The literal translation of "Brilliance, Change Your Life with Positive Psychology" means "Change your life with positive psychology and move towards brilliance", and this brilliance is the "happiness" repeatedly mentioned in the book.
Happiness translated into Chinese means "feeling good"; Being means "keep a certain state now/all the time". At first glance, the translation of the book into Happiness is somewhat puzzling; If it is translated as "maintaining happiness", it may be more appropriate to clarify the truth/viewpoint in the book.
So open the text and solve it, and the idea of this book is very clear:
From the perspective of positive psychology, it tells us that as ordinary people, we can choose the way to experience and get "happiness" (including those factors related to how/why we make choices, that is, how to think &; How to feel), and only we can change or increase those factors that affect our choices.
Details are as follows:
1. Needs and values: Basic needs vary from person to person. Only what is most important and precious to us is what we need. We should choose what we need;
2. Response: Because the behavior of others will affect our choices, we usually respond based on the behavior of others and the external environment;
3. Adaptability to groups: Deciding which group to join depends on whether it meets our social needs; We make choices under cultural and social norms; We decide to do what we think we should do, often because others think we should do it;
4. Autonomy: a high degree of freedom and unrestricted choice; Choosing innovation/stimulation/uncertainty is to enjoy the present happiness;
5. Habits: Make choices according to your own habits, follow your feelings, and do what we have been doing without any worries;
6. Understanding: Choose what you can understand and what is meaningful to you; When we can understand why we should do something, we have reason to choose to do it.
Combining the research results of positive psychology, this book tells us how to examine our own state (with self-checking gadgets) and combine those psychological research conclusions &; Universal truth sees its own limitations &; And modify it.
There are many golden sentences about happiness in the book, full of heavy life truths:
1. Knowing what makes people really happy can make people feel happier than trying to maximize the happy experience;
Happiness is a by-product of our actions and experiences. When we feel happy, we can make our lives more valuable and create value for others' lives.
3. The effect of things that affect happiness is fleeting, and real happiness comes from our actions and ideas;
4. Happiness is greatly influenced by choice and the way of choice;
5. The two main characteristics of happiness are: experiencing instant happiness, that is, no matter what activities you participate in, you can experience the fun; Contentment, this kind of happiness is more lasting/satisfying;
6. Only when we play a major role in character strengths can we really develop. There are three main points: using the strengths of top figures; Pay attention to/pay attention to the personality characteristics of the bottom, and give full play to the advantages of the top to enhance the advantages of the bottom; Be wary of one-way development, and the excessive development of an advantage may become a disadvantage.
The paper also mentioned many research conclusions of positive psychology:
1. The happiness formula created by positive psychologists Sheldon, lyubomirsky and Xiao Di: gene set value (S=50%), which shows people's innate ability to perceive happiness; Living conditions (C= 10%) indicate things that can and cannot be changed, including living environment, living and working place, marital status, job type, whether to transfer to public transport, health and wealth; Voluntary activities (V=40%) indicate short-term and long-term choices for happiness.
2. Carol Ryff, a positive psychologist, believes that the basic element of psychological well-being is to control the environment; Autonomy; Sense of purpose; Personal growth; Self-acceptance; Maintain positive interpersonal relationships.
3. C.R.Snyder, a positive psychologist, believes that hope is more important than positive emotion, and its two elements-ability and energy provide us with psychological and emotional ability to help us achieve our goals. Positive thinking includes: the ability to solve problems (psychological ability to solve problems); Design a plan to achieve the goal; The energy to carry out the plan (give full play to enthusiasm and put ideas into practice).
4. Happiness is greatly influenced by choice and the way of choice. Psychologist barry schwartz believes that choosers can be divided into two categories: perfect choosers and satisfied choosers.
5. Psychologist James Maddux defines self-efficacy as: under certain conditions, you believe that you can accomplish something with your own skills. Self-efficacy affects choice-the more a person believes in himself, the more likely he is to make a better choice. Self-efficacy makes people reflect on themselves, thus positively influencing their choices.
6. If you want to grow up, you must at least make positive emotions three times more than negative emotions, just 2.9 times. This ratio is a critical value, below which the effect is not obvious.
And the road to happiness, you can learn from the positive psychologist Shane Lopez's GPOWER model:
1.g (target): What is the target?
2.p (Path): What is the so-called path?
3.o (Obstacles): What obstacles will you encounter on the road?
4.w (willpower): Where does the will to inspire us come from?
5. Which way do we finally choose?
6.r (reflection): the process of reflection. Can we do it again in the same way?
Of course, this book can easily be mistaken for a hodgepodge or chicken soup for the soul. Whether the chicken soup is good or not lies in the chicken soup itself, but in whether we will practice/revise/practice it in our own lives according to the chicken soup, so as to achieve a "brilliant" and "healthy" state in line with our own growth path.
Good luck to everyone.