisy, but a kind attitude towards life and kindness to others.
If you are a child's teacher, do you know what the child really needs? Can you really teach children? Will you enlighten him with more patience and embrace them with a motherly heart? Will you give them a trusting look, give them more encouragement, affirm and praise their little progress and efforts? A while ago, my son came back and said to me, "Mom, I want to argue with a teacher!" " "I was shocked at the time and asked what was going on." Mom, you didn't chat with teacher XXX on QQ before. How can I be good? Self-study class that night, just XXX teacher took us. I was distracted, made a little gesture and spoke. It's my fault, but the teacher laughed at me in front of the whole class and said, "Your mother still says you are so nice. Look at you like this, you should send it to your mother's unit (my unit is a juvenile detention center) for reform. What makes him say that about me! At best, I did something wrong. It's not my turn to commit a crime! ! "Yes, as a teacher, is it thoughtless to say such a thing? Children also have self-esteem!
If you are the parents of your child, will you always ignore your child on the pretext of being busy? Do you take some problems at work and interpersonal relationships home and vent them on your children? Will you impose some of your ideas and demands on your children? Children grow up day by day, and they have gone from that time to today, so put yourself in their shoes! Appreciate them, affirm them, tolerate them and tell them that you love them. You will find that they are really cute and beautiful!
Praise is the lubricant of interpersonal relationships, whether between teachers and students, between colleagues or between superiors and subordinates. In our daily study, work and life, how much we need others' praise and encouragement, because in this process, we can not only feel fun and warmth, but also increase our confidence. Lincoln once said, "Everyone likes to be praised." Mr. Xiabu, the first president of the American steel company, once said a meaningful sentence: "I was born with the ability to mobilize people's enthusiasm, and the best way to urge people to exert their abilities to the limit is to praise and encourage them." Criticism from elders or superiors is the easiest way to ruin a person's ambition. I never criticize them. I believe that rewards can motivate people to work. Therefore, I prefer praise to nitpicking. If there is anything I like, it is to praise others sincerely and generously! " This is the secret of Xiabu's success.
A little progress in study and a little achievement in work are what people expect most. When they are affirmed, praised and encouraged, they will instinctively glow with more light and heat, study and work harder and achieve better results. So, don't forget the people around you, give you sincere appreciation and cheer for them, and you will find a bright world.
Children are not stupid. A line in the movie "Children Are Not Stupid" is very good, that is, "The wrong place of resources is garbage, and the right place is resources". If respecting and understanding children requires teachers to have higher literacy, then tolerating children requires courage and greater investment. Teachers should let children know the repetitive process, which requires us to be more patient.
Tolerance is neither indulgence nor doting. It has rich connotations. Tolerance is the continuation of understanding and the truest and most concrete embodiment of understanding. Tolerance should take many forms, and the determination of each form must be based on the principle of "opening a lock with a key". Tolerance, but also to eliminate the interference of bad factors for children, create conditions for children to "jump" to achieve their goals; At the same time, we should take advantage of the situation, infect children with love, organically combine respect, understanding and tolerance, improve the depth, breadth and quality of communication with children, and enlarge the teacher's love more times.
Looking at Zhang Tianzhen's lovely face, all my troubles and sorrows suddenly subsided, and the poems and paintings of life danced in front of my eyes, making my heart bright and warm. "I think kindergarten teachers are a pure and beautiful career. Some people describe preschool teachers as always so young and full of vigor. This description makes sense. When you face the children's clear and childlike eyes, when you listen to the children's silvery laughter, everyone seems to be back to childhood. This makes me like this profession more, makes me feel that this profession is so pure and beautiful, and I have no regrets in choosing this profession. In the days of getting along with children, more love and less vanity; More understanding and help, less accusations and criticisms; More tolerance and patience, less blame and punishment! In this way, teachers' career path will be better.
"Love" is the eternal theme of education. We know how to love children better and how to make them grow up healthily in a better environment. As a backbone teacher, we should concentrate on practice, persevere and have a solid style; Treat learning with a conscious spirit and don't be eager for quick success and instant benefit. We should think about problems with a pragmatic attitude and strive to be eclectic and learn from others; We should boldly innovate with a unique vision, and be eclectic and ingenious; We should maintain a positive and healthy psychological quality, and gradually form a comprehensive quality of skillfully borrowing external forces, so that our work, life and study are always in a state of research, and life is in the process of continuous exploration and pursuit.
Children are not stupid. After reading Children Are Not Stupid, I feel quite touched. After feeling, I remembered modern family education.
Parents all think that as long as they follow their arrangement and participate in various remedial classes, they can win quizzes, senior high school entrance examinations and college entrance examinations and become "geniuses" worthy of their pride, and family education is successful. In fact, have parents ever reflected? Is this so-called "genius training mode" a successful family education?
In the movie "Children Are Not Stupid", we can all clearly see that parents blindly demand high grades for their children, which eventually leads to the success of being expelled from school, and Xue Qian has also become a student who violates school rules. Is this related to family education?
Parents think that only children with high grades are good children and only children with high grades can have a good future. Therefore, they don't allow children to develop other hobbies that have nothing to do with study. In the film, Jerry, as the protagonist of the speech, can't invite his parents to attend the lecture because they think it is indecent; On Father's Day, Xue Qian bought a razor for his father with the change he usually saved, but his mother scolded him. He doesn't study hard and spends money all day. He became a success because his father didn't do well in the Chinese exam, but he was beaten up by his father ... Over time, children no longer dared to tell their parents what they had nothing to do with their studies, and the generation gap gradually widened to the point where they could not communicate. However, parents are overconfident and think that everything they do is for their children, which is true.
With the development of society, flogging education seems to be an effective way of family education. In Children Are Not Stupid, you often see a talented person being punched and kicked by his father, and Xue Qian is often scolded by his mother pointing at his nose. In modern life, there are even vivid examples of wolf parents and tiger mothers. I want to ask, what happiness do children who grow up in beating and cursing have? Can a Peking University erase the shadow left by parents' violence in childhood?
In the ending of Children Are Not Stupid, Xue Qian's mother resigned as the editor-in-chief, on the grounds that she wanted to go home and discipline her children, because she realized that she needed time to get to know her children and find out the correct way of education.
We are individuals from birth, and we are capitalized flesh-and-blood people, not machines that study exams just for grades. Children in childhood are full of energy and imagination. Parents should freely develop their children according to their interests, cultivate their independent personality and thoughts, and give them the right to enjoy a happy life.
However, the "free" development mentioned here is "relative freedom". It doesn't mean that parents can let their children develop all the habits, even bad habits, without discipline. If they make their children obey them, they just spoil them. If it is one extreme for parents to teach their children, this kind of doting education is the other extreme. Li Tianyi was sentenced to XX years, which was the result of doting on education.
So parents should pay attention to their children's family education. Respect children's personality, while disciplining children, give them some free development space. Parents should be guides in the process of children's growth, not oppressors who oppress their children's development, and strive to make their children grow up happily.