Methods 1: Improve self-confidence.
1, find the reason for not being confident first. Ask yourself why you are not confident about your appearance. Sometimes, the reason is obvious and simple, that is, you are dissatisfied with a certain point of your appearance. Someone may have pointed the finger at this. But sometimes, the reason for this lack of confidence is difficult to explain clearly in a few words. Various media images inadvertently limit our definition of beauty and make ordinary people feel inferior. Maybe your lack of confidence is not directly due to one of your shortcomings, but to other indirect reasons. Such as anxiety caused by uncertainty about the future. This kind of worry is not easy to control and eliminate, so you can only focus on some more specific and subtle points that you can control, such as your appearance.
2. Look at you in the mirror. Some cognitive behavior tips can improve your confidence in beauty. These skills can make you notice those aspects that can increase your self-confidence, dispel your insecure thoughts and make you more positive about your appearance. So look in the mirror. When doing this exercise, please sit up straight or stand up straight in front of the mirror, concentrate and look at yourself in the mirror with the most confidence.
Think about what you are most satisfied with your appearance, and list at least three points on the paper. After finding the qualities you are satisfied with, write a sentence according to each characteristic, such as: "I have long curly hair, shiny and elastic, especially after I have been to the barber shop."
4. Write down three advantages of your personality. This is to let you appreciate your inner qualities. Write a sentence according to each advantage. For example, you can write: "I am helpful and often volunteer. When my friends need me, I will listen carefully."
5. Mix your external advantages with your internal advantages and rank them according to their importance to you. Think about which of these advantages is the best or the most important. Doing so can help you find your most important quality. Most people will put their innate advantages first. This just proves that our hearts are more easily influenced by our self-confessed personality. Similarly, others are more likely to be infected by your inner self.
6. Look at yourself and think about what words will pop up in your head. When you look at yourself in the mirror, you may have some specific feelings. Think carefully about how these feelings come from. Who said that? Are you thinking about yourself? Or from other people's words Do these feelings remind you of someone? Teddy boy? Parents? Still friends?
7. Think about whether these feelings are right or not. Think over your ideas and see if they are true. Is your hip really too big? Or are you really too tall? Is this not good?
8. Quiet those bad thoughts. If your friend asks you what you think of her appearance, think about how you would evaluate her with appreciation, tolerance and friendliness. When you think about your feelings, think about whether this is a kind evaluation and whether you will say the same thing to others. Think about what you would say about your friends, and then say that about yourself.
9. Be positive about yourself. Look in the mirror and see what you like. In the future, when you look in the mirror, first focus on these points that you like. Tell yourself what you love about yourself. This will help you focus on your own strengths, not your perceived weaknesses. Gradually, you will see more and better side of yourself.
Method 2: Build self-confidence from others.
1, make friends wisely. Pay more attention to your friends and feel how they make you feel. Don't be with friends who point at you. They may undermine your confidence in your appearance.
2. Smile more. Smiling is simple, but it can relieve stress, even if it is forced to smile. All smiles can make you feel better about yourself. And smiling can make others think that you are approachable and reliable.
3. Accept compliments from others. Praise is rare, don't refuse, accept it calmly. If you are not confident about your appearance, when you receive compliments from others, you may feel strange and just laugh it off. But you should accept their praise. After doing this a few times, when you receive compliments in the future, you will be able to accept them more naturally and easily. For example, if someone praises your shirt, you may tell them that this dress is very cheap. I wear it today because I don't have clean clothes. This is a sign of your anxiety about your appearance, which may make you and those who praise you feel uncomfortable. Instead, you should just say thank you and accept compliments from others.
4. Be kind to others. People who like to tell others what to do, pick and choose, and praise others stingy are not beautiful in the eyes of others. Such people are not good friends, nor are they positive energy choices. Of course, they are not happy around them. Let go of your negative opinions about others and judge them on the positive side. You will find that others will respond to you as positively as you do.
5. Treat the media dialectically. You know, the beauty of all kinds of images is to make you feel unqualified, which forces you to buy all kinds of beauty products and new clothes. Understand that all kinds of posters and other people you see are decorated with all kinds of P-picture tools, which look better than ordinary people. People who can look at this problem rationally can usually look at themselves more dialectically. If you know more about this knowledge, you can understand that it is the media that restricts our thinking and pursues more physical characteristics.
