Sister Wang's children were once neglected. One old man is too old to take it away, and the other old man won't give it. This is really difficult for mothers who take care of their children while going to work.
Sister Wang's difficulties have not diminished since her daughter was born.
Because there is no help from the old man, Sister Wang brought a nanny who was confined to a confinement, and she was her husband's distant cousin.
The cousin was nearly 50 years old at that time and had been a nanny for many years, but she had never served the month.
In this way, Sister Wang stumbled for a whole month.
Other issues are secondary. The biggest headache for Sister Wang is that her cousin asks for leave too often, and she doesn't say hello in advance every time, which makes people unprepared every time.
Because we are relatives, it is not good not to take a vacation. During the days when relatives left, Sister Wang had to take time off to take care of the children at home.
Compared with previous years, children's time in kindergarten is much easier: children can talk, which is the most fun time; There is nothing to worry about in kindergarten, so the pressure on children is also small.
But the good times are always so short, and it's almost time to go to primary school. With the children's schoolwork getting heavier and heavier, it is more and more difficult for Sister Wang to take care of the children while going to work.
My daughter, who was originally very smart, gradually showed learning problems: procrastination and lack of autonomous learning ability.
On the one hand, I left all the homework corrections to my parents' teachers, on the other hand, I began to be busy with my work. Sister Wang feels more and more tired.
Sister Wang missed college because of family problems when she was a child, so she didn't want her daughter to repeat the same mistakes, so she always attached great importance to her daughter's study.
You can't have your cake and eat it. Work is also very important, and so is daughter's study. If you do both, you will have insufficient energy and may end up doing nothing well.
After careful consideration and discussion, Sister Wang and her husband finally made a decision: full-time.
Without working hard for work, Sister Wang has more time to take care of her daughter.
Every day, I cook nutritious meals for my daughter in various ways, and I have more time to stare at my daughter's homework, and my daughter's grades have gradually improved steadily. Although the process of junior high school and senior high school entrance examination was stumbling, the college entrance examination went very smoothly and was admitted to a 985 school in one fell swoop. Sister Wang and his wife are really happy.
Before going to college, Sister Wang's daughter said, "Mom! Thank you for your efforts for me over the years. You gave up your favorite job for me. I know you've always wanted to re-enter the workplace, so leave me alone now. If only you could keep working! But your age has already passed the golden age of your career! "
Sister Wang said, "Daughter, you really don't have to worry about me. I have not wasted these years. During this time, my mother took several certificates and took the undergraduate course. Although it must be difficult to find a job, it is no problem to do something by yourself. Over the years, I have met several stay-at-home mothers like me. We have no other experience in these years, but we are very rich in the process of cultivating children from primary school to university. Therefore, we decided to take advantage of this advantage and do something together. "
Hearing what Sister Wang said, her daughter was very happy and said, "Mom! You are really my pride! "
Since her daughter went to college, Sister Wang started her career with several good friends.
As the saying goes, everything is difficult at the beginning. Sister Wang and her friends didn't start well.
They chose the field of child care, and originally felt that their experience was already very rich. But when it really worked, I found myself far from the experts in the field of parenting!
The parenting knowledge they shared had two kinds of repercussions in the audience: older mothers believed it, while younger mothers didn't buy it at all. They all thought that Sister Wang's concept was too old. So Sister Wang realized: You must learn the most advanced knowledge! How to learn? Consult professional books, listen to expert lectures, and live a "primary school student" life.
But after all, the age is there, and the energy is definitely far less than when you were young. Gradually, several friends withdrew.
"I just want to play, I didn't expect to be so tired. I don't lack the money either. I might as well go to a square dance and take a trip! "
"yes! I am not a professional in this field either. Just have fun. Nobody listens to us, so let's not bother! "
In this way, more and more people gave up, leaving only Sister Wang and her other friend.
It's a lie to say that you are not discouraged, but Sister Wang and her friends are cheering up again: you can't give up your new career anyway, you must bite the bullet and stick to it.
In this way, with the full understanding and help of the children in the university, Sister Wang went from having no clue, to getting started gradually, and then to being comfortable.
Finally, in the year when her daughter graduated from college, Sister Wang and her friends were on the right track. Not only did they earn money, but they also lived a full life every day.
After graduating from college, my daughter was admitted to graduate school. Sister Wang is so happy to see her daughter so motivated.
Now, my daughter is at home in winter vacation. The bitch talked about her daughter getting married and having children in the future.
Sister Wang said, "Daughter, Mom, I will always be your backing. If you have children in the future, I will help you without hesitation! "
The daughter said, "Mom! You have done so much for me over the years, and I don't want you to suffer any more! Then I will take my own children, just like you! "
"Ah?" Sister Wang was shocked! When I try my best to train my daughter, do I want her to be a full-time mother in the future? She never thought this would happen.
Seeing her mother's reaction, Sister Wang's daughter giggled: "Mom! Listen, I scared you! I'm not a pure housewife like you! Times are different now. There are many freelance jobs. I can take care of my children while working. Never be out of touch with society! "
Sister Wang said solemnly, "It's easier said than done to take care of children while working!"
"mom! You have worked for me full-time for so many years, and now you have successfully restarted your career. I believe I can too! " Sister Wang's daughter said firmly.
For children's better growth and study, many mothers choose full-time, which is a helpless concession. But full-time doesn't mean you will lose everything. As long as you have the heart, you can still start the second spring of your career, although it is difficult.
For myself, after successfully completing my studies, I began to be tired of learning and once didn't like reading. I don't like my job. I've never been able to lift my spirits. But since having a child, the child's tender little face has completely aroused my desire for protection. My ambition has come up again, and I like reading again.
Mother's self-motivation is a positive encouragement for children.
Many mothers choose full-time jobs for their children's better growth, which is a forced behavior. You'd better learn to do something once you have the chance. Let the children see their mother's efforts and get positive energy from them.
Some people may say that such a mother is too tired.
Yes, choosing to have children is actually choosing a path involved!
In this life, you choose to be a full-time mother of your children. On this basis, you try to set a good example for her. In the future, how will your daughter choose for her children? That's her way. She should go by herself, shouldn't she?
Moreover, with the positive energy influence of her mother, her daughter is not much worse.