We all have shortcomings.
Besides, no one is perfect, and fear is natural.
To sum up, the fear of death has the following characteristics:
1, emotional:
The first is the emotional experience of fear, similar to the psychological phobia attack, which is why the fourth part will recommend the solution of psychotherapy.
2. Reality:
The fear of death fears the fact that mankind as an individual will eventually perish. Based on Freud's analysis of anxiety, I boldly speculate that this realistic fear comes from the conflict between "self" and environment-similar to realistic anxiety, which will be discussed in detail in the second part of The Source of Fear of Death.
3. Repeat:
Once the fear of death appears, it may reappear. According to the analysis of the reasons in the following article, we know that the repetition of this fear is meaningful in a specific period of life.
4. Personality:
The subject of this fear of death must be "I". No matter what the object of fear is at first, the final fear is the death of "me", not the death of others, although imagining the departure of relatives will produce similar fears.
5. Specific time:
The fear of death seems to occur only before going to bed at night, and rarely occurs in normal life during the day. I think we should pay attention to this feature. Therefore, we should define the fear of death here: the fear of death is a deep fear that is generated before going to bed at night and experienced by perceiving that "I" will eventually perish as an individual. Once it occurs, this feeling will recur.
How to deal with fear:
1. Pay attention to your fears and realize your own fears.
When you see your fear, take a deep breath. Is it big or small? Is it far or near? Or do you feel the fear in your neck? Does it want to destroy you? Does it want to help you? Take a deep breath. Keep the answers to these questions open.
3. Pay full attention to fear and concentration. I don't think about what kind of fear it should be, but I wonder what it is. What triggered this fear? How do you feel about its body? what do you think? What do you think you are doing? Do nothing. Look at your fears.
4. Tell yourself something happy. If you think you are crazy, you must say "I can do it".
It is very important that you should be open. Open up new things. Open your fear, the most important thing is: open your heart to yourself! Because when you are open to yourself, you will become more confident. If you become more confident, you will realize your fears more quickly. With this, you will realize that fear is only an illusion, and only you can arouse it in your mind. ......
First, see clearly the meaning of death.
Confucius said, if you don't know life, how can you know death? But how can we live a good life if we don't think about the end of death and our destination?
There are so many ways to live in life, which one is your own? Only by knowing the destination and finiteness can we make good use of our only life.
You and I are both limited lives, which is our basic situation as human beings. Life is limited, but the experience of life and the pursuit of how to live it well are infinite. There are infinite possibilities in finite.
Find the meaning of your life and make yourself satisfied. When you are dying in a hospital bed, it is enough to feel that you are doing well.
Think about whether we will regret when we are dying in a few years, and whether we will be calm, which can be used as a guide to life.
Second, fight against death anxiety by truly living in this moment.
The best way to fight death anxiety is to live in the present. What's the point if you can't really live in the present, even if life is infinite? Enjoy the time with your loved ones and truly experience the feeling of being alive, what live high wants.
It's not a bad thing to eat, drink, have fun, have bitterness, have sweetness, love and hate. After all, in the end, all we have is our own experiences and feelings.
All tangible things can't be taken away If all the things we can see and touch can't help us live a happier and happier life, then what is the meaning of their existence? Seeing the end of life, we will get along better with things instead of getting tired of them.
Third, use the concept of death to get rid of anxiety.
One idea to ease the anxiety of death is that when death comes, I no longer exist. When I exist, death will not come.
Thinking of death means disappearing, thinking that the world is running well, and only when you are gone, you will feel sad when you are alive. But this sadness only exists when you are alive. When you really die, sadness doesn't exist.
When your body slowly decays or becomes a handful of ashes, you no longer exist. You and death cannot exist.
Realize that death is the law of life. Just as all life in nature has its own beginning and end. We come from nature and eventually return to nature. Before we came to this world, we existed in endless darkness, and we will go back there after death. Death is another form of existence.
Death is a process of disappearance, and it is also a process of life from scratch to existence, and then from existence to nothingness. We only lived a short life.
And in this existence, I realized the feeling of being alive. Look at the world, experience the warmth and coldness of the world, and find your own meaning for a limited and accidental life.
Feel your breath and feel the joy of your heart beating.
Life is bound to die, life and death are accompanied, with new words before and dead words after. This is everyone's way of thinking.
When you understand the relationship between life and death, death is inevitable after a hundred years. Every ordinary person, celebrity, star and even great man can't escape, which is the inevitable destination of mankind.
Don't be afraid of death. To live healthily, we should think about how to complete our historical mission, try to be a useful person, and even more, be a person who makes a difference.
Old, sick and dead, this is a normal law. If you try your best to do what you want to do before you die, your life is finished. You will feel that it is not crazy to walk around the world in this life, and it is worthwhile to have no resentment and hatred.
