Su Mou, female, from Anhui; The student did well in all aspects after entering the school, and did not attract much attention from the class teacher. The SCL-90 scale of freshmen's mental health test shows more than 300, among which somatization, obsessive-compulsive disorder, interpersonal sensitivity, depression, anxiety, terror and paranoia are all high. Through the conversation, the student was very resistant to psychological counseling at first, but he shared it with me calmly. It is understood that the student was separated from his parents a few months after birth and lived with his grandparents since childhood. His parents don't often go home, and communication with his mother is often interrupted. He has little communication with his father. He has a sister who is six years younger than himself. My sister has lived with her parents since childhood, and her relationship with her is very strange. When I was a sophomore, I chose to commit suicide because of my love problem, my parents' strong opposition and my grandparents' silence. I thought about it before I entered school, but I didn't put it into practice. At present, I have a good relationship with my roommates at school and often hang out on weekends. The situation is basically stable.
Second, the case analysis
Studies at home and abroad show that parents' educational methods have an important influence on their children's mental health and personality development. To some extent, their educational methods are a collection of emotional atmosphere expressed by their attitudes and behaviors, and a good family education background is of great benefit to people's life development. Those children who grow up in a monotonous and harsh environment are more likely to be hindered in their psychological development and their potential is more inhibited.
From the root analysis, the psychological problems of college students are bad psychological qualities. When encountering practical problems, some symptoms will affect their healthy mentality, that is, they cannot have enough psychological endurance to cope with psychological crisis. Therefore, the psychological status of college students can be traced back to the track of their growth. The role of family education will not be weakened because they leave their parents at university or reach the age of adulthood. The influence of family education on college students may be positive or negative, so we should fully realize the great influence of family education on college students' mental health.
1. The influence of early education on college students' mental health
In the above cases, students were separated from their parents since childhood and lacked parental care during their growth. To some extent, their psychological growth is incomplete. In psychological theory, there is a term called "fatherless love deficiency". Because the father is away from home for a long time and pays little attention to the child, it will affect the comprehensiveness of the child's personality development. Different from delicate maternal love, fathers tend to be more rational, and their logical thinking and emotional stability are higher than those of mothers. Therefore, children who lack fatherly love are more likely to escape. Su had little communication with his father since childhood. To some extent, his father is a stranger to her. When it comes to her father, she has little emotional ups and downs. But for children, since the mother has a memory, she is not allowed to restrict the child's life verbally, so Su feels extremely insecure. When it comes to whether he will miss his mother, his mouth stubbornly says no, but it is full of tears. Therefore, Sue's heart is contradictory. She longs for and fears attention, feels insecure and longs for being loved, but she is afraid of being loved, resists intimacy, dares not express her feelings and overprotects herself. Over time, blx is pessimistic about life.
Teacher Ren of Shenyang University made statistics in The Influence of Family Education on College Students' Mental Health and Countermeasures. The results show that the dependents are parents before the age of 6, and their total score and all other factors shown in SCL-90 are lower than those of parents and foster families before the age of 6, so the children raised by parents before the age of 6 have the best mental health. However, Sue has been raised by her grandparents since she was 6 years old. His early family education has an important influence on his psychology, so his children's mental health is greatly affected, and the data of his SCL-90 scale is not optimistic.
2. The influence of parental rearing patterns on college students' mental health.
Because he was separated from his parents and lived with his grandparents, his grandparents took the place of his parents to some extent. Since childhood, Sue has been very dependent on his grandparents. When she had a disagreement with her parents, Sue wanted to ask her grandparents for help at the first time, and then for some things, the decision was still in the hands of her parents, and her grandparents could not help him. In this case, family quarrels frequently occur. Su, whose psychological endurance is too low, chose suicide to end his life. Fortunately, he failed. Afterwards, his mother helped him find a psychiatrist, but the child refused. However, his mother was also hit by this incident. She began to try to find the reason from herself and asked the psychological counselor around her to give her advice. She gradually began to learn to listen to the children's voices, stop demanding, learn to make up for the lack of maternal love in previous years, and gradually the children began to accept their mothers and share their life at school with their mothers, sharing their joys and sorrows.
Ren's survey also shows that parents' parenting styles also have an impact on their psychology. Basically, parents' education for their children can be divided into four types: strict, democratic, laissez-faire and doting. In the aspect of father's parenting style, the total score of democratic parenting style is the lowest, which shows that democratic parenting style is the best for college students' mental health, which is consistent with Su's behavior in the above cases.
Thirdly, the educational suggestions based on the above analysis.
Communication refers to getting to know each other through conversation or other means. Family education is the starting point of human education and the foundation of all education. Therefore, in family education, whether parents and children can communicate smoothly plays a very important role in the formation of children's personality and the establishment of interpersonal relationships.
(1) Change the concept of family education: cultivate the consciousness of equality and respect.
Influenced by traditional culture, parents, as the head of the family, are often in a condescending state and always look at their children's actions from the perspective of an adult. Children with more ideas are often forced to live according to their own wishes and are not good at listening and communicating. Over time, children have lost the courage and ability to communicate with their parents, and it is difficult to grasp when they can accurately express their thoughts. After entering the university, I don't want to communicate with others, forming a withdrawn character. Therefore, parents should communicate with their children in an equal manner, learn to listen, be good at guiding, and set a correct example for their children with their own experiences. Fortunately, after Sue attempted suicide, his mother realized her problems and turned to a psychologist to help her solve them. She tries to communicate with her children in an equal way, respects their thoughts and wishes, and learns to listen. In fact, most children and their parents have a generation gap, a gap and a rebellious mentality, so they will reject and resist. Therefore, parents should have Ming Rui's insight into children, find ways that children are willing to accept to communicate and solve problems, and be smart parents.
(2) Create a stable tutor environment: build a warm and harmonious family structure.
Warm family environment directly affects students' mental health. In the family environment, parents should follow the ideas and thoughts of governing the country by virtue, managing the family diligently and smoothly, and improve the harmony of the family. It is precisely because Sue didn't grow up in such an environment that his psychological shadow is even greater. First of all, parents should give their children a complete home, and the hard work should be balanced with taking care of their children. The psychological pressure of left-behind children is becoming more and more obvious in society, and the lack of family companionship is the main reason. Secondly, every family member's words and deeds should conform to his own image. When children are psychologically deviated, they should give full play to their father's rational thinking and their mother's delicate thoughts, so that children can feel the love and care of their parents. Bandura's learning theory holds that learning is a process of observation and imitation, that is, copying the behavior of example to oneself, summing up experience from it and forming one's own behavior style. For children, his thinking is very plastic. Strong imitation, parents' meeting is the main goal of children's imitation, and children will sum up their unique ideology and living habits from their parents' daily life to measure their moral norms.
(3) Strengthen the linkage mechanism between home and school: smooth communication channels.
For schools, it is necessary to give full play to the leading role of counselors, psychological counselors and class teachers in the linkage mechanism between college students' mental health educators and schools, strengthen communication between home and school, and guide parents to correctly treat their supervision obligations and participation responsibilities in mental health education. Colleges and universities should make full use of their rich mental health education resources, provide parents with opportunities for theoretical contact and training, integrate parents' strength into college students' mental health education, and record with the help of family files of students at home, especially children included in the psychological consultation and early warning database, so as to form a joint force between home and school. For parents, it is necessary to cooperate with the school teachers to do psychological counseling, explain the problems that children have, try to find reasons from themselves and around them, help children face problems as soon as possible, find suitable solutions, and keep the channels of information exchange with teachers open.
The importance of family to students' mental health needs extensive attention from the society. The influence of family on students is irreplaceable in any other space. Without fatherly love and maternal love, a child's psychology is incomplete. Only by letting students deeply feel the real warmth and care from family life can their psychology be healthier and their journey of life be smoother. 2 1 century is full of opportunities and challenges for college students, but 2 1 century belongs to youth. Parents should set a benchmark in family education, let their children win at the starting line, form a joint force with the school, learn to educate their children scientifically, do a good job in their mental health education, and let their children become promising young people.