In today's society, the education of the only child has become a concern. It is the common wish of our parents to have a successful child and a successful daughter. As parents, we should train our children to be independent people with enough potential and confidence to leave us and become independent individuals in family life and social life. But how to educate children, especially how to do a good job in early childhood education, has become a difficult problem for every parent. Family is the first living environment for children, and parents are the influence of children, so it is great and far-reaching. The following are some of my experiences in educating children.
First, respect children's questions and pay attention to the cultivation of intelligence. We never deliberately taught her what to learn, but only answered her questions seriously when the child asked questions; Teach her to recognize the words on some books she likes to read, give her some books and dishes she likes, let her learn how to play and tell stories by herself, tell me stories once at ordinary times, and then let her tell them to me, so that she has a strong interest in learning.
Second, respect and guide children's thoughts and cultivate children. Pay attention to children's moral cultivation, no matter what the occasion, it is required not to hit people, swear or swear. Our parents are the children's first teachers. At home, when we are with children, we shouldn't swear or do excessive behavior. When a child finds out that his parents have done something wrong, we parents should take the initiative to admit the mistake and guide her to admit it when she makes a mistake.
Third, pay attention to the cultivation of children's independence. In the process of children's growth, education is inseparable, and education is inseparable from respect. Respect does not mean connivance. In normal times, if you want to treat your child as an independent person, you must listen to your child's thoughts, discuss problems with your child, and learn to put yourself in the child's shoes. What should we do if our parents encounter the same problem? Will they do it like children? We can't use our own ideas, patterns and ways of thinking to decide what children should and shouldn't do, let alone use the authority of parents to suppress children's thoughts. Let children have their own ideas and independence, respect their independence, give them their own space, let them learn to brush their teeth, wash their faces and dress, let them learn to think independently, and let them have their own potential and knowledge.
These are just some of my experiences in educating children. At this moment, it is the era of only child. In early childhood education, we have also experienced a process from ignorance to gradual understanding. In terms of educating children, the differences in family environment have created different educational methods. Parents expect their children to grow up healthily, be outstanding and be proud, but I believe that as long as parents can pay attention to methods and teach students in accordance with their aptitude, their children will surely succeed and move towards glory.
Parents' parenting experience (2): First, squat down and talk to children.
We often see some parents yelling at their children: Why don't you even understand this? Come here, you hear me? ! This happens to me from time to time. As parents, we often think that this condescending and imperative tone can reflect our dignity and make our children more obedient. But have you tried another way: squat down and talk to the children.
When you want to say something to your child, whether in the home of yourself, relatives, friends or in public, please try to squat down, keep yourself at the same height as your child, hold your child's little hand with your hand, look at him kindly, and then tell your child your requirements with a happy face. Do you find that if you talk to your children like this, they will listen to you, be more willing to carry out your instructions and finish them faster and better? The same or even better results are obtained. The only difference is the way you speak, but the children are happier and the orders are carried out. This is because you squatted down and you spoke to him in a friendly tone.
Second, protect children's self-esteem.
Teaching children the most scientific parenting knowledge in front of strangers and outsiders is easy to hurt their self-esteem. In fact, a child's understanding potential is quite powerful. When you don't want him to do anything, just shake your head gently or stare at the child quietly, and his kindergarten parenting knowledge will be understood. There is no need to say it out loud. If you are still not at ease, you can reach a tacit understanding with your child before going out, just as a secret between you: if you see dad shaking his head, it means you can't do that; If dad nods, it means he agrees.
Third, respect children's sense of independence.
As the child grows up, his sense of autonomy will also grow. When you fed him, he said I would eat it myself. You helped him dress, and he said I would dress myself. Maybe he'll be full. Maybe he'll be dressed in a mess. But let's not discourage you. We should trust him, encourage him and give him a chance to learn, otherwise the child will never grow up.
Fourth, adjust the way of caring in time.
With the growth of children's age, it is necessary to properly adjust the way of self-care. Don't treat children as people who will never grow up, but do everything. We can take advantage of some good opportunities to put forward new requirements for children, help them grow up and not suppress their intelligence. For example, when the child is two years old, you can say to the child: The baby is one year old again, and start brushing your teeth and washing your face tomorrow; For another example, before you send your child to kindergarten, you can say to your child: The baby will go to kindergarten next month. From now on, you should sleep alone and learn to quilt.
Fifth, communicate more.
Parents' parenting experience (3): I have been making progress in the education of children, learning from the experience of my predecessors and combining the characteristics of children. After his son went to kindergarten, he thrived under the careful cultivation of teachers. Every progress he makes makes us parents feel proud and proud. I mainly have the following three experiences.
First, let the children finish slowly.