Method 3: Care about your appearance.
Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable. Research shows that the clothes we wear have a certain influence on our psychology. For example, wearing superman's clothes can enhance people's self-confidence and make them feel stronger. For example, girls do better in math tests in sweaters than in swimsuits. A white coat will make people think more quickly. Focus on wearing clothes you like, such as a beautiful and comfortable sweater, your favorite jeans, or wearing a suit and tie.
Check your wardrobe to make sure your clothes are in line with your style.
Wearing clothes of your favorite color can make you feel better. If you don't know what color you like, blue is a good choice, because most people respond well to this color.
2. Choose clothes that suit your figure. Look in the mirror and put on beautiful clothes. These clothes are more suitable for your figure, or at least can highlight your physical beauty. No one is perfect, and different bodies always have suitable and unsuitable clothes. Clothes that fit your figure look particularly good on you. For example, if your shoulders are wide and your ass is small, avoid patterned scarves (which will highlight your shoulders), shirts that set off your shoulders or extra small shoes. Wearing some pants with plump hips, or shoes with thick heels, or boots with buttons will attract your attention to your feet. If your body is round, avoid spinning clothes, belts or skirts above the knee in the middle of your body, and add a little embellishment above your chest and below your hips.
Step 3 dress yourself up. If you seem to be good at cleaning yourself up, you will feel much better about yourself. Doing so can also make others care more about who you are than just some flaws in your appearance. Take care of your skin. Apply sunscreen every day and take good care of it.
Trim your nails clean.
Choose a hairstyle that suits your face.
Iron clothes to avoid wrinkling.
Keep a good posture, stand up straight and sit still.
4. Exercise more. Whether exercise can change your appearance or not, it can change your view of yourself and increase your self-confidence. A national survey shows that people who are not satisfied with their figure usually exercise less, regardless of their actual weight. The results show that more exercise can improve self-confidence. The purpose of exercise is at least to make you feel a sense of accomplishment. Exercise more, but it doesn't mean you must exercise for a long time, or you must do some kind of exercise.
5. Keep a healthy diet. A high-calorie and high-fat diet will make you dull and affect your mood. Foods that can improve mood are those with low calories and slow energy release. These foods can provide you with energy for a long time without the risk of getting fat, bloating or allergies. Some foods can also make nails and hair grow better, thus improving your overall image.
Method 4: Know your inner beauty.
1, write a gratitude diary. Gratitude can make you realize the beauty in life. If you can appreciate the things that make you happy, you will get double happiness. Take some time to record your happy time every day. I don't want you to make a detailed list, you just need to record something specific.
2. Find pleasure in life. Open your heart to the positive things in life, and you can enjoy life best. When you find pleasure in the little things in life, you will appreciate life and know what you want and need. Live in the moment and pay attention to the beautiful things around you. For example, take a walk in nature and look around. Watch the breeze blowing through the treetops, watch the ladybug climb to the top of the leaves, and watch the sun leak from the branches. Paying attention to these little things can make you feel happy.
3. Live your true self and be honest with yourself. Spending time pretending to be someone else or trying to please others will only make you lose yourself and don't know what you really like and want. So be yourself. For example, your friend wants to go dancing with you, but you actually want to go to bed early at night. Do what you think is right, don't wronged yourself for others.
Care about the needs of others, but don't lose yourself.
4. Try meditation. Meditation is a good way to connect your inner strength with your beauty. Meditation can help you get rid of negative thoughts from yourself or others. Find a quiet place and ensure that you won't be disturbed by others for at least 10- 15 minutes.
Take a deep breath, count for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 4 seconds, and then exhale for 4 seconds. Stick your palm on your stomach and feel the air sucked into the abdominal cavity to support your stomach.
Focus on breathing. Once you are distracted, first face up to these thoughts, then get them out of your mind and focus on breathing again.
5. Ask a therapist for help. If your appearance interferes with your daily life or makes you feel pain, you might as well seek the help of a mental health expert. You may encounter deeper problems, such as physical deformity. And this may be the root cause of your self-confidence problem.