So sometimes adults are embarrassed to talk about sex education with their children, but they leave some bad guys an opportunity.
According to 20 18 statistics, there are more than 300 cases of child sexual abuse, with more than 750 victims, and this is only the exposed figure. How many cases are still unknown?
There is a good saying: bad people don't dislike young victims. Therefore, the importance of sex education is becoming more and more prominent. Here, I recommend a very good book to parents: Analysis of 4 1 Common Sex Education Problems that Affect Children's Life.
Is the author of this book Hu Jiawei? Protect peas? Founder, 8 years experience in adolescent sex education, 6 years teaching experience in children's sex education, member of the professional committee of adolescent sex health education in china sexology association.
This book selects the most common 4 1 sex education problems of children aged 0- 10. These questions are raised by parents and are very representative. This book gives a reasonable answer. This book is worth reading by every parent.
0-3 years old is the first golden period of sex education.
Why is 0-3 years old the first golden period of sex education? In fact, sex education contains many things, besides physiological knowledge, it also includes people's ideas, gender awareness and so on.
During the child's 0-3 years old, the child already has gender awareness. At this time, the child may not speak fluently, and the professional concepts explained by parents may not be understood by the child. But at this time, the parenting style of parents and family members is particularly important.
For example, have you prepared a plane and a car for your boy and a doll for your girl?
Another example: Do you buy pink and red clothes for girls? What is the sky blue of a baby boy?
Pink girls and sky-blue boys are actually a stereotype. However, the fact is that sometimes girls are not born to like pink and dolls, but are guided in the process of raising them.
When children grow up, they will gradually be influenced by social concepts and form their own stereotypes. At this time, the guidance of parents is a very important part of sex education.
In the book Raising Girls, the author gives good advice that girls can climb high and low, climb trees and play with mud. As long as children like it, don't tell them that girls are not good at math, so don't use gender to limit children's preferences and ability development.
Secondly, do any parents like to send their children's private photos to a circle of friends for everyone to see? On the Internet, a foreign girl posted a video against her parents' practices, thinking that her parents' uploading videos and photos violated their privacy and disrespected their personality just for a few praises. Therefore, whether parents respect children's privacy is also one of the contents of sex education.
Respect children's privacy, including closing the door to bathe their children and helping them go to the toilet. These behaviors subtly tell children that some parts of the body belong to private parts and others can't see them. Even parents should keep a certain distance at a certain age.
Sex education for 0-3 years old is not reasonable, but parenting style. Equality and respect for these parenting behaviors will subtly affect children's ideas and future behaviors.
In addition, 0-3 years old is the stage when children constantly explore the senses and organs of the body. Children's exploration of the world begins with their understanding and application of body organs.
Therefore, some children may touch their genitals around the age of 2, and some parents will strictly prohibit it when they see it. But only children are exploring their own bodies. Children may touch and pull. This is a stage for children to know their own bodies. Parents can wash their children's hands and guide them to treat their bodies gently. When this stage is over, children will naturally shift their interest to new things. Parents should not worry too much.
2.4-6 years old should take the initiative to talk about sex and love with children.
Many parents think it is too early to discuss sexual topics with children who have not yet reached puberty. Moreover, the physiological development of the reproductive system of children aged 0-6 is very slow. However, with the improvement of children's language expression ability and the deepening of their understanding of the world, coupled with the popularity of electronic products, the main sexual development of children aged 4-6 is psychological development.
Many parents will be asked a question by their children: How did I get here?
Some parents don't know how to answer, and they will make up some stories, such as picking them up from the trash can or sending them over the phone. Some children think that it will affect the establishment of a sense of security and will look for it? Really? Some parents, while some children are not satisfied with their parents' answers, will search for answers from the Internet themselves.
Either way, the best answer is an objective description of the child, such as the encounter between sperm and eggs and the problem of fertilized eggs. Children usually stop asking questions when they get this answer. If the child asks the question of how sperm and eggs meet, parents can describe it in simple language and then say to the child: this is something that adults can do. Children are immature and will hurt themselves. When you meet someone you like when you grow up, you can only do so if others agree.
Even parents can use the metaphor of chickens, ducklings and plants to tell their children that this is a very common behavior in nature. Life is hard-won, so we should cherish life and cherish our own.
In this way, sex education can also become a kind of life education.
The advantage of this is that children know that sex is normal, but children can't touch it. Under the guidance of parents, children not only understand the process, but also know what respect and love are, know the preciousness of life and know the first step of self-protection.
In addition, during this period, some parents will encounter some embarrassing problems, such as parent-child bath, children can't sleep without touching their mothers' breasts, and their daughters stick to their fathers. This book gives a good answer.
3.7- 10 years old, talking to children about some embarrassing topics.
When children grow up slowly and develop physically and physiologically, some children encounter such problems, that is, the threat of precocious puberty and sexual assault. Therefore, in this period, parents should do some necessary education and guidance for their children in view of these two problems.
The first is precocious puberty. Because of many factors, such as some snacks containing hormones, obesity and other incentives, some children will encounter precocious puberty at the age of 7- 10. In fact, precocious puberty can be divided into true precocious puberty, false precocious puberty and partial precocious puberty. Precocious puberty will affect height and mental health, so on the one hand, parents should observe their children's growth, go to the hospital for intervention and treatment in time when encountering problems, and give necessary psychological counseling.
On the issue of sexual assault, children have been able to accept a lot of knowledge and concepts during this period, and parents should popularize the knowledge of preventing sexual assault with their children. The most important thing is to tell children to remind the infringer and tell their parents to stop when they are deceived. In addition, parents should observe their children more to see if there is any problem with their behavior and find relevant problems in time.
Of course, when we educate our children about sex, we can't just say some negative information to prevent them from having it? Bad sex? This idea in turn affects the later marriage life.
According to the data of juvenile sexual assault cases exposed in 20 18, there were 3 17 cases and 750 children were victims. Of course, this is just an exposed figure, and many children are afraid to call the police. They really endure physical and mental pain.
Therefore, after becoming a parent, the heart has always been on the child, and in all education, life education ranks first, and sex education is an indispensable part of life education. We can't let our parents' education be absent and be caught by bad movies on the internet and telephone poles? Painless abortion? Not advertising.
Therefore, sex education is very important, and every parent should pay attention to it and read relevant books carefully, such as this important book? Sex? Affect a child's life: 4 1 Analysis of common sex education problems.
This book explains 4 1 common sex education problems, which is very grounded and scientific, and highly recommended ~
I am a teacher and the mother of a 2-year-old baby. On the way to education, I am willing to grow up with you, welcome to pay attention ~