As an untrained and certified mother, as a girl with childlike innocence, raising a girl is like a blank sheet of paper, trial and error step by step, groping for progress. From the unknown to the distant, from the past to the present to the future, from small to large and then to old.
Originally, I thought that as a girl, I should know more about girls and get along well and grow up, but this is not the case. Children's world is simple and complicated, but it needs enough care, love, patience and perseverance. Besides, as a novice mother, there are too many things to learn and improve in the face of herself and her children. I have always believed, and always stressed, to be yourself, to raise children, to give each other a quality lover, and to accompany them to grow up together.
In recent years, many people have read many books about raising children, which are very rewarding, practical and insightful. I feel that I am ultimately on myself, self-management and control, self-learning and improvement, self-behavior and influence. The environment for children, the concept for children, the love and example for children.
Children come to this world, with a heart of gratitude and learning, and grow up under the influence and companionship of their parents. As the child's first teacher, parents should have enough patience, start from scratch, pay attention to all aspects of the child, and do their best to train the child meticulously, so that the child can thrive in this process.
(Mom says so, the girl will listen; I just finished reading this book and want to record something. I like learning and sharing good ideas. This book, called "Raising Girls" for short, is some suggestions and methods about raising girls.
First, read the girl's behavior and walk into the girl's heart.
Girls and boys are different, and their minds are more delicate and sensitive. All these need to be carefully discovered and guided by the mother who is also a woman, to trust and believe her, to accept and understand her, to bear and share. Create a healthy and happy family environment, give her more hugs, let her feel love and trust, treat her as a friend and face everything together.
Second, parents should be clear about their responsibilities in raising girls.
Especially as a mother, it has a great influence on girls and is a mirror in their lives. Be a good example, from behavior habits to life concepts and so on. What girls say and do is the object of study, so don't underestimate it. Being a father is also indispensable, just like the beacon of a girl's life. For girls' understanding and communication with the opposite sex, as well as the love and wider world that many mothers can't get. In addition, there is intergenerational education. Most of them are old people with children now. In this process, parents should be grateful, clarify their responsibilities, discuss with the elderly at home, and give their children a good atmosphere for life and growth.
Third, rich girls.
The real enrichment of girls is to let them have broad vision and ideas and independent personality. It is not equal to material enrichment, but more spiritual enrichment. It will make her stand up to setbacks, know how to pay, form the habit of reading, have the beauty of spiritual temperament, have enough self-confidence, practice both inside and outside, and be a truly meaningful girl.
Fourth, cultivate the emotional intelligence of girls.
Being brave, confident enough, having a good attitude, not giving up when something happens, being assertive, being proactive and so on can all be cultivated in daily life.
Fifth, cultivate girls' temperament.
Beautiful temperament-beautiful appearance, pay attention to your appearance and image, pursue external beauty and internal wisdom, and achieve the beauty of internal and external harmony.
Exquisite temperament-dare to be unconventional, have your own personality, have your own ideals, and live according to your own ideas.
Knowledge temperament-charming scholar temperament. There are books in my belly, and there are Yan Ruyu in the book, so I have developed a good habit of reading.
Generous temperament-not shy, not wriggling, going out to see the bigger world, knowing more people and things, building and enhancing self-confidence.
Noble temperament-gentle and elegant speech, cultivated from behavior, expression and speech.
Kind temperament-dressed appropriately, approachable, dignified and decent.
Lady temperament-civilized and polite, know basic etiquette, and learn to respect others.
Artistic temperament-let music and painting enter girls' lives, read famous works, get in touch with nature and discover the beauty in life.
Six or ten abilities
Innovative ability-protect children's curiosity. Decision-making ability-give children the right to choose freely.
Hands-on ability-do your own thing. Time management ability-the preciousness of time, the concept of time.
Self-discipline-self-management. ? Expression ability-eloquence and communication practice.
Social skills-be kind to others. Ability to cooperate-participate in group activities and share with others.
Financial management ability-correct the concept of money and cultivate financial quotient. Ability to think rationally-encourage questions, participate in discussions and think more.
Seven. Meide education
Consciousness of public morality-obey order and care for the environment. ? Tolerance and forgiveness-empathy, regardless.
Share credits-cherish yourself and share credits, care for and help others.
