Lesson one
Cherishing priceless self-esteem is what everyone needs.
1, self-esteem: self-respect, that is, neither bowing to others nor allowing others to discriminate or insult. It is a healthy and good mental state.
2. Performance of self-esteem: paying attention to the modification of appearance, elegance of behavior, consequences of behavior, and knowing shame are important manifestations of self-esteem.
3. The relationship between shame and self-esteem: people who know shame will first treat themselves correctly and comprehensively, face up to their shortcomings and try to correct them. This is the maintenance of their good image and the expression of self-esteem. If a person is not ashamed of his inappropriate and inappropriate behavior, then he is shameless. Such people will never have self-esteem.
7. Vanity: It is a psychology of pursuing superficial glory and brilliance.
8. The difference between vanity and self-esteem: vanity is a misunderstanding of self-esteem because one's wishes cannot be realized. Vanity refers to a psychology of pursuing superficial glory and brilliance, and it is a distorted "self-esteem". People with heavy vanity often regard fame and fortune as the internal driving force to dominate their behavior and always care about others' evaluation of themselves. Once others deny their meaning a little, they think they can't stand losing their so-called self-esteem. This kind of psychology is unhealthy.
The way to correct vanity is to make clear what you really need according to the correct way of thinking, instead of blindly pursuing superficial glory and brilliance.
9. How to feel the happiness brought by self-esteem: 1) When we are affirmed by others and finally praised by the collective and society, we will feel particularly happy because our self-esteem is satisfied. 2) To realize the meaning of life, we must first experience that we are valuable and needed, and this value is often recognized and appreciated by others, so that we can experience the happiness of self-esteem brought by the value of life. 3) If others can appreciate our strengths without laughing at our weaknesses and defects, this respect can make us feel happy and moved. Whether you affirm your own value or others affirm your own value, that is, self-esteem and respect, you are happy. 4) In life, when we encounter unsatisfactory things, as long as we don't lose heart, don't give up, believe in ourselves, respect ourselves, and make further efforts to find and realize our own life value, we will win the respect of others and feel the happiness of self-esteem.
10 Generally speaking, a person who has no self-esteem can hardly be respected by others. A truly self-respecting person must be a person who knows shame. Respect for others is the bottom line and highlight of life, and self-esteem is priceless.
Respect for others is my need.
1. Pay attention to others' self-esteem: Since our self-esteem is often cared for and cared for by others, we certainly have the responsibility to pay attention to others' self-esteem and safeguard others' dignity. No matter who you are, respecting others is the need of self-esteem and self-improvement. Respect for others is an important factor affecting the level of self-esteem and an important foundation to help us establish correct self-esteem.
2. The relationship between self-esteem and respect for others (the importance of respecting others): We should respect others, because people who don't respect others can't be respected by others, and respect for others is the premise of self-esteem.
3. How to respect others: 1) To respect others, we should regard others as needing self-esteem as much as ourselves. Everyone should feel self-esteem through the respect, appreciation, encouragement and expectation of others. Respecting others means paying attention to their dignity. Be kind to each other from the perspective of appreciation, encouragement and expectation, and be more careful not to do things that hurt others. Only in this way can we gain the respect of others and share the happiness of self-esteem with others. Just like being respected, respecting others is our need and our happiness. 2) Communicate the beauty you feel from others to others. In this way, everyone respects each other, accepts each other, and grows up with self-esteem.
Respect each other to win respect.
1. Self-respecting people value their own personality most: Self-respecting people value their own personality most. The so-called "wealth can't be lewd, poverty can't be moved, and power can't be bent" is the truth. Self-respecting people do not seek vanity and refuse to get involved in bad habits, such as lying, evading responsibility, seeking personal gain for the public interest, serving the public and disobeying the public. The important reason is that these bad habits are detrimental to personality. Sometimes, in order to maintain self-esteem, you can give up a lot of things, but you must never lose your personality and do things that are detrimental to your personality.
In a sense, personal dignity is the second life of human beings. Personality is the sum of human dignity, value and character. Personal dignity includes three aspects: first, it is required to treat people as real people and recognize the minimum social status that a person should have; Secondly, the unity of self-esteem and respect for others; Third, personal dignity is a combination of subjective and objective evaluation of personal value.
