If mothers look at the significance of illness to their children, they will find that illness (especially a cold and fever) is not necessarily a bad thing. It is a part of the child's growth process and a necessary process to acquire and strengthen immunity.
In addition, if the mother can think more about letting the children exercise and give them more opportunities to exercise, the children will naturally get less sick.
But when the child is sick, the mother often thinks that the child is sick and wants to go to the hospital to see a doctor. The pace of life has been disrupted, children will suffer again, and children will lose two pounds ... During the care period, adults often complain and blame each other because they are too worried, which adds a little extra burden to taking care of children.
On the other hand, if the child is sick, record the child's illness at the first time and understand the child's mental condition. If you have to go to the hospital, then go to the hospital with peace of mind. Family members should do a good job in division of labor, assignment of tasks, psychological construction, and accompany their children with peace of mind. After three to five days, their children will be well and their lives will return to normal.
Who loves himself the most in the world?
Parents, no doubt. There is a good saying, "only the cubs in the mother's belly, no mother in the cub's belly!" " "It means that no matter how many children are capable, they will always be the people that parents care about most. When children grow up, many people don't want to be too close to their parents, but are willing to be with their friends. When they leave happily with a vision to go outside for development, their parents who watch them leave often secretly shed tears, always worrying about what will happen outside after they leave.
Children are still young, which is a sweet burden for parents. The birth of a child brings happiness and warmth to the family, but it also brings considerable pressure to parents. For the sake of children, parents are heartbroken and look forward to their healthy growth. Seeing him all the time can stabilize their hearts. Of course, the biggest worry is that they are afraid of getting sick, even very anxious, worried about this and that. Once you are really sick, you often feel helpless and even want to transfer your child's illness to yourself, so that they can grow up happily.
It's just that this kind of pain really can't be transferred because of maternal love, so what parents should do is to take care of their children at ordinary times to prevent illness and accidents. Of course, don't always worry about getting sick. After all, children's resistance is generally good. Don't worry that the children are not ill, they are depressed. Then if you are sick, you should go to the hospital for treatment in time, observe closely, trust the doctor, and say silently in your heart that you must maintain a good attitude in order to take good care of your children. If you are really worried, you can do something you love to ease your anxiety. Anyway, if you are in a hurry, the child can only seek medical treatment. If you don't worry, the child's body can also be restored. If you are dizzy, you may ignore some changes in your child and delay treatment. So, you must stay awake in your heart. When you are really stressed, you can take care of your children for a short time to reduce the pressure.
I only hope that all children in the world will grow up happily and healthily, and that all parents will be relaxed and happy physically and mentally.
As a mother with a second child, I really feel the same way about the statement that "the second illness of the child is almost half-life", but Ma Lan personally believes that it is not the cold that kills the mother when the child is sick, but the helplessness and mental oppression of the newborn. Although sometimes she disdains the doctor-patient relationship and thinks that the hospital is a just place to save lives, the child is sick, especially when the bed is tight.
Tell me about Malan's own experience: 1) The first child received a critical notice.
When Dabao was born, it happened to be a cold winter and he lived in another place. A few days after vaccination, the child's health is not very optimistic. At first, he just coughed and had a runny nose. As the drug treatment failed, Dabao began to spit bubbles in his mouth. After searching online, he learned that the child might have pneumonia. Dabao's bookkeeping experience is to find clues and go to the hospital quickly. However, because the child was born nearly 30 days ago, it basically refused to use it directly, or the child was too young.
When I was transferred from a rural hospital to a county hospital and then told to transfer to a city hospital, the feeling that there was no place to treat the disease was really about to collapse. Later, I came to a hospital through the introduction of an acquaintance. The doctor made it clear: "If it weren't for the introduction of so-and-so, we really wouldn't accept such a small child."
During the treatment, I also gave several critical notices. Once during infusion, the baby suddenly twitched and his mouth turned purple. I went to the doctor and gave first aid with a sputum suction tube on the spot. Looking back later, I don't know how that moment came. I only remember that I was in a stalemate, and I was really worried at that moment. Fortunately, after treatment, I finally recovered slowly.
2) The second child was oppressed by the bedless nerve again.
With Dabao's illness experience, it is reasonable to say that Bauer can take care of it a little, but the sentence that one child takes care of the books and two children take care of the pigs is completely invalid in this matter. Although I lived at home not far from the hospital at that time, it was inevitable that the newborn was difficult to be hospitalized soon after birth, especially when the child was born in winter with high incidence of colds, and Bao Xiao with low immunity was naturally not spared. Bao Xiao was born for more than 30 days because of pneumonia for a long time. At that time, there were no beds in county hospitals.
I thought I could rest assured that I could occupy one of the crowded beds, but after more than a week of treatment, it still didn't work. Bao Xiao's sputum test report came out. The final diagnosis was staphylococcus aureus infection, and the transfer process began in the absence of targeted drugs in the hospital. However, transfer is not that simple. Beds are crowded everywhere in winter, what's more, few hospitals are willing to pick up children who are only thirty or forty days old.