Sadness education-learn to love and learn to be grateful? A kind heart-full of love and sympathy.
Modesty-be open-minded, guard against arrogance and dryness, honor the elders-set an example, start from small things and care for the elderly.
Honesty-don't lie, keep your word? Responsibility-the importance of responsibility, making your own decisions and taking responsibility for your own affairs.
Eight, the formation of good habits
Ask if you don't understand-look at the world with a question mark, and constantly strive not to dawdle or delay-make a timetable and arrange time.
Say goodbye to laziness-love labor, do things from beginning to end, not be anorexic or picky eaters-have a balanced nutrition and eat by yourself.
Nine, improve learning ability
Stimulate learning interest-let it feel the fun of learning? Learn to preview-cultivate self-study ability?
? Pay attention to review-consolidate the foundation and maintain the integrity of knowledge? Strengthen training-improve memory, the more you remember, the better, the finer the better.
Mathematics-Appreciating the beauty of mathematics and enhancing aesthetic ability can cultivate girls' logical reasoning ability.
Foreign language-language environment and interest, constantly grinding your ears? Part of the theme-the right medicine
Make a scientific study plan-make, practice, supervise and summarize? Develop good habits-be careful, be good at finding problems, and correct mistakes when you know them.
X. parent-child communication
Pay attention to communication methods and skills, and learn to respect, understand and tolerate empathy.
Criticize children for being particular. Never use scolding and beating to deny children knowledge and let them know what they know. Why not?
Parents should be more motivated, learn to appreciate and give encouragement. Punishment is not the key, change is the purpose.
Praise is better than blame. See the child's bright spot and give appreciation and praise.
Listen to children's voices, talk to them more, and encourage them to express their thoughts.
Communication sometimes depends not only on mouth, but also on nonverbal communication, such as writing notes and letters.
Eleven, spend adolescence with children
There's nothing wrong with treason. The key is understanding?
Expel the bad emotions in adolescence and let children learn to manage emotions, such as breathing regulation, language suggestion, goal transfer and so on.
Go into the child's heart: don't pry into the child's privacy, trust the child and respect the child.
Puppy love: openly talking about love, sex and even marriage with children.
Children's idolization: rational and multifaceted learning.
Network: Guide the correct Internet access, let the network serve itself, and pay attention to network security.
Self-protection consciousness: stay away from bad temptations and strengthen the cultivation of psychological quality
Encourage children to make more friends and make friends carefully.
Life is precious: treat life and death correctly, cherish life and know the value of your own life.
This book is a direction in the process of girls' growth. It can be used for reference from the aspects of girls, and there are many viewpoints worth learning.
The real rich girl is not to spoil the girl, but to broaden her horizons materially, enrich her thoughts spiritually, and exercise, learn and cultivate from all aspects. In fact, this is not a simple thing, but I am happy to do it.
I really don't know what a girl wants to express without studying and delving into the ideas behind her psychology and behavior. Of course, this is not exactly the same in the book. Every child's personality is different, and the conclusions are different. You can learn from it, not imitate it. It should be suitable for children's own personality and hobbies.
In the girl's inner world, it's really interesting. You can put yourself in the other's shoes, review your thoughts when you were young, and then infer her psychology and thoughts, so that you can understand and tolerate her behavior more easily.
Communicating with children is also a great study and project. It's not easy to say it, and it's not difficult to say it. It all depends on their wisdom and knowledge as well as their self-management and control. Being serious or not is really a challenging thing. Anyway, if you can handle the relationship with your children, I believe you are halfway there.
Children's education is a course that needs permanent study. From the moment she was born, even to the day when she was old, she studied endlessly, paid, paid and asked for nothing in return. This is exactly how parents feel in the world.
I hope my girl can protect herself from the outside world; Can learn to manage themselves, handle their own affairs well, be responsible for themselves, and have independent thoughts and behaviors; As a mother, I try my best to provide an environment full of love and freedom, so that she can grow up healthily and happily, be the best herself and set a good example for her children.
Slowly, in life and study, develop good habits and cultivate your own self-management ability. While doing a good job of yourself, create a good living atmosphere and growth environment for children, give love and freedom, give guidance and companionship, study together, advance together and grow together.