2. Self-respecting people are broad-minded: in life, interpersonal communication is inevitable. Because of different personalities, different living environments and experiences, different styles of dealing with people have been formed. Some people are kind, others are sharp; Some people are impatient, others procrastinate; Some people are calm and easy, others are irritable and reckless ... People with different personalities live together, forming a colorful world. Admit that the world is wonderful because of differences, and you won't care too much about other people's comments and attitudes. Of course, if we develop an open-minded and cheerful personality, we can appreciate wisdom from others and feel the happiness of self-esteem. Being philosophical is a gesture when facing different individuals and different viewpoints. The essence of this gesture is tolerance.
Self-esteem should be moderate. Moderate self-esteem helps us to face criticism and correct mistakes; Excessive self-esteem makes us too sensitive, self-restrained and unable to appreciate the joy of life. Of course, malicious insults and slanders should be countered in time, and legal weapons should be used to defend self-esteem when necessary.
3. Respect for others' performance: The main manifestations of respect for others are: being polite to others, respecting their labor and respecting their personality. To truly respect others, we should be good at standing in the other person's perspective, empathizing with others, pushing ourselves and others, specifically: 1) We should be good at appreciating and accepting others, that is, when we get along with others, we can sincerely appreciate and praise their advantages and strengths, so that others can surpass themselves. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and it is impossible to surpass others in everything; We should be able to accept, not reject or despise others' differences. 2) Learn to respect and don't do things that hurt others' personality. We can't make fun of and discriminate against other people's shortcomings. Making fun of, discriminating against and insulting others is an insult to others' dignity, which easily leads to contradictions, conflicts, hatred and revenge, and ultimately brings shame to the offender. Everyone has shortcomings. We need others' approval, and we also need others' approval.
4, respect can make people rational, respect can make people repent, respect can awaken people's conscience, and have an immeasurable positive effect.
Lesson 2 Raise the sail of confidence "I can do it!"
1, self-confidence: confidence in one's own strength, and confidence that one can achieve something and achieve the goal one pursues.
2. Self-confidence: Self-confident people believe in what they can do. Some characteristics of their words, manners and behaviors are lively, frank, modest, generous, relaxed, consistent with words and deeds, open, humorous, brave and decisive.
3. The difference between conceit, inferiority and self-confidence: conceited people tend to overestimate themselves. Anyone who looks down on them thinks they are the best, and others are not as good as him. See only your own advantages, but not your own shortcomings. The facts they are based on are false, and the goals they pursue are impossible to achieve. Arrogant people behave as "I can do anything".
People with low self-esteem tend to underestimate themselves and think that they are completely different from others, and they will never succeed in doing anything, even if they can do it well, they dare not try. I only see my own shortcomings, but I can't see my own advantages. As a result, I lost my chance of success. People with low self-esteem behave as "I know nothing".
Confident people can look at themselves realistically, see their strengths and weaknesses, evaluate themselves fairly and objectively, and try hard and boldly based on facts. Confident people behave as "I can do it".
4. Get out of the misunderstanding of self-confidence: No matter people who are conceited or inferior, their understanding of themselves is unrealistic and incorrect. Conceit and inferiority are misunderstandings about self-confidence. A conceited person thinks himself great, overestimates himself, looks down on others and is self-righteous; People who feel inferior look down on themselves, can't see their abilities clearly, can do well, and dare not try; Conceit and inferiority will have a negative impact on our life and study, keeping us away from success.
Self-confidence is the cornerstone of success.
1, conceit and inferiority are both self-centered: many failures are related to inferiority and conceit, both are twins, both are self-centered, and both are blind self-confidence or blind self-distrust. Conceit is subjective, inferiority is timid, and both of them lack the attitude of concrete analysis. Just like wet matches, people who are conceited and inferior can never light the flame of success. Self-confidence is the foundation of success. This is because confident people have the psychological quality of pursuing success, and good psychological quality is very important for a person's success.
