Actually, I can't blame everyone. I think it is enough that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be kept on the surface. Although we have always called her mother-in-law, in our hearts, her mother-in-law can't compare with her biological mother. The reason why she called her mother was because of her husband.
Similarly, you will not treat your mother-in-law as your own mother, and her mother-in-law will naturally not treat you as a daughter. After all, everyone is really not related by blood, and they didn't grow up in the same environment, so their feelings will certainly not be very deep. The reason why two people can get along with each other is entirely because of that man, so we don't need to ask too much of each other, as long as we can get by on the face and don't have conflicts.
Therefore, mother-in-law as a wife should not interfere too much. After all, people are elders anyway, as long as there is no conflict between two people, everything can be said. It's like saying that because my mother-in-law doesn't help my wife watch the children dance in square dance, I don't think it's necessary to say it's because of this anger. Although it is reasonable to say that the mother-in-law should help take care of the child after giving birth, the child is her own after all, and it is nothing too much for others not to take care of it.
Besides, you can't limit your mother-in-law's behavior because of your children, which is actually a bit excessive. After all, the child is your own, and people have no obligation to help you take care of the child, so don't let this kind of thing affect the feelings between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.