1, keep sharing desire.
Put down your cell phone before going to bed and have a good talk. Whether you share each other's thoughts, feelings, what you saw and heard in a fragile and stressful day, or even just see a strange tree on the road, this feeling of revealing everything from the inside out and always thinking about each other is the key to a long-term happiness of a relationship.
Note: But many couples go home at night, one sitting in the living room and the other sitting in the bedroom, each playing with his mobile phone and not talking. They are still close, but they are no longer close. Sharing desire is an important criterion to test intimacy. To what extent are two people willing to share with each other? What did you share? Do you still know this person around you? Does he still know you?
2. Hug each other every day.
Scientific research shows that the hug between husband and wife is more important than X. Hugging can stimulate the emotional center and feel love and care when hugging the other half. A hug does not consume physical strength, but also enhances intimacy. When hugging, the human body secretes oxytocin, which makes people feel relaxed and happy, and can also resist aging.
3. Life is fresher.
According to the previous lifestyle, the happiness index of couples is the lowest. The key to maintaining love for a long time lies in the mobility between lovers, especially trying new activities, contacting new environments and new hobbies. Freshness = small surprise+sense of ceremony+playing cards out of common sense.
1 little surprise. For example, bring a little dessert that Ta likes on the way home.
2 sense of ceremony. The first cup of milk tea in autumn, 99 roses on wedding anniversary and birthday wishes at zero.
3 don't play cards according to common sense. Give your partner a nickname (xu teacher), or exchange roles. Don't be embarrassed. It's like opening a blind box Both of them will wait to get to know each other better.
4. Know how to show weakness.
The essence of weakness is actually an advanced "emotional value". This kind of emotional value can make the other person feel "needed and appreciated", and the weakness requires you to learn to express your needs. For example, "honey, I worked all day today. I'm so tired." I really want to hug you and charge you. " "My dear, you'd better help me to see how to deal with this matter. You are the best! "
Only when the other person can feel needed by you can ta have a sense of existence in this relationship. You must remember that if he can't find a sense of existence at home, he will go out and look for it. Ta feels needed by you, and the relationship has been long.
5. Praise each other from the heart.
Many people will think that "the more I praise the other half, the more he floats." In fact, the real praise is not to praise him to the sky, but to praise him at home. Remember this formula of praise: specific events and behaviors+praise of advantages+your own feelings.
For example, if he gives you a gift, you can praise him like this: "Husband, the red number you gave me today is so beautiful, your eyes are so beautiful, you like it." I love you more today ~ "
6. Do housework together.
The more couples participate in housework, the better their feelings, the more appropriate the division of housework and the higher their emotional concentration. On the contrary, a man who acts as the shopkeeper of cutting at home must have a bad relationship between husband and wife. Two people doing housework together is an emotional baptism and a process of deep communication. And if a man really loves a woman, he will take the initiative to share housework.
Key points: For men, the risk of death can be reduced to 765,438+0% by doing heavy housework (mopping the floor, cleaning windows, washing cars, maintaining furniture, taking care of children, etc.) every week. ), and both sides have a sense of participation in working hard and running the same home with heart. Men and women are not tired from work, but also contribute to each other's physical and mental health.