Between the running of many municipal hospitals, the answer given by each hospital is: the beds are full.
When all the beds in the hospitals were full, I went to the last hospital and knelt down to ask the nurse. Nurses also called the pediatric inpatient department floor by floor to ask about the beds, but each floor was probably too busy to be emotionally rejected. Finally, I remembered my cousin who worked in a strange place. After contact, my cousin asked many questions and arranged to be hospitalized in the last hospital where pleading failed.
After admission, I found that two of the four beds in the same ward were empty. Although children were admitted one after another, the corridor was not as full as the clinic said. After admission, check the treatment again. During the inspection, I saw Bao Xiao being pricked by various needles. I cried hard and pressed hard. At that moment, my heart ached beyond words. ......
In the medical experience of two children, Malan thinks that it is not the cold that defeats the mother, but the "difficulty in hospitalization" of the newborn. It is said that one child is raised by books and the second child by pigs. This sentence is simple, but it is really difficult to practice, especially when the child is sick. No matter the first child or the second child, they all have the same heartache and helplessness. Every time I see my child undergo various tests,
Finally, the child is ill, what should parents do? Is there any way to help him ease his illness and adjust his mentality? Ma Lan believes that professional things should be left to professionals, especially when taking children to the hospital, and they should cooperate with doctors. I remember the time when Dabao was ill. As a new mother, I felt that my child would "collapse" when the doctor slapped me on the back. There was more doubt and worry between words, and the doctor became impatient. After witnessing Dabao's first aid, I had no choice but to trust the doctor. After all, there is nothing we can do about the child's illness.
Ok, about "the child is sick again and the mother is half dead." Is it that the child's cold ruined the mother? " This is the end of the question and answer. So, what are the different stories about this problem? Welcome to share the discussion in the comments section!
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I am Malan, focusing on the author's analysis in the field of parenting. I use personal cases and various family education cases to record the moments of parenting feelings. My favorite friends, welcome to pay attention to @ Malan's Parenting Classic, and learn and grow together!
As a mother, I can particularly understand your feelings. But I can feel the anxiety and anxiety in your words. These negative emotions are not good for children and their own health.
My advice to you is:
1. Relax your nervous mood.
If the mother always says that a child with strings will collapse when he is sick, the child will really feel. Such children are often more prone to illness, psychological anxiety, sensitivity and timidity.
2. Read authoritative books on medical medication and master the basic coping methods and manifestations of common diseases.
You can choose authoritative books to introduce the manifestations and countermeasures of common diseases and the elements of daily care. If you master more relevant knowledge, you will know fairly well and will not be confused.
3. Take children to exercise and enhance parent-child interaction.
Children usually need a relaxed environment, especially outdoor sports. Exploring and playing more, releasing nature, taking children to play and exercising will also make children feel anxious.
4. Try to let your lover participate in parenting and distract your anxiety.
Anxious mothers are usually the product of widowed parents. It is very important for the whole family to communicate with their loved ones and increase their understanding of raising children.
The most nervous child is his mother, and I am the overly nervous mother.
Just at the end of last month, Bauer's fever worried me for a week. I am very tired physically and mentally, and I haven't recovered for half a month.
As usual, I put them to bed at 10 on time, but when I went back to touch the child's forehead after taking a shower and washing clothes, the warm body temperature scared me to find a thermometer. I don't know if there are many mothers who like to touch their children before going to bed and in the middle of the night like me. At first, the temperature was only 37.6, with a low fever. I knew tonight was destined to be a sleepless night, but I got up early in the morning and turned 39 directly. I picked up the child and fed him antipyretic and water. I didn't dare to sleep all night, touching the children again and again.
Ask for leave from the company at dawn and take the children to the hospital. Now as long as you have a fever, you must go to the hospital for examination. The test results came out, saying that it was high white blood cells and tonsil inflammation. After returning home, I have a low fever during the day. I've been feeding him water and keeping an eye on his temperature. My fever finally went down in the afternoon, and I was a little relieved.
At this time, my body is very tired, but what really beats me is mental fatigue. I am the only one who is worried about the child's illness. Others should drink and eat. The father of the child went out immediately after receiving a phone call from a friend. When I didn't cook dinner at home, I started cooking, and the child burned again. I broke down, called the father of the child and scolded him. As a result, people came back and had a fight with me. We didn't even eat, the child was ill, and we had to deal with the quarrel.
Therefore, what really destroys the mother is the family's incomprehension when the child is sick.
Children are everything to a mother. Exercise with them more, eat a reasonable diet and eat more fruits and vegetables. Children will have good resistance. Let's go
Know your children, have confidence in your children, children are not that weak.
Then there are some common headaches, brain fever and diarrhea. You need to know a little bit about it and prepare some commonly used medicines at home.
A while ago, our two babies had loose bowels (it was later confirmed that they had eaten unsanitary snacks), and Ma Bao was in the field, anxious to take me to the hospital at once. It's just something wrong with my stomach, and there are no other bad symptoms. I used a light diet and apple hawthorn water for two days, and I was completely fine.
