How to maintain a normal relationship with the opposite sex

Keep the necessary distance. Seeing the first point, some people will have questions. Obviously, how to maintain a good relationship with the opposite sex? Why should we keep a necessary distance from the opposite sex in the first place? That's because the same sex repels each other and the opposite sex attracts each other. In fact, it is easy for men and women to cross that line, but if they want to maintain friendship, they must keep the necessary distance. This is a safety line to protect your friendship from accidental fire. Appropriate limits, to put it bluntly, are a matter of degree. It is our instinct to be close to the opposite sex, but in the process of heterosexual communication, we should master the issues of discretion and propriety. Once you go too far, the feelings between the opposite sex will be destroyed, and even if you go back and forth in the future, you can't return to the previous level. We always feel that there is an invisible wall between us. Don't be too ambiguous. In fact, men like to be ambiguous with women, which is a sign of his sexual attraction. However, if you want to maintain a good relationship with the opposite sex, you must restrain yourself, hold yourself steady in front of the opposite sex and be polite. If you are glib in front of the opposite sex, do you think the opposite sex will keep friends with you, a wretched man? Gender communication is an art, I hope you can make suggestions, and I will update your wisdom messages regularly to help more people get rid of their emotional troubles. How to maintain a normal relationship with the opposite sex 2 1: think positively and maintain confidence in men. I believe there must be many good men in the world. Some women doubt everything, and keeping their mouths shut means "no man is a good thing"! This argument makes them look at men with colored glasses, and they can't get along with the opposite sex with a normal mentality, either too dense or too sparse. Whenever someone says this, I think of my father, my brother and my husband. If you want to know what a "good man" is, just look at their faces, which are full of integrity, sincerity and kindness, and will never let the opposite sex down in this life. Maybe I'm lucky, but I believe there are definitely many good men in the world. Only by interacting with the opposite sex in a positive way can you maintain a normal and balanced mentality and have a sound foundation for development. Two: treat him from an equal perspective. This is a society where men have the initiative and decision-making power. Because of the need of work, maybe we need to deal with some powerful opposite sex. At this time, keep an equal perspective to associate with him, and don't be intimidated by his title, status, reputation and other prominent things. People are high and low, but they are all equal in personality. There is no need to be short and timid, not to mention flattering, grovelling and even flattering. You know, such a man has seen many servile faces, and that kind of performance will only make him look down on you and look down on you. Only by treating each other equally, being natural and graceful, neither humble nor supercilious, and showing their own advantages, will they win his attention and attention; Three: When you first start dating, listen as much as possible and talk less. A word or two is enough to prove it at the right time. Men, especially men who pretend to be outstanding, generally have a strong desire to express themselves, and they don't like to see a woman showing off her teeth in front of him. Encourage him to express more and guide him in time, just like saying "bang" in cross talk. Add a sentence at the turning point: What happened later? Get him interested in continuing his speech. You encourage with your eyes, nod your head to show your approval, and make him feel that you are listening carefully, and he will be very satisfied. A good conversation is often not how much you say, but how much you listen to and give the opposite sex a chance to speak. It's that he thinks you are "interesting and good at talking"; Four: If there is no official business, just a gathering between friends, it is best to bring a female companion. This trick was given to me by a "senior" when I first joined the work. After that, I often used this trick for a long time and it didn't work. With a female companion, we can take care of each other, protect each other, and do everything in moderation, so that we will not be lonely and feel safe. The topic of multi-person gathering will be wider and the atmosphere will be more relaxed, unlike the conversation between a man and a woman, which is prone to deviation when speaking; Five: If you have business to talk about, it is not convenient to bring a female companion. You'd better choose a public place to meet. Don't go to the other person's office. On the other side's turf, the other side will inevitably be condescending, and it will be difficult for them to talk on an equal footing because of their unequal status. But don't go to private places, don't go to his house, and don't let him go to your house. Even if he really looks like a gentleman, don't create these opportunities that may lead to misunderstanding. Choose an elegant cafe or restaurant, preferably a place you are familiar with, so that you can take the initiative and relax; Six: When two people meet alone, the dress can be fashionable and beautiful, but not sexy and enchanting. It is best to avoid wearing low-cut dresses, miniskirts or clothes that are too thin and transparent. If you dress too sexy and emphasize femininity, you will appear frivolous and disorderly, which will inevitably make the other person's mood high and misunderstand that you have other plans. Men who are not determined will think: push the boat with the current. Even with Liu Xiahui, why should we test others like this? Seven: Look friendly but not too charming, sincere but not too intimate. When interacting with friends of the opposite sex, it is definitely unacceptable to be cold and keep people away, but being too sweet and charming will also make the other person have charming fantasies. Let the other person treat you as a friend instead of a "woman", and the relationship will be longer and healthier; Eight: Don't give each other the chance to speak ambiguous language. It is very important to have a good grasp of a degree in the communication between men and women. If you are a charming, lovely and charming woman, some men will inevitably have some unreasonable ideas. If he and you are both single, he naturally has the right to think so. But if you don't want to develop into a couple with him and just want to keep friendship, try not to let him make ambiguous demands. Because some men with