This is my understanding of the concept of life and death. If you understand the concept of life and death, will you still be afraid of death?
First of all, we must know that the problem of "fear of death" is normal. It is also determined by human genes. People must have an instinct to protect themselves, that is, fear of death!
Imagine that if everyone is not afraid of death, they will die if they disagree, die if they are angry, and die if they are unhappy. Anyway, there is nothing to be afraid of. At this rate, I'm afraid human beings no longer exist. So be sure to know that fear of death is normal and there is nothing wrong with it.
But if you are afraid of affecting your daily life, you will lose more than you gain. Humans pass on genes from generation to generation and optimize genes from generation to generation, just like Xin Chen's metabolism. Otherwise, it's very tiring to have children and raise them. Why do humans enjoy it? It's not hereditary. So you feel dead, in fact, the real you have been passed on to the next generation, generation after generation, endless.
Also, the matter that makes you up has existed on the earth for hundreds of millions of years. You will not disappear, but belong to nature, redistributed to the earth and everything in the sky, and then used and absorbed to form new creatures, just like reincarnation.
So there's nothing to be afraid of.
First, we should relax.
Birth, aging, illness and death are natural phenomena, and no one can escape them. Therefore, there is no need to add these unnecessary psychological burdens to yourself!
Life is a one-way trip without a return ticket. In this way, it is better to appreciate the scenery along the way. The ending of life is the same, but the process is very different.
Death is a sensitive word. You are afraid of the dead and greedy for life. However, greed is useless. Thousands of years of history have passed. Who did God spare?
So, learn to let go of your obsession. All love, hate and anger in the world are cages. What Buddhists say is empty, and it may be difficult for us laymen to do it. It is only because we have all kinds of fetters in our hearts that we can slowly get rid of it and look back.
Therefore, in life, we should concentrate on doing all kinds of meaningful things instead of doing such meaningless struggles.
As the saying goes, nothing is difficult in the world.
Psychologists believe that the original driving force to promote human progress is "fear of death", so no matter who, status or family background, there will be fear of death. For example, some rich people will believe in some so-called panacea, which requires millions of blood purification.
So, this is the next suggestion:
First, accepting your "fear of death" first will reduce your fear to some extent, because you have every reason to believe that almost everyone is afraid of death.
Second, when you have this fear, you should be aware of the uncomfortable parts of your body, such as sweating and rapid heartbeat. The process of awareness makes you feel connected with reality.
Third, do you think it's easy to have an accident when you realize your thoughts? Or something fell upstairs ... think about why this "idea" appeared, and then think about the probability of this happening ... You will find that although there are many factors that lead to death, the probability of occurrence is very low. Will this make you feel better?
Fourth, if you have a hobby, invest some time in your hobby. If you can't find anything, such as sports, reading, collaboration, or even games, when you are engaged in something you are interested in, you will experience "flow" (continuous and stable happiness), which will help to digest your fears.
Fifth, if all kinds of self-adjustment methods still fail, you have to seek the help of professionals, such as psychological counselors and psychiatrists. They handle many similar cases every day, and I believe they are more experienced than you to help you.
Finally, I wish you an early exit from the discomfort caused by this fear.
Drink till you are blue all over.
People are born to die, even if they die, it's useless. We all know the truth, but we are still afraid.
Probably one day in my thirties, I suddenly felt that it was rare to be 70 years old. In another 30 years, there may be no me in this world. Suddenly there is a feeling that people spend 50 days in the afternoon, and they are afraid of counting down. Sadly, after a while, I don't know when I forgot about it. Maybe I'm too busy to worry about it. Besides, everyone is like this, so why bother?
Born as a human being, there is no essential difference with other animals and plants. Plants fall in autumn, but life lasts for decades or even centuries. Living for a long time is just a mechanical repetition, so the song ends as soon as it ends, and it ends when it ends. Be content.
Everyone is afraid of death! In the face of death, shivering, difficulty breathing and rapid heartbeat, it is better to be in certain circumstances. Circumstances will force you to be hard even if you are afraid of death.
Everyone has the first time, whether you are the people's police or not, and the first time you face a gangster with a murder weapon, you will be afraid of death! Or if you are a fire fighter, you will be afraid of death when you rush into the burning fire for the first time! Or you are a PLA soldier, and you are afraid of death when you go to the battlefield for the first time! However, the mission is to take a step back, even if you die!
The fear of death cannot be dealt with. The more you experience, the more calm you will be in the face of death!
Everyone is afraid of death,
Everyone will die.
You must have faith in your heart,
Keep yourself busy every day.
Forget everything, don't think, everything is fine!