Last time Dabao had a fever at midnight, it was 38 degrees. I used the antipyretic patch first, but it didn't work. It was 38.6 degrees. I fed it to Merrill Lynch and the fever went down in less than an hour. I had a fever again the next morning. I observed that he could eat, sleep and play and his urine was normal, so I fed it to Merrill Lynch again. After the fever has gone down, repeat. I think it's infected. I'll take it to the hospital for blood routine immediately. The doctor said it was caused by throat inflammation and prescribed some medicine. Dabao didn't eat less than usual. I guess the throat inflammation is not too serious, and I'm not so worried. Just take the medicine for two days.
The baby is a nuisance, and it is inevitable to toss and turn when he is sick. When Dabao had a fever, I hardly slept with him. I observed whether the fever had gone down, whether there were other reactions, and whether it would be repeated after the fever had gone down. But don't be crushed.
We should despise difficulties strategically and attach importance to them tactically. It is only our own mentality that defeats us. People are amazing. When the mentality is good, the difficulties are greater. Even if we don't sleep for one or two nights in a row, we are just tired and our hearts will not be too tired.
Tired, are caused by their own mentality.
Children are mother's day. Indeed, a seemingly simple cold can easily break a mother's fragile heart.
The baby has just caught a cold and has a fever for a day and a night. Mom, I didn't take any medicine. It is purely because of the child's persistence.
The baby is also very good, let him drink water without crying or making trouble, but coughing makes him sleep uneasily, so he can only sleep with his mother's arm. Although it is not difficult, it will make us even more sad to see our children suffer. We will reflect on where we didn't take care of our children's fever, cough and runny nose, and we will start thinking about the three-day trip and the people we have contacted. After all, it is still an epidemic period.
It is best to be careful in everything. Looking back on our trip for a week or even ten days and a half months, the most suspicious thing is that the neighbor's child caught a cold and didn't go to kindergarten. We have been contacting him recently, which is the biggest hidden danger.
The better a child has a cold, the easier it is to infect others. It seems that we should be more careful in the future.
Every time a child is sick, it really makes me a mother feel very distressed. I can't help him when he looks uncomfortable. I'd rather be sick than feel sick. It's the epidemic now. Every time he has a fever, I can't sleep all night. I have to observe his condition at any time, take his temperature and take his temperature.
Therefore, the child's health is more important than anything else, and it is nothing to be a mother.
When a child is sick, he is most worried about his mother, most sad about his mother, most anxious about his mother, and most distressed about his mother. It is also his mother who wants to replace his children, because his mother always puts children first.
I remember that when my family Dabao was sick at the age of six months, he took medicine for several days, and finally he had no choice but to be hospitalized. Inpatient treatment required infusion, because Dabao was too young at that time, and the infusion needle could only be stuck on his head. The child's blood vessels are thin, the needle is not easy to prick, and Dabao cries and does not cooperate. The nurse who couldn't give him an injection called two nurses. A nurse is responsible for holding Dabao's head to prevent it from shaking back and forth. One nurse is responsible for pressing Dabao's hand, one nurse is responsible for pressing Dabao's leg, and the last nurse is responsible for injection. Dabao cried even more when he was restricted by a few people. I listened to Dabao's crying while holding up Dabao's leg, and my heart was particularly uncomfortable. I can't help crying. I feel that holding Dabao's leg for a few minutes is like a long century, and my heart is particularly tormented.
When the nurse finished needling, I found that I was in tears and couldn't help joking. "Give the baby a needle and make my mother cry." I smiled and said nothing, knowing that the nurse meant well, because we knew this nurse and had a good relationship. I just want to make a joke and let me relax. After that, Dabao's treatment went very smoothly, and my mood relaxed a lot. This is the first time that Dabao has been ill since I became a mother.
It's not easy to be a mother, especially when the baby is sick, but as a mother, we should think rationally and treat the baby's illness correctly. Mom should understand that the baby needs her comfort and protection more when she is sick. So when the baby is sick, what should the mother do to take care of herself and the baby? Personally summed up some experiences, which can be written for Ma Bao's reference.
Take the baby to the doctor as soon as possible and find that the baby is sick. The first thing a mother should do is to take her baby to see a doctor as soon as possible, to confirm the cause of the baby and give her timely treatment.
Clean up your mood and accompany your baby with your heart. Some treasure moms are particularly anxious and worried when they find their baby sick. They don't eat or drink and concentrate on taking care of the baby. In fact, did Ma Bao ever think that her anxiety would infect her baby, making her more uneasy and insecure? At this time, Ma Bao should understand that only when he is well can the baby be well, so Ma Bao must tidy up his mood and accompany the baby in the best state, so that the baby will feel safe and get well soon.
Pay attention to let the baby drink more boiled water and have a light diet. When the baby is sick and uncomfortable, the mother must pay attention to let the baby drink more boiled water, which can improve the baby's immunity. When the baby is sick, the digestive system is relatively weak. At this time, the mother must pay attention to the baby's diet and prepare more digestible food for the baby.