It was the first time to attend the parents' open day organized by the kindergarten. It's the first time to see so many small flowers shining in the sun. I was pleasantly surprised to find that Magnolia officinalis can not only sing and dance with the teacher, but also complete various life movements independently. She also learned to communicate with others and treat others with emotion. She deeply felt the baby's growth and was deeply moved. During the activity, the teacher asked parents and children to cooperate to make, paste and cut by hand. In a blink of an eye, most of the works have been displayed in the works column. My son, on the other hand, is in no hurry, and his hands-on potential is weak. At that time, I was excited and didn't think much, so I helped to finish it. After that, the baby went to an independent class in the early education center, which is also a hand-painted class. I watched outside, watching other children hand in their homework, and he was still playing with it slowly. I was anxious to rush in and help, but I held back.
After class, when I exchanged experiences with my teacher with a fairly satisfactory work completed by Magnolia officinalis, the teacher asked me to let him finish it slowly! Do you want to ruin his attention? I was suddenly speechless. After seeing the baby's homework in kindergarten, I was deeply ashamed. Unexpectedly, such a small detail reflects my big mistake. Although the baby's reaction is a little slow, his self has been improved and exercised. We can't rush to finish homework for our children, let them become the main body and let them improve through practice.
Second, let children learn to keep their promises.
What I explain to my children is that I will keep my word. Magnolia likes listening to bedtime stories, but never sleeps while listening. Instead, she excitedly asked to tell multiple stories. She didn't go to bed until 10. I think I'm going to kindergarten soon, so it won't work. There happened to be a story about "keeping promises" in Baby Pictorial. I deliberately let him listen to it again and again. After explaining it many times, I joined the exercise. This method began in this way, and soon received various effects, so that when the baby went to kindergarten, he didn't find any discomfort, and the teachers were surprised to say that Houpu was quite calm.
Of course, apart from Hopu's understanding of early education from six months, the influence of classroom learning atmosphere is inseparable from various exercises. We also have agreements, for example, we promised him to take his mother's car to kindergarten and to pick him up on time. I think that in order for children to keep their promises, parents should first keep their promises and complete their promises to their children in time. If parents don't keep their promises, children will follow suit and form a bad habit of not keeping their promises. In addition, communicate with your child in advance to make him realize that it is very beneficial to keep his promise. As long as children can make promises, their performance often exceeds the expectations of adults.
Third, look at children with appreciation and praise.
The education in our family is mainly based on encouragement and praise. My experience is that if you look at him with appreciation and praise, he will really become what you think. For example, Magnolia officinalis turned over for the first time, looked up for the first time, climbed forward for the first time, smiled at us for the first time, called mom and dad for the first time, took a step for the first time, and said to her mother for the first time: The baby loves her mother very much. Too many firsts, his every progress made the whole family ecstatic. Gradually found that he has many advantages. For example, he can skillfully recite three-character classics, ancient poems and children's songs, name dozens of fruits and clearly distinguish dozens of colors and shapes; Know numbers within 1000, plus or minus numbers within 1200, plus or minus numbers within 5, be familiar with and dial home phone numbers, and speak 1 100 digital English words, 10 fruit English words and simple and common English phrases.
I like music very much. I can sing songs such as planting the sun, catching loach, finding friends, penny, ABC, etc. And I am familiar with the name and source of the song (where I heard it). As for music, I like writing, directing and performing. Knowing the student number and name of each student in the class will clearly express what he saw and heard in the class, such as who didn't come to class that day, who became good friends with him, who robbed his toys, who cried to help comfort him, and also talked about which teacher cared more about him and which teacher he liked better. Once, we were surprised to find that he could actually type the first sentence of two tigers. We applauded and he was very happy.
As long as he makes progress, we will praise him generously. If you can play the piano, that's great The baby likes going to kindergarten. When the baby grows up, the mother is proud of you. If he fails, we are also to blame, such as the baby, the building block is dropped, it doesn't matter, you will build it higher and better next time, and so on. Let him not lose his way in praise and lack confidence in criticism.
Teachers and parents are his navigators during the child's growth. When he was in a coma, we checked and urged him in strict accordance with the teacher's requirements; When he is in trouble, we give him timely guidance. At the same time, pay attention to his shortcomings, strengths and interests, such as introverted and timid, unable to express emotions and self-expression, and interested in numbers, music and English. We will give targeted guidance and greedily expect more attention and help from teachers. I hope he will be more confident and appreciate the fun of life in the future because of his potential!
These are my three superficial experiences in parenting. We know that every step of the son's growth is soaked with the teacher's hard work and sweat. Heartfelt thanks to the teachers who helped Magnolia acquire knowledge and grow up happily!