2. Conceit and inferiority are far from success: the pursuit of conceit is doomed to failure, because the goal it pursues is false from the beginning. Conceit can bring a temporary high mood, but the frustration brought by impulse will immediately make him feel overwhelmed, depressed and decadent, thus moving towards inferiority. People who feel inferior will hate themselves, their imperfections and their powerlessness, which will further strengthen their sense of inferiority. Therefore, no matter who is conceited or inferior, the self-centered mentality will keep him away from success.
3. Self-confidence contributes to success: What psychological qualities do confident people have that contribute to success? 1) optimistic. Generally speaking, for things with uncertain results, confident people can hold their horses, trust their own people, try their best to create conditions, make their goals gradually clear, and be full of hope for completing the task. In the face of problems and failures, I don't give up easily, but tell myself easily that I have found a way far from failure and close to success. Without such optimism and hope, many things will give up halfway. 2) curiosity. Confident people value their ability to solve problems more than credit. Their happiness doesn't come from praise and approval, but from being suddenly enlightened after racking their brains to overcome difficulties. This is a kind of spiritual excitement and joy, and it is the driving force to inspire confident people to keep thinking and struggling. As for other things, they don't value them. 3) focus. Confident people can be objective, have clear goals and prioritize things. They will not be emotional and will not be disturbed by things unrelated to the task. So when you finish a task, you have no distractions, no distractions, high concentration and go all out. They do things with the coolest minds and sincere cooperation. Therefore, they minimize internal energy consumption and maximize the effective use of time. They are the most confident and hopeful of success.
In short, it is precisely because confident people are optimistic, curious, focused, purposeful, action-oriented and go through the process that they can reduce external interference, devote themselves to their work and reach the end of victory with the fastest and best speed.
Sing a song of confidence
1, see the progress and advantages: only when you have confidence can you achieve, and only when you have achievements can you be more confident. Achievements not only refer to trophies and flowers, but also include our daily progress. Although things are small, as long as we make progress, they are all footprints of our growth. Often experience a little progress and achievements, that is, constantly cheer for yourself and encourage yourself. In this way, we will have a feeling of affirming ourselves and appreciating ourselves. Finding your own strengths is the foundation of self-confidence.
2. How to find our own strengths and advantages: Finding our own strengths and advantages is the basis for us to build our confidence. The ancient poem says, "I don't know the true face of Lushan Mountain, but toward which corner of the mountain." However, in different environments, our strengths and the opportunities presented by our strengths are not equal, and may even not be displayed at all. For example, the best in learning is not necessarily the best on the court; The best in cultural and sports activities may not all have good cultural achievements. This requires us to find a "three-dimensional me" by changing scenes when evaluating ourselves, so that we can know ourselves more objectively and comprehensively, so that we may unexpectedly find that we have many advantages and strengths and enhance our self-confidence through continuous discovery.
3, enhance confidence and strength: believe in yourself, you can boldly try and accept challenges. To this end, we should be full of confidence when recalling past successful experiences. At the same time, we should do more, try to do things well and get more encouragement from them. There will be some failures and mistakes in the attempt. But the important thing is: if we believe what Edison said, "There is no failure, only a little closer to success", then we can look down on the problems, difficulties and even failures in the process of progress, calmly deal with them, concentrate on completing the task and accelerate our strength. The enhancement of strength helps us to improve our self-confidence. Only when one's own strength is improved can one be more confident to overcome all kinds of difficulties.
4. Be a confident China person: The song of self-confidence reverberates in the struggle for personal growth and national rejuvenation. Only by combining personal destiny with the development of the motherland can our self-confidence have a rock-solid foundation. If a person has no national self-confidence, his self-confidence is meaningless and valuable.
After the founding of New China, our country has become increasingly prosperous. This has made each of us in China feel unprecedented self-esteem and self-confidence on the international stage. Of course, with the increasing exchanges between China and other countries in the world, we need to treat people of all countries equally. A person with strong national self-confidence will consciously show the tolerance and grace of China people in international exchanges, be modest and generous, and will never do anything detrimental to national dignity.
5. Strength is the most important lever to support confidence.
Unit 2 Be a self-reliant person
Lesson 3
Go to self-reliance and do a good job in your life.
