In life, many parents often complain that their children's psychology is too difficult to understand. This is mainly because children perceive the outside world, but due to age restrictions, it is difficult to express their inner thoughts, and parents have not done a good job of guiding their children to express themselves, which naturally leads to contradictions between the two sides. Some psychologists believe that children's paintings are a window for parents to enter their children's inner world. Children's inner thoughts can be perceived from children's paintings, which is more conducive to parents' understanding of their inner world. Today, let's learn the magical "painting psychology" and listen to the inner voice of children through painting.
If you don't understand children's psychology, you can't cultivate excellent children. For parents, the most difficult problem in educating their children is not knowing what their children want. There is a certain age gap between parents and children, so it is normal not to know the child's heart. However, some parents often think that they know their children very well and blindly satisfy their children with materials, but this practice often ignores their real needs.
Ji Bolun once wrote in a poem: "What you can give them is your love, not your thoughts, because they have their own thoughts. What you can shelter is their bodies, not their souls, because their souls belong to tomorrow, which you never dreamed of. " Everyone is an independent individual and has his own ideas. If parents lack spiritual communication with their children and ignore their inner world, conflicts will easily arise in parent-child communication, which will put both parents and children into heavy pressure.
Many parents in modern times always think that to give their children all material satisfaction is to understand their children's hearts, but in fact, for children, parents can really understand their children only by understanding their inner world. Only by having more spiritual communication with children and having a * * * voice with them can we truly respect children.
Luo Jun's assassination of a teacher, American student's suicide, Peking University student's mother-killing case and Ma Jiajue's murder case all warn us that it is very important to know the true inner world of children in order to give them a better life and cultivate excellent children. So, what should parents do to truly understand their children's inner world and listen to their inner voices? Today, Mother Nemo introduced a magical "painting psychology" method to really listen to children's voices.
"Painting Psychology" can easily interpret children's own psychology. What is "painting psychology"?
Painting psychology is a science that studies the internal relationship between painting and human psychology, and it is also a new branch of psychology.
Under the principle of painting psychology, we can see the painter's inner thoughts through the lines and pictures presented by the painter, or examine their psychological state and personality characteristics from the pictures. Children's painting also has its own logical thinking and expression. Parents can better walk into their children's inner world and listen to their inner voices by properly using painting psychology technology in the process of educating their children.
As early as 1948, Jones Baker invented an interesting experiment-"house-tree-person". In this experiment, the subjects were asked to draw people, trees and houses on three pieces of white paper. The purpose of this experiment is to dig out the original psychology of the subjects, and then project the true state of the subjects' hearts, thus helping people find their inner problems.
When personal development encounters problems and there are doubts and confusions in my heart, this "room tree experiment" can play a certain guiding and suggestive role for people. Prevention represents a person's growing environment and reflects people's feelings and attitudes towards family. Numbers represent an individual's unconscious posture and self-image, and can express his inner state of balance. People reflect their own realistic image, and their physical and psychological self can be reflected by drawing people.
Painting is an interesting activity in the daily life of most children. Many children like to pick up a pen and draw on paper. Parents may wish to learn some magical "painting psychology" and listen to their inner voices from their children's words.
Learn the magical "painting psychology" and listen to children's voices. Painting is a special language presented by children, with inherent logic and expression. Lines, colors, environment, graphics and so on all show the characteristics of children's personality, psychological changes, hobbies and so on.
1, line and psychology
You can perceive the child's heart through the line expressions in the child's picture. Children with blurred lines and fine paintings generally have no sense of security in their hearts. They will show timid behavior in the face of things and always suppress themselves when they encounter things. Children with rough and strong lines are generally aggressive and grumpy, and they participate in venting their anger when they encounter problems. The lines are intermittent, indicating that children are hesitant and often want to hide themselves. Those children with clear lines and moderate strength are relatively normal and stable.
2. Color and Psychology
Colors used in painting are an obvious way to see children's inner world. Colors can generally be divided into warm colors and cool colors. Children who prefer warm colors are generally lively and enthusiastic and often show vitality. Children who prefer cool colors are generally melancholy and rigorous and often show boredom.
It is normal to use red only before the age of six, but excessive use of red after the age of six may lead to violent tendencies and poor emotional self-control. I like to use blue before I was five years old, which means that there is proper limit. After the age of six, a large number of children use blue, which shows that their adaptability is good. As an overuse, it shows that the child is too self-disciplined.
The collocation of painting colors can also reflect a person's inner world. People who like a variety of colors are more cheerful and optimistic, and their interpersonal communication is more frequent. Children who only like one or two colors are relatively calm and humble in life, do not like to associate with others, and have relatively poor interpersonal relationships.
3. Environment and psychology
The description of the surrounding environment can also reflect a person's inner world. The environment gives us the same picture, but everyone describes it differently.
Take the sun as an example, the sun is a symbol of enthusiasm and clarity in children's hearts. The child said that the sun shines brightly, which shows that the child's heart is clear and he likes to personify the sun. Drawing his eyes, nose and mouth shows that the child has high intelligence and good imagination. A child who paints a black sun shows that the child is dissatisfied with his present life.
Take trees for example. The child painted the tree very high and large, indicating that the child is lively, cheerful and full of passion. If the child draws the tree very slender, it can only show that the child is quiet and lacks vitality. Generally speaking, only 26% children can draw leaves when drawing trees, which shows that most children who don't draw leaves are emotionally stable.