status usually have strong self-esteem, once their request to speak is rejected, they will easily become angry from embarrassment and the relationship will be suspended. When I think he has a tendency to express his feelings, I will interrupt him on the grounds of going to the bathroom or something, and naturally lead to other topics when I come back. If you accidentally let him say it, don't refuse it, so that the other party can't get off the stage. It's best to play the fool and be fully distracted, say with a smile: Are you kidding, hahaha, and then change the subject skillfully. If the other person is a knowledgeable person and sees your attitude, he will never be bored again; Nine: We must not think that all men are "bad things", but we must not naively think that all men in the world are gentlemen. If you find that the other person is really an irresponsible pervert, it is very dangerous to associate with him. No matter how threatened and seduced he is, he will never associate with him again. The communication between men and women, if there is no determination to get married, must not go beyond the boundaries of the body, otherwise it will only come to the end of the road, fall apart, and often separate as soon as it gets closer. Some girls are grateful for the kindness of some men, and on impulse, they are confused and committed to each other. I'm not a rigid and conservative antique. I don't think women must stick to the chastity archway, and I don't think girls who have physical contact with men are big traitors. In today's diversified society, everyone has the freedom to choose their own lifestyle. However, the point is that the moment you gave your body to him, it was entirely because of love and nothing else. If you combine against your will for some utilitarian purpose or gratitude, it will always be a heart disease and shame for girls. Especially for some men who aim at "hooking up", they can keep their interest for a long time before they succeed. Once they succeed, they lose interest and can't even make friends. Girls lose their virginity and fail to achieve their goals. It is a dead duck. Ten: Last but not least, keep a sincere and true heart. Whether it is pure friendship or some work contact, we should treat each other with sincerity. Don't completely embrace the utilitarian purpose and the mentality of "taking advantage". If necessary, you can't get rid of it. Once you cross the river, you will kick down the bridge and turn your back on others. This kind of villain mentality of quick success and instant benefit is doomed to failure, whether it is to treat friends of the opposite sex or same sex. Even if it takes advantage for a short time, it will eventually end up alone. China has always paid attention to "feeling and meaning", which is the premise and foundation of all forms of communication. As long as he is a sentient person, it doesn't matter how clumsy he is. He will meet people for a long time. On the contrary, any skill is futile. How to maintain a normal relationship with the opposite sex 3. Don't be ambiguous: many fires between the opposite sex start with ambiguity, so keep a certain distance from the opposite sex other than your partner, behave politely, don't tease or seduce. If the other person is interested in you and you don't feel that way about the other person, you should explain it to the other person immediately. If you are ambiguous with the opposite sex, it is likely to cause some harm to yourself or the other party. Don't be too formal: some people will be shy and nervous in front of the opposite sex, and once they chat with the opposite sex, they will stutter or even sweat. This situation is mostly caused by being too stiff in front of the opposite sex. Actually, it's not necessary When interacting with the opposite sex, we just regard him or her as a friend, think about how to communicate with the same sex calmly, and then apply the mentality of communicating with the same sex to the opposite sex. Don't be too serious and cold: some people's personalities will be cold, which will give people a cold and unfriendly feeling. Whether communicating with the same sex or the opposite sex, communication always seems too serious, which easily leads to tension. Therefore, in order to dissolve the atmosphere, sometimes when communicating with the opposite sex, you can make a joke and enliven the atmosphere. Do what you like: Dealing with the opposite sex also requires some skills. Sometimes doing what you like can get twice the result with half the effort. Therefore, you can collect some information before interacting with the opposite sex to understand what the other person's preferences are and what are the taboos. Find more topics she likes when she is in contact, so that there will be no ice; Don't talk about her taboo topics, so as to avoid some embarrassment in communication. Don't show off too much: Some people like to seize every opportunity to show off their knowledge and knowledge, regardless of the occasion, especially in front of their favorite opposite sex, but they don't know that this behavior may make the other person feel disgusted. When interacting with the opposite sex, don't fiddle with yourself too much, and strive for everything according to reason; You can't keep your mouth shut, which makes people think that you are very shrewd. Give help when appropriate: When boys and girls work together, because most girls are physically exhausted, boys should take the initiative to undertake physical labor. When you see a girl carrying a heavy item, you should take the initiative to go up and give a hand, which will not only win the favor of the other party, but also be conducive to future exchanges. Communication between boyfriend and girlfriend: If the opposite sex is a boyfriend (female), the relationship between the two sides will take a step forward. In the process of communication, men and women should be honest with each other and support each other when there are difficulties. In the process of communication, we should be more considerate of each other, communicate more when one party is not doing well, and don't lose your temper as soon as you come up. Communication between husband and wife If the opposite sex is husband and wife at this time, then the other person has become the most important person in the other person's life and already knows the other person's personality and temper very well. However, Bian Xiao believes that the best way for couples to get along with each other is to respect each other and treat each other as guests, but some couples like to quarrel and think that quarreling can enhance their interest and increase the interest of life. Every couple's lifestyle will be different, and how to communicate needs to be constantly experienced and run-in according to their own situation.