1, self-reliance: do your own thing.
Self-reliance means arranging your own life independently, leaving the shelter of your parents and teachers, and dealing with the problems encountered in your study and life independently, that is, starting your own business and creating your own life by yourself. Therefore, self-reliance is a kind of outlook on life, a good habit of studying and living, and a positive attitude towards life.
2. Self-reliance: Self-reliance is a kind of outlook on life, a good habit of studying and living, and a positive attitude towards life. Self-reliance is reflected in all aspects of life. 1) Arrange your life independently and scientifically and solve problems in life. 2) Arrange the study independently and scientifically, and handle the problems in the study. 3) Deal with social problems independently and start your own business.
3. Life needs self-reliance: as a process of growth, self-reliance is a process of exercising our living ability and also a process of exercising our psychology, morality and quality. In this process, we constantly improve ourselves, learn self-esteem, enhance self-confidence and improve legal awareness; Gradually learn to understand and respect others, be good at communicating and interacting with others, and live in harmony; Actively integrate into society, care about society, contribute to society, and become a self-reliant person who is responsible for himself, others and society.
4. The necessity of self-reliance: 1) We can't live in cradles and greenhouses forever. After all, we should leave the care of family and school, enter the society, and see the world through the storm. 2) If we don't reserve the knowledge, exercise the ability and cultivate the spirit of self-improvement now, it will be difficult for us to stand on our own feet in the future society. 3) Article 21 of China's Marriage Law clearly stipulates: "Parents have the obligation to raise and educate their minor children, and adult children have the obligation to support and assist their parents. When parents fail to perform their maintenance obligations, minors or children who cannot live independently have the right to ask their parents to pay maintenance. " In other words, if there are no special circumstances for adult children, parents will no longer bear the obligation of support.
5. Ability required for self-reliance: 1) Demonstrate and promote your ability. 2) The ability to communicate, be considerate and persuade others. 3) Ability to use various technologies, especially modern information technology. 4) the ability to use the law to safeguard rights and interests. 5) Organization and decision-making ability. 6) Keep learning and constantly enrich your abilities.
Say goodbye to dependence and move towards self-reliance
1. the relationship between self-reliance and help and dependence: self-reliance is not refusing help, and dependence is not dependence. Self-reliance is not independence, nor does it exist independently from society. In social life, people need to help each other and depend on each other. Self-reliance does not mean that we must solve all the problems in life independently. When we encounter problems that we can't solve independently, we can seek help from others, which is conducive to solving the problems faster and better. When encountering major issues such as further education and employment, we should solicit and listen to the opinions of experienced elders to help us make the right choice. Therefore, self-reliance should not only have one's own opinions, but also be good at listening to others' opinions and accepting others' help, rather than rejecting others' help. Be good at listening to others' opinions and accepting others' help, not just relying on them.
2. The harm of dependence psychology: 1) Dependence makes people lose their ability and spirit to live independently. 2) Dependence makes people lack the sense of life responsibility, resulting in personality defects. 3) Dependence makes people want to live in vain, covet enjoyment, can not adapt to social life, and even endanger society and others, and embark on the road of illegal crimes.
3. To stand on your own feet, you must be clear about your responsibilities and be brave enough to take on your own responsibilities: an important manifestation of self-reliance is to live independently. If you want to live independently, you must be responsible for your own affairs. Therefore, for all kinds of things in life, we must first distinguish what is our own business and what is the responsibility we should bear. Once the responsibility is clear, we must bravely bear it instead of relying on others. This is true self-reliance.
4. The relationship between self-reliance and autonomy: autonomy is the premise of self-reliance. An important performance of bidding farewell to dependence and moving towards self-reliance is to live independently.
If you want to live independently, you must be responsible for your own affairs. And the premise of being responsible for your own affairs is independence. Autonomy is not only a right, but also an ability. The so-called autonomy means having your own opinions and being responsible for your actions. If something goes wrong, independence is just a name. It is hard to imagine that a person who has no opinion and listens to other people's suggestions can take on his own responsibilities and stand on his own feet in life. Therefore, the premise of self-reliance is autonomy.