Because there is always an idea in our minds that there can only be one key point in a stage, that is, psychologically acquiesce that we can't make everything develop in a balanced way.
If you concentrate on your work, you will neglect your family and friends and even deprive yourself of your personal life space. Yes, you may finally get a raise, a promotion and a sense of accomplishment through hard work, but do you feel something is missing?
I am a girl who loves to play. I am a variety of girls. Many friends around me may think that I will be well balanced, and there is no such problem, but in fact, I am not doing well, and sometimes it is really easy to ignore my family or friends, so I have been looking for a way to make us develop in a balanced way. No, I found one.
Just two days ago, I listened to teacher Fan Deng's lecture and mentioned that life can develop in a balanced way in eight directions, that is, filling in the grid every day. I tried it these two days, and it feels quite useful. I made a nine-square grid with PPT, as shown below:
I am in the middle, which is the core of balanced development. The others are career, contacts, study, health, leisure, family, financial management and mind, just eight. How to do it specifically? Listen to me carefully.
We have a lot of things to do every day, but we always prefer one of them and don't know how to balance them. This nine-square grid can achieve a good balance in all aspects. As long as we do one small thing in each grid every day, life will develop in a balanced way over time.
According to my practice these two days, just fill in the form first, which is not only simple, but also convenient to operate.
We don't have to list this. There are still many things waiting for us. After all, work gives us the capital to stand on the society.
When you get older, you accumulate character for yourself. When I was young, I contacted our friends, even if it was just a few words. Of course, simply brushing your circle of friends to praise, comment and discuss your customers, colleagues and friends is a way to accumulate contacts.
Specifically, it can be: chatting with friends, preparing gifts, interacting with friends, praising comments, occasionally sending blessings during Chinese New Year holidays, making an appointment for dinner, making phone calls ... These are all in this category, not greedy, just do a little every day.
It is divided into active learning and passive learning. No matter what kind of study can make you gain something and improve yourself, it belongs to this category. As long as you want to learn, we think too much, so this column should be easy to fill in.
Most of us are now in sub-health state, irregular diet, sedentary and bad living habits, which threaten our health, so we should do something for our health every day.
Even if it's just going out for a walk, stretching and walking the dog, it's all for health. For such a long time, we should always take care of all parts of the body, so as to spend this life painlessly and disaster-free.
This grid is simpler. What we do every day now should be the most besides work and leisure, that is, the way to make ourselves comfortable belongs to leisure.
Traveling, shopping, playing games, chatting and being in a daze can all be counted, but not too much. There is so much time every day. If you spend it on leisure after work, it will not only damage your health but also affect your work the next day, so you'd better do everything in moderation.
We all know that family is our biggest emotional support system, but sometimes we are too busy and neglect our family, so we do a little thing every day.
It's just that WeChat is safe sooner or later. Call once in a while to watch the frequency, listen to my mother's parents' stories and talk about my recent situation. Some love needs to be expressed. If you don't leave regrets for yourself, start from now on and start every day with a beautiful morning.
Financial management sounds very tall, many people will feel that they have spare money to do financial planning, but there is a saying: if you don't manage money, money will ignore you. Don't underestimate those who can manage money.
There is a real data: in the United States, 90% of people who won the lottery have returned to the general asset level or even poorer within three to five years. What do you think is the reason?
Yes, they can't manage money. Even if they are given a large amount of property, they don't know how to manage it. I agree that our attitude towards money also represents our control over life.
Moreover, financial management is to manage life, but it is not difficult to keep accounts and record the details of daily income and expenditure. This is also a preparation for better management of money in the future, and it is also a great progress from managing small money first to forming habits.
We all know that today's society is impetuous. Sometimes I send my own flowers in my circle of friends, draw my own crows casually, and some people comment on how I can calm down and do these things. In fact, in the final analysis, many people have not learned to calm their hearts and can't let themselves listen to their true inner voice quietly. After a long time, it will break away from the relationship with the body.
Therefore, in my mind, my practice is meditation. At that moment, I only focused on breathing, let my brain calm down and not be disturbed by the outside world. Even for ten minutes every day, I will find that I am not so impatient.
Another way is to read before going to bed. I bought a book called "The more I write, the more I understand" when I attended the sugar cube reading club. It's a book about story healing, and I like it very much.
It is very important for us to care about our hearts, because our survival in the world is nothing more than learning to live in harmony with three kinds of relationships.
The first is to get along with yourself, the second is to get along with others, and the third is to get along with everything in the world. Why do you get along with yourself first? Because only by getting along with yourself first will there be more energy to link people and everything in the world.
Therefore, in your mind, what you can do every day, such as keeping a diary and talking to yourself, meditating and paying attention to your heart, talking to others to heal your inner child, or telling your inner story to close people, are all ways to care for your heart.
I think these eight directions contain all our needs:
Career makes us feel a sense of accomplishment, personal connections make us know the importance of daily contact, while study makes us more energetic, leisure makes us know how to combine work and rest, family gives us emotional support, financial management makes us more confident to control our lives, and spiritual care makes us live consistently.
Do at least one thing in each grid every day and stick to it. I believe you will not only live more calmly, but also gain a lot of luck ~