Since ancient times, it has been everyone's dream to be eager for success, but those who finally succeed are often those who can stand loneliness and temptation!
? Sit on the bench and eat cold pork. ? This sentence is a famous saying of Fan Wenlan, a famous historian. Being lonely is the best explanation for this sentence. The origin of this sentence has to start from the past. In the past, those who were morally advanced, learned and made great contributions to the country could put their memorial tablets in the Confucius Temple after their death, enjoy special treatment and share the cold pork offered by people with Confucius. Only by studying hard year after year can we stand loneliness and sit still? Bench? In order to get ahead, succeed, and finally enjoy the sacrifice hole? Cold pork? . This? Bench? And then what? Cold pork? Complement each other, only by suffering first can we enjoy the joy of final success. Fan Wenlan, a great historian, is famous at home and abroad because he has been sitting for decades. Bench? , not only works, famous for thousands of years, and finally have to encourage with Confucius saints? Cold pork? Qualification.
In Japan, there are two first-class swordsmen, Musashi Miyamoto and Yagyu Youshoulang. They have a mentoring relationship. Disciples yagyu and Shoulang had this conversation when they learned sword from Musashi Miyamoto:
The apprentice asked:? I want to be an excellent swordsman. How long do I need to study hard?
The master replied:? A lifetime. ?
The apprentice asked:? How long does it take to be your faithful servant? As long as you teach me, I will eat no matter how bitter it is. ?
The master replied:? Ten years. ?
The apprentice asked:? My old father is old, and I will have to take care of him soon. How long will it take if I study harder?
The master replied:? Thirty years. ?
The apprentice asked:? Say ten years for a while and thirty years for a while. Why? I am determined to master fencing in the shortest time. ?
The master replied:? Haste makes waste. That's what people do for quick success and instant benefit. If you have such a mentality, you will need 70 years. ?
As an apprentice, You Shoulang finally realized that he was too impatient, so he settled down to learn from the teacher. The training began, but the master's requirements for the apprentice were unexpected: let him cook, wash clothes and clean up, and forbid him to mention fencing. In this way, three years later, You Shoulang is still doing these seemingly meaningless things, and he is worried about his future.
One day, while the apprentice was not paying attention, Master and wood blade quietly hit him hard in the back. The next day, he attacked while people were unprepared. From then on, disciple Youshoulang must always be on high alert to guard against Master's sudden attack. Day after day, year after year, Youshoulang finally became the best swordsman in Japan.
It can be seen that if you want to achieve something, you can only succeed if you can endure loneliness and practice hard.
Throughout the ages, people who have done great things and achieved great success are lonely at first. Throughout the ages, both at home and abroad, it has been like this: once? Three years without peeking at the garden? Dong Zhongshu, a great scholar in Han Dynasty, shut himself up in his room in order to study, studied hard day and night, and finally became a great scholar. Einstein, a great scientist with an authoritative position in the world physics field, sat in the office of the Swiss Patent Office in Bern for seven years and finally founded the theory of relativity. Cao Xueqin, the author of A Dream of Red Mansions, added and deleted five times before and after, looking back for ten years, leaving a valuable literary legacy to the world. In addition, Chen Jingrun won the laurel in Goldbach's conjecture, Madame Curie discovered radium, the great inventor Edison invented the electric light, and Mendeleev's periodic table of chemical elements was born, all of which proved that most successful people were associated with loneliness.
Desire for success is everyone's dream. No matter where you are, no matter what industry you are engaged in, everyone is making unremitting efforts for their own success. Most people are the same, the only difference is the ability of self-restraint. American psychologist Watt? While doing candy experiments, Miguel also invented a vocabulary: goal-oriented spontaneous delayed gratification. He believes that only by restraining impulses can we achieve our goals, and emphasizes the importance of self-regulation of emotions. Our so-called goals are manifold. Now all kinds of temptations, big and small, know that smoking is harmful to health, but indulge themselves to continue smoking because of the pleasure of smoking; Knowing that playing games will be addictive, but addicted to it; All adults will be seduced by affairs and fame and fortune. If you blindly pursue temporary happiness and short-term satisfaction without considering long-term interests, then you will never succeed. Small temptations or small interests in front of you can give you temporary satisfaction, but it will hinder you from achieving greater success in the future. So, please stand firm and endure the loneliness.
Opportunities in life are different. As long as you can stand loneliness, further change and improve yourself, and when opportunities come, seize them tightly, and you will reach the other side of success. This is also the only way for all successful people to succeed, so it is a quality and a valuable quality to endure loneliness. This quality is not innate, but cultivated through hard training and continuous learning. Enduring loneliness is a precious accumulation, and on the contrary, it is a waste of life. Life will always be full of setbacks, but at the same time, there will be no opportunities. As long as you can stand loneliness, not impetuous, not proud, calm down and treat life and meet challenges, you will succeed!
Being able to endure loneliness is a realm and a manifestation of realizing self-worth. The easiest people to succeed are those who can stand loneliness and resist temptation. Being able to endure loneliness is a kind of self-transcendence in life. Although loneliness is painful, the pain is temporary. Before long, it is the true happiness of life, that is, the